Become all you can become with Sophie
He that won't be counselled, can't be helped
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What is the difference between ‘I am’ and ‘I have been’? They both create yourself… but which is the right you?
I wrote this article almost two years ago, and suddenly it became as current as anything…
It is a great companion piece to my article for today: Continue reading “What is the difference between ‘I am’ and ‘I have been’?”
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The walls of the trench hide what the trench is really about.
I have two students with the same soul correction, both want attention. What they don’t see, what they will have a difficulty seeing is that attention is the wall of the trench… not the cause: an effect. The effect that prevents them from seeing the cause, and prevents them from living a full life.
Let’s look what could be missing? Continue reading “It is hard to see outside of the trench you dug yourself…”
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I participated with Landmark Education in all kinds of positions, participant, coach, trainee, leader. After 26 years I quit.
I quit for the same reason I quit Emotions Anonymous, and ACOA, Adult Children of Alcoholics and Dysfunctional Families.
I quit because they were stuck. Stuck in the ordinary world. Stuck in the ordinary mindset. The participants, the leaders… they never moved out of the deep misery… so they were going back, year after year, “sharing” the same stories with the exact same words, with the exact same emotions they shared the year before. Continue reading “When you go beyond the horizontal plane…”
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Sometimes people get an idea of activating a capacity that is so alien to their culture, it takes a good 5-10 minutes for the history channel, the ancestors backwards, to build.
No one in your ancestry possessed that capacity… so it has been non-existent for you even culturally.
It is so unfamiliar that ego doesn’t even know to protest. It is like a way of being that is totally unfamiliar… you can’t see other than special people, like kung fu fighters, or shaolin monks to demonstrate it. And, of course, Aikido. I have a book, Aikido in everyday life… illustrates how this principle looks in real life… brilliant.
Flexibility is also the capacity to be able to keep your balance even though the world is pushing you hither and thither… Continue reading “More about flexibility… What is it? How you get it?”
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Your worldview is hidden from your view, hidden from your awareness.
And it is, of course. Worldview is how the world IS for you, not how it seems.
If you have a fixed worldview, than all the King’s Horses and All the King’s Men Could Not Put a new worldview for you… unless you are willing to become flexible.
Cognitive flexibility has been more broadly described as the ability to adjust one’s thinking from old situations to new situations as well as the ability to overcome responses or thinking that have become habitual and adapt to new situations. Continue reading “Are you flexible?”
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Should I be funny? Should I be kind to get you to do what is in your self interest?
As a ‘writer’ I struggle with one thing: It is hard to be funny in writing. For me.
I can be funny in conversation, but writing is different: I imagine the echo. And imaginary echo doesn’t echo, does it? lol Continue reading “Do you know what is your self-interest? In action?”
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Most of us have two modes when we think about things:
I remember when it was like that for me. And, to be quite hones, it is still work to dislodge myself and think of the in-between.
Without working TOWARDS something, it is natural to fall into the same old, same old, or good enough is good enough. The rut.
I only have to observe myself for a day to see how fast it sets in, and how automatic that is. Continue reading “Most of us have two modes when we think about things:”
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It seems that the body of a human is a vehicle for two “entities”, the Selfish Gene and the soul.
The Selfish Gene… that is only interested in preserving itself… the genetic material, even if and even while the family, the environment, the world is destroyed. Selfish gene is our physical nature, our lower self, and it is not very smart, has no foresight, none of the higher functions a human supposedly has. It has no interest even in the 160 spiritual capacities: in fact it considers them a nuisance, a hindrance. The Selfish gene is a brute.
The uncorrected soul, the soul you are born with, is the soul with an aberration. It has a behavior or a set of behaviors that are slanted towards ego.
The soul’s counterpart is the ego, not the Selfish Gene. Continue reading “What is a soul correction and why should you care?”
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I just watched the documentary, Minding the Gap. It’s about three boys who bond over skateboarding, and a shared childhood of abuse.
The documentary is made by one of the three boys. 15 years of their lives you get to witness.
You can’t avoid to look at your own life. No escape.
There is so much grief, in everyone, and it is so hard to recover from it. It took me a lifetime… And grief is not just beating, or molestation, it is everything that lands as abuse, not letting you wear what you prefer to wear, not letting you eat what you prefer to eat, not helping you with your homework, belittling every effort you make, forcing you to visit with your father even though you don’t want to, complaining to your child about things that a child can’t handle, the way to abuse is so many, that there is probably not a child who wasn’t abused one way or another.
The Playground has a subtitle: It is never too late to have a happy childhood. Continue reading “I just watched the Oscar nominated documentary”
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Go beyond where you NORMALLY stop… Go to where the sun shines, no matter what the season is
I woke up disgruntled… (=angry, dissatisfied) almost ready to go into devastation (which is my “home page”) but it all changed as I sat down and began to write. What was going to be a rant, became a celebration.
I guess I am not stuck with, neither am invested in, nor am I resisting being someone who rants when I feel beaten, or slighted, or hurt…Most of my students either are invested (i.e. known for) or resist being angry… i.e. stuck with being angry. Continue reading “Go beyond where you NORMALLY stop… Go to where…”
