Become all you can become by raising yourself higher on the Tree of Life

Focus on the things you can control… but what can you?

You can only control what belongs to you… Your thoughts, your feelings, your emotions don’t belong to you. Your actions, your attitude, what you actually heed, what you say… they do belong to you.

They are interestingly difficult to see… they are hidden from your view, overcrowded by noise.

We call these here: invisible dynamics. They are tiny machines, their behavior is predictable, manageable, and their effect on your life are detrimental. Continue reading “Focus on the things you can control… but what can you?”

The reason 999,999 out of a million are underachievers

Happy Gilmore is one of my favorite movies.

In it a hockey player, Adam Sandler, has a vision of earning enough money to save his grandmother’s house from foreclosure… in a, to him totally unfamiliar sport: championship golf.

In 50 First Dates he has a vision of creating a relationship with the Drew Barrymore character, who forgets everything when she sleeps… She develops methods to remind her… and they succeed.

When I ask you what is your vision: you have none. Continue reading “The reason 999,999 out of a million are underachievers”

If you can’t beat them… join them… Turn into a high producer…

If you can’t beat them… join them… Or what it takes to turn yourself into a high producer…

Warning: lots of footnotes in this article!

I am Jewish…

Jewish people are not genetically smarter than non-Jews… In fact, no ethnic groups are genetically smarter than others. And yet, certain groups test better both on tests and in life. ¹Depending on the learning culture of different communities, the IQ numbers differ tremendously. But, in my humble opinion, when you take the child out of the environment, and put them into a different environment, their abilities, their IQ will match the new environment standard… so it is not innate, and not genetic.

This is what is meant by: “all men created equal…” genetically. Not smarter than they were when they left the Savannah of Africa, not genetically. No, with regards to capabilities, it is all in the “nurture”, not in “nature”.

This is the results of my thousands of muscletests over the years. Continue reading “If you can’t beat them… join them… Turn into a high producer…”

What’s important to you? Do your actions mirror that?

Just look at your actions. Words are cheap. Only what you do counts, only what you do testifies about what is important to you.

It seems that being right, looking good, avoid domination of anyone or anything, including your own word, hoping, expecting the impossible… etc, etc, has been really important to you.

Where you are is where you are supposed to be, given all your actions.

Do all actions count? Talking, thinking, watching videos?

Only to a certain degree.

One of the people who have inspired me for many years is Werner Erhard, the founder of the est training.

What did he do? Continue reading “What’s important to you? Do your actions mirror that?”

Lack of purpose? lack of meaning? how to find?

One of the things all humans crave is consistency and stability. And, or course, if you live a life outside of a cage, outside of a managed care facility, those are hard to come by.

The only constant in reality is change… constant, maddening change. As soon as you get used to a new thing… the next new thing comes…

And humans don’t adjust well to change, don’t want change, don’t like change.

Don’t do well with change…

One of my students… they may have to move back to California…

I’m flailing with my emotions at the moment and being swept away by the ever changing circumstances of my daily life. I need an anchor. Your input would be great. Thank you.

and another student, not being able to get a job: Continue reading “Lack of purpose? lack of meaning? how to find?”

Coherence: what is it and why you should strive to have it?

Coherence

I just moved my sites to a new, bigger server… made the jump after about eight months of waffling… I waffled because of the money, waffled because of the technical challenge, waffled because I didn’t want to do it…

But on New Year’s Eve I did it, and was bracing what was going to be a lot of work, but more importantly a rare occasion for me to face the tiger: I am not the smartest person on the planet.

Not even close.

I never was… by the way. But since i have repurposed my brain cells to do the inner work for seeing, I feel stupider, if that is even possible, than before. Continue reading “Coherence: what is it and why you should strive to have it?”

How to keep your vibration high at Christmas?

It seems that around this time the world is disappearing into two main fantasy lands, two main unrealities: Christmas, and making cash infusion into their lives.

All of that is horizontal plane, all of that is low vibration, all hurry, all puppets on a string.

All based on the unreality of lack. Scarcity.

Continue reading “How to keep your vibration high at Christmas?”

Reality for dummies… The landscape of the inner reality

Life doesn’t seem to be nice to you. It doesn’t give you what you want, and it gives you a whole lot of what you don’t want.

But there is a science, a system of how to flip that over… and this is what this article is about…

The inner reality…

It’s not when you can talk about it. It is not when you understand. It is when you can actually SEE it happening, this is when consciousness may take over… and lead you to where your inner terrain can become more friendly to you.

You see, reality is hard to see.

Why? Because just like pin tumbler locks, with many pins that need to align, need to be picked, or need you to have the right key, can keep you out of your house, the many filters, the many members of your Team You, will all have a say in what you can see…

Team You is like any democracy: the voice of the stupidest is the loudest… just look at America. Continue reading “Reality for dummies… The landscape of the inner reality”

Why are happy people happy? Have you ever asked?

The biggest differentiator between a successful, happy, balanced, unbroken person, and someone with a life not worth writing home about is their relationship to failures. ²

Yes. Plural.

Wanting only successes is like wanting to walk but never take a step with your left leg… Unnatural and … and why would you want that?

Everything in life has a rhythm, sex, breathing, eating and elimination… everything. Continue reading “Why are happy people happy? Have you ever asked?”

Knowledge is not enough… what’s missing?

Unless it’s accurate knowledge… i.e. true, tested, from an accurate source.
Unless you know what you learned… unless you know what you know… you didn’t learn anything.
And unless what you leaned changes your behavior, inside or outside, nothing will change.

All learning is behavior modification, modifying behavior to become more fit to life, to play the game of life better, for yourself and for the human race.

As a coach, unless I modified your behavior, I didn’t do anything.

So how do you modify behavior?

The process starts with an insight. The more energy is in the insight, the more energy you can or are willing to bring to the insight, the easier it will be to make the modification. Continue reading “Knowledge is not enough… what’s missing?”