Can the “Ask and it is given” work for you?

Can the “Ask and it is given” work for you?

Ask and it is givenAsk and it is given… But if that were so easy and simple, there would not be a whole system of thought, Kabbalah, receiving in Hebrew…

You pray and you think you are effectively asking for what you want. You believe that you will get it… but only 1% of the asks are given…

This article is about why only 1% of what you ask for is given, no matter who you ask from. Yourself, someone else, or some deity.

In yesterday’s core group huddle I started to see something that is so hidden and so hideous that even when people see it, they don’t see it.

What is it?

You don’t, you can’t see what you want and why (context)  so what you ask for is vague, fuzzy, and not going to get given. Continue reading “Can the “Ask and it is given” work for you?”

Taking away what doesn’t contribute: the Anna Karenina Principle

Taking away what doesn’t contribute: the Anna Karenina Principle

anna karenina principleHow does change fit into the Anna Karenina Principle, or the principle said in another way: the method of taking away what doesn’t contribute to happiness to make your life better?

Remember: the Anna Karenina Principle says: All happy families are alike; each unhappy family is unhappy in its own way.

The principle implies that the unhappy families have one or more things that make them unhappy, things happy families don’t have… That happiness is simple, while unhappiness is complicated.

In this article I will look at change and how the Anna Karenina principle, of taking away what doesn’t contribute can be done in the context of change. Continue reading “Taking away what doesn’t contribute: the Anna Karenina Principle”

You are the anchor of the world that keeps it fixed.

You are the anchor of the world that keeps it fixed.

you soar reality changeThe world seems to be fixed… We call reality what everyone agrees about… but is it fixed? It turns out that when you soar reality changes with you. I am talking about real change… both you and reality…

It’s Friday. Friday is my day off… which doesn’t mean I won’t write an article. A day off is a feeling. I can do anything I want…

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Procrastination… Do his methods work?

Procrastination… Do his methods work?

Andrew KirbyThis article is about a youtube guru type, who now teaches classes and consults to eliminate procrastination.

I have a special email address I use to sign up to things I don’t really want to be bothered further on. Continue reading “Procrastination… Do his methods work?”

How do you model after a successful person? Emulate him.

How do you model after a successful person? Emulate him.

model after a successful personHow do you model after a successful person? You emulate him. But what can you emulate?

Do you do what they say? Do you do what you see?

They say if you want to become successful, you need to find a mentor and model after him. Emulate him.

I have a very successful teacher who teaches what he does: email marketing.

I am on quite a few people’s mailing list who are also his students.

I watch what they do. I read their emails. And I can see that they model after his email style, they model after his relentless work ethic, some models after his edginess, but none has seen or felt, or taken notice to what degree he cares about his customers. He says he doesn’t, but he does. Deeply. Continue reading “How do you model after a successful person? Emulate him.”

Is ranting gossiping? Is ranting complaining?

Is ranting gossiping? Is ranting complaining?

rantingComplaining implies expressing dissatisfaction about a situation or behavior. Ranting is all about expressing anger by shouting in frustration. And gossiping is talking about a person who isn’t present. So this article, at least the first part is all three. But it is also a teaching opportunity.

Every Tuesday I am on a group coaching call with one of my coaches.

I don’t like him. I say this upfront so I can watch if I have a prejudice… while I am writing about him.

Anyway, I have once written an article that I can’t now find where I say that even if you copy everything visible about a person who is doing better than you, you won’t be like him, and your results probably won’t be like his. Continue reading “Is ranting gossiping? Is ranting complaining?”

Are you habitually depressed? Angry? Lonely? Sick?

Are you habitually depressed? Angry? Lonely? Sick?

habitually depressedDepression can be like pessimism, it can be habitual. Habitually depressed. I know it sounds weird, but there is more of that habitual stuff than you would notice.

You KNOW how it is, you KNOW how you are, and any change in that is only possible if you actually LOOK and see how it is, and how you are.

You may have the thousand mile stare. But you never actually LOOK.

You seem to settle into a life KNOWING, as if living in a created little universe, your own, where everything is known. You know how to live depressed… You may complain, but you don’t even entertain the option of looking from outside to see if you are still depressed.

When you live like this, and I think everyone lives like this! then mostly an outside of you energy is needed to kick you in the hind quarters, so you open your eyes, and gasp. WTF?

Like the just born baby who needs a slap on the behind to even consider breathing. Still sure that they don’t have to…

I think that we need to be slapped on the behind, a lot.
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Is it a good idea to consider our times wartime and yourself the hunted?

Is it a good idea to consider our times wartime and yourself the hunted?

consider our times wartimeIs it a good idea to consider our times wartime?1

I am not sure… but my gut feeling says: Yes. I ask Source, and it says: Yes.

Why would it be a good idea to consider our times wartime?

Let me count the reasons…

1. In wartime people’s good side and people’s dark side come out to the open… past the forces that manage to keep them hidden in peace time.

So in war time it is easier to know who to trust and who not to.

It is also easier to see your own dark side and if you don’t like it do something about it.

If you are a putz… it is easier to say: being a putz will get me killed… let me put my ass in gear… Continue reading “Is it a good idea to consider our times wartime and yourself the hunted?”

Your hate keeps you stuck until you learn

Your hate keeps you stuck until you learn

your hate keeps you stuckYou are going to hate this article, and your hate keeps you stuck.

Focus on what you can control, not what you can’t.

Why? because the truth hurts. And what hurts: you hate. Makes sense, right?

And instead of using it as fuel for yourself to go in the direction you want to go, you’ll use it to spill all your energies on it, you’ll say: she is lying, you’ll say whatever you’ll say, but you’ll fixate on it… instead of taking what I say, and use it to actually get where you want to get to.

How do I know? Because I have been observing thousands of people over the years, and that is what all of them does.

All of them?

I dare to say all… Continue reading “Your hate keeps you stuck until you learn”

Leonardo’s Mona Lisa has 30 layers of paint…

Leonardo’s Mona Lisa has 30 layers of paint…

Masterpiece. None of those paint layers is thicker than a single hair.

Can you imagine the patience and concentration that required? I’m going to propose that you be inspired by his approach as you carry out your big projects in the coming year. I think you will have the potential to create at least one labor of love.

Says Rob Brezsny… He is talking to Libras, but he could be talking to me too… I have, according to Source, have applied already 27 layers of ‘paint’ in creating my masterpiece, developing the technology to turn homo sapiens into human being.

What a perfect fit, I thought… and then I noticed, that the guiding is for Libras… and I am a Virgo… WTF… lol

‘You can’t move mountains by whispering at them,’ says singer-songwriter Pink. Strictly speaking, you can’t move mountains by shouting at them, either. But in a metaphorical sense, Pink is exactly right. Mild-mannered, low-key requests are not likely to precipitate movement in obstacles that resemble solid rock. And that’s my oracle for you in the coming months, Virgo. As you carry out the project of relocating or crumbling a certain mountain, be robust and spirited—and, if necessary, very loud.

Wow, that is a perfect fit too… Continue reading “Leonardo’s Mona Lisa has 30 layers of paint…”