What do you expect? Perfection? Winning? No mistakes?

What do you expect? Perfection? Winning? No mistakes?
What do you expect? Perfection? Winning every time? Never making a mistake?

I caught myself this morning saying something really intelligent. (probably because of the movie I watched last night)

I always learn marketing. So I just participated in a 3-day event… I have three things I want to implement. Three things that I just learned at this event. The event that ended last night.

Of course, most of the things I learned will replace my ineffective marketing actions from before the event.

And there is a moment of reckoning:

I have been doing it all wrong. And I have spent a lot of money advertising the wrong way. I have been doing a lot of work that is now all wasted.

Sinking feeling in the stomach.
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Should you address directly what you want?

Should you address directly what you want?

T Harv Eker talks about the inner game and the outer game. He is the multi-multi-multi-multi-multi-millionaire… as he calls himself, so he teaches money. The secret of the millionaire mind… lol.

Most people who come to my site want more money. And they want to, maybe, change their inner money game, but there is no such thing.

Unfortunately working on what you want to change is an ineffective approach to changing it. Working on a relationship never worked. for example. Continue reading “Should you address directly what you want?”

The curse of being clever… Painting yourself into a corner

The curse of being clever… Painting yourself into a corner

capacity capabilityAs I have said before: I play Freecell, a solitaire, to take me below the visible… all the time.

This morning I did a clever move… a few minutes later I saw that the clever move in fact painted me in a corner.

And that is, surprisingly, true about cleverness. At least if you use the word correctly… a rare phenomenon really… using words correctly. Continue reading “The curse of being clever… Painting yourself into a corner”

Who you are was created… An empath, Kabbalah, the words

Who you are was created… An empath, Kabbalah, the words
Part 1: the empath

If you have to suffer, make it meaningful. It will hurt less

Empaths have a glitch in their brain, I say, that makes that feel not only their own bad emotions, but others’ as well.

I didn’t know I was an empath until the year 2000. I was 53 years old. And I hadn’t known such a thing existed. I thought what I felt was all mine. And I suffered. For a decade or so I was under doctor’s care, often hospitalized.

I had some indicators I can see with 20/20 hindsight, but I still thought nothing of them.

Whenever, wherever I was around or near horny people, I felt what they felt. Horrible, if you ask me. Continue reading “Who you are was created… An empath, Kabbalah, the words”

Can you handle it? Can your spouse handle it?

Can you handle it? Can your spouse handle it?

Whether a person is successful or not can be boiled down to this question… successful people say they can handle it, unsuccessful people say they can’t. And this is where your word (I can/I can’t) will give you everything.

I have read about a man whose doctor told him that he had terminal cancer, and he should go home and take care of his things. The man went home, took care of his things. A week later he died.

Turns out he was healthy. He didn’t have terminal cancer, he didn’t have any cancer, didn’t have any disease. He died because he said: I can’t handle it…
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What is the work, the spiritual work you are asked to do?

What is the work, the spiritual work you are asked to do?

People share one major feeling: a sense a danger, a sense that pain or death is coming. We call it fear.

Depending on how someone handles fear is how humanity can ultimately belong to two groups.

We could also look at anger as a divider, but let’s stick with fear first. Continue reading “What is the work, the spiritual work you are asked to do?”

Three stories about the rock blocking the road

Three stories about the rock blocking the road

I went to architecture school in 1966.

We were told, from the very beginning that we are taught where to find the knowledge, and not knowledge itself.

When you need it: you look it up. Or you know who to ask. Or you know how to figure it out.

I took that to heart.

I didn’t even learn the formulas for calculating the size of building elements… Instead I paid attention to how they came to that calculation so when I need the formula I can re-create it. Continue reading “Three stories about the rock blocking the road”

What creates the warped worldview that keeps you the same?

What creates the warped worldview that keeps you the same?

How you look at today comes from a worldview that you created for yourself at or around 3 year old age.

You can go and learn anything, philosophy, theology, Marxism, and yet, at the root of your worldview, the way you look at everything was created by an upset 3-year old.

At age 3, with very rare exceptions, we are all, when I compare you to an adult, dumb.

Even geniuses, like the little boy who played chess… emotionally, even these young geniuses are little kids… no sign of mature sensibilities. Continue reading “What creates the warped worldview that keeps you the same?”

Does your environment allow you to be yourself?

Does your environment allow you to be yourself?
In life, you have as much room to be as your environment grants you.

Room as in elbow room…

The environment you are in, at home, at work, at the pub, at the club, in the community van…

My brother has a lot of room to be when he is with his friends. Continue reading “Does your environment allow you to be yourself?”

4 principles for a fulfilling, financially rewarding life

4 principles for a fulfilling, financially rewarding life

I look at my dreams as guidance.

Now, you need to know that I almost never dream a whole story… I dream moods. Some situations.

Last night I dreamed about going back to Israel, meeting people I had known, experiencing their attitude towards me. Wasn’t pleasant.

And just before I woke up I was shown the theme I am going to write about. Continue reading “4 principles for a fulfilling, financially rewarding life”