Are 30 day challenges worth doing? Are 66 days better?

Are 30 day challenges worth doing? Are 66 days better?

Somehow it seems that 30 days are almost enough to establish a habit… even though other reports say: it takes 66 days.

One of my old students who had not participated in anything I offered for 8 years now, decided to join the Validation Challenge.

The discipline of doing something daily and get daily feedback on how that action worked started to create a miracle.

Some people surrender to discipline, some people welcome it as an accountability device, others continue doing what they always do… which is either doing nothing, or doing something that is based on some misunderstanding. Continue reading “Are 30 day challenges worth doing? Are 66 days better?”

Name it and claim it… or how to return to power

Name it and claim it… or how to return to power

Is depression chemical?

I have been depressed about half of my life. Sometimes depression lasted weeks, days, sometimes it lasted years.

There is depression that is caused by some disappointment, tragedy, loss. If I remember correctly, that is called ‘Major Depression’.

The kind of depression I deal with sneaks up on you like a morning fog, and you don’t really notice it until you can’t see past your nose.

It is a sense of hopelessness.

Some people with a depression issue have manic periods, I don’t.

I have periods of less hopelessness, and more hopelessness. Continue reading “Name it and claim it… or how to return to power”

You are like a dog wagged by its tail. The Mind is the tail…

You are like a dog wagged by its tail. The Mind is the tail…

You live as an object in a world of objects… an object with a mind, but nevertheless an object.

Your mind serves one purpose only: to live really like a machine, protecting itself, being self-concerned. Because if you are an object in a world of object, then every other object is a threat to you, physically, or otherwise, so you are always concerned with how you look, that you are right, that you dominate and avoid domination, you win and avoid losing, you justify yourself and invalidate others, and desperately scramble to avoid responsibility for anything and everything.

That is the life of an object living in a world of objects.

Your mind also tells you that you have to, you need to, you want to, you should do all the things that will make you look good and make it in this world of objects.

The problem with this setup, other than that it’s miserable, is that you are not ‘designed’ as an object: you are designed to be a person. But other than in labels, 99.99% of humanity behaves like an object, not as a person.

What is the main difference?

A person is not the dog that is wagged by the tail.

WTF are you talking about, Sophie? Continue reading “You are like a dog wagged by its tail. The Mind is the tail…”

Homo Sapiens is a fixing machine…

Homo Sapiens is a fixing machine…

The underlying meaning that causes this rush to fixing is the idea that things are either right or wrong, good or bad.

A back and white way of thinking.

How prevalent this is? Regardless of social status, net worth, 99.99% of humanity lives on the level of black and white value judgment, and even smart ones, like my two coaches, like Bill Gates, like Warren Buffet, (NOT Charlie Munger, by the way) think, judge, and live that way.

This is the only reason that there are two parties… for the members, one is good, and the other is bad.

So there is no wonder that the world is going out in a hand basket.

Humanity, judging from the DNA was meant to be above black and white thinking, but it isn’t… Continue reading “Homo Sapiens is a fixing machine…”

The level of your fear, anxiety, upset, depends on…

The level of your fear, anxiety, upset, depends on…

The level of your fear, anxiety, upset, and to what degree you get offended depends on…

Also the degree you have to, need to, want to or should do things have things, be things depends on…

also to the degree you feel that other people’s expectations of you are important, should be complied with, measure up to, also depend on…

To the degree you react to your environment, try to be smart, right, agile, win, dominate, avoid domination, or avoid responsibility… to the degree you try to look good… these all depend on…
Continue reading “The level of your fear, anxiety, upset, depends on…”

The evil C-word, or is it C-words?

The evil C-word, or is it C-words?

I’ll talk about 4 words in this article that make you dead man walking…

  1. That original incident…

Little Harriet is going to be 2 years old on the 8th.

I can see her, I can hear her. I am pondering how a little girl with two loving parents will experience something traumatic at age 3 that will, for life, determine her seed level… Looks very unlikely. Continue reading “The evil C-word, or is it C-words?”

Ask a good question, win $50

Ask a good question, win

Ask a good question… on a health topic of your choosing. It’s worth $50 to me.

If it is a good question, I’ll answer it in an audio, and in addition to getting the answer, you will win a $50. Not credit, but real god honest cash.

I leave the topic up to you, with one restriction: it has to be on health.

Good questions are hard to come by.

There is an entire site dedicated to good question… the ones that get a lot of answers are the best questions. Why?

Because the question reflects what people are thinking of, what is interesting to people, not just you. Continue reading “Ask a good question, win $50”

Seeing sideways… looking sideways… visual field

Seeing sideways… looking sideways… visual field

Look sideways… meaning: see things sideways… not only straight ahead.

This is what Future Self suggested to the three entrepreneurial students on the call and later to me. Continue reading “Seeing sideways… looking sideways… visual field”

What do I do when I feel like I don’t measure up to life?

What do I do when I feel like I don’t measure up to life?

Occasionally you need to go back and become a beginner in what you think you already know.

I don’t really know… I only know when I am doing it.

I have, supposedly, got good at tens of things over the decades I have been alive… But my life is showing that good is not good enough.

Maybe in some things I am masterful, but in others I am just good… or somewhat good.

And this is what is going on in my life… and maybe in yours?

So I started with the best motivator: I put a substantial (for me) amount of money on a ‘test’ of getting customers, new customers from Facebook.

The fact that I think of Facebook poorly, the fact that I think Facebook people can’t like me and what I do is immaterial.

I now have invested my money in that, and I’d better earn my money back, or say good bye to it: my opinion doesn’t matter. Continue reading “What do I do when I feel like I don’t measure up to life?”