Become all you can become by raising yourself higher on the Tree of Life

I don’t want to be judged! you cry. But YOU judge everything and everyone…

Why would you think that someone will judge you? Simple… you have already judged yourself.

But why would you? Not everyone judge themselves. I, for example, don’t… or not often at all. I often assess myself, my behavior, my looks, my stuff… but assessment does not carry condemnation in it, and it doesn’t carry praise in it either.

What is the difference between judgment and assessment ¹ ?

The main difference is fixed mindset.

In judgment, the judging person lives as if there were a fixed good or bad, smart or stupid, right or wrong. And then they act as if they were assigned the job of judging…

So a high fixed mindset plus arrogance, superiority, plus high desire/low ambition numbers.

I have found that people with this combination are unable, unwilling, or resistant to do the work of the Playground. Continue reading “I don’t want to be judged! you cry. But YOU judge everything and everyone…”

Generosity, choosing, gratitude MAKE YOU HAPPY

Generosity was one of the distinctions I spent years researching and trying to BE…

It is a tricky way to be, the full meaning of generosity, because almost no one ever is really generous.

We normally equate giving with generosity. Some give stuff, others give praise, some give of themselves.

Most generosity makes the recipient suspicious: what is the ulterior motive? Continue reading “Generosity, choosing, gratitude MAKE YOU HAPPY”

What do you see with? Your eyes? NO. Even though…

Brain Plasticity…

The brain that changes itself is a book I read in 2011… About the brain… the brain that you need to train if you want to become more, better or different.

Why have I been thinking about brain plasticity/neuroplasticity? Continue reading “What do you see with? Your eyes? NO. Even though…”

The price of comfort is weakness, cowardice, putz

Where did this humanity-wide phenomenon of being so weak… living like a putz come from?

Putz: putz
noun
1. a stupid or worthless person.
2. vulgar slang: a limp dick.
verb: putz; engage in inconsequential or unproductive activity.
origin: 1960s: Yiddish, literally ‘penis.’

I meant to share student essays on how self-created rules keep them alienated from themselves, keep them playing safe and dead… not joyful, not accomplished, not living a life worth living.

Then I changed my mind.

I had two calls, where I was training, each, a person to take on a practice to activate the capacity to be with unpleasant, bothersome, disturbing feelings and actions. To be a MAN…

This capacity used to be active in humans… but because of the widespread positive thinking and comfort: society now deems these situations, these feelings, these actions undesirable.
Continue reading “The price of comfort is weakness, cowardice, putz”

Get rid of the memes… all of them are lies…

One of the most important principles in the 67 steps program is to get rid of a ‘truth’ as often as you can.

No one hears that they should do that. No one does it. Why?

The mind says: ‘why should I get rid of a piece of useful knowledge.‘ Continue reading “Get rid of the memes… all of them are lies…”

Boys don’t know how to be boys. They won’t be men

“If you want to emasculate a guy friend, when you’re at a restaurant, ask him everything that he’s going to order, and then when the waitress comes … order for him.” It’s funny because it shouldn’t be that easy to rob a man of his masculinity — but it is.

I am doing good work with the participants of my accountability program. ²

One of the things that have been coming up is this: what did it do to you to be influenced more by your mother than your father?

Don’t be mistaken: man and woman, boy and girl, father and mother are different beings… almost as different as if they were two different species. And it should be.

Now, I admit that our “civilized” world makes the two roles more similar looking, but just like in eating, what works best for you is eating according to your DNA, the same is true about gender behavior. Continue reading “Boys don’t know how to be boys. They won’t be men”

What happens if you are a habitual liar, a con artist?

If you are awake at all, you have noticed that people, both in writing and in actual speak, avoid the word lie.

Even when the word they replace it with means something totally different. They say: I lay down… instead of I lie down.

Why is that?

Because the word lie also means: say untrue things. Continue reading “What happens if you are a habitual liar, a con artist?”

And one of the signs that I am coming back to myself is that I am noticing more.

The role of liking in following guidance, following coaching.

I have a few “clients” that keep on coming back, show up on my webinars, want stuff from me, but when I look: they follow maybe 1% of what they got from me, and the rest: they go to someone else to get guidance from. Continue reading “Liking, a strong cognitive bias… is lying to you…”

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