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Feelings, emotions… if you could just feel better! How to increase your emotional intelligence?
But they aren’t. And like with everything, on the current level of humanity we have a really hard time holding it together. And a hard time even hoping for a life that is bearable.
But with knowledge can come power. And that is what I am offering in this article. Continue reading “Feelings, emotions… if you could just feel better!”
Nature or nurture is a big question, even though, in the big picture, it won’t matter.
Just the opposite of what you thought, right?
I am a good example for nature being changed: I got smarter than when I started, smarter than my siblings and my parents… through application. High achievers in the world are mostly of this type: born with little or average, worked harder, accomplished more than what they would get if they didn’t grow what they earned.
In my muscletesting the more you were born with the less you think you need to work, the less you want to work on becoming all you can become. Continue reading “Moses made the Israelites wander in the desert for 40 years… that is how long it took to change their mindset”
OK, I am getting emails asking if I am OK… this is what you get when people expect to hear from you every day… You skip a few days and they get worried… lol
Am I OK? I don’t feel OK.
But, of course, nothing is going on in reality… I am still doing work, I still read, eat, walk, talk to people… I just don’t have an article in me. So consider this a chat… not an article.
What happened?
The Playground, the year long process of emptying your past of “wrong” is what happened. lol.
Leading a program authentically, makes you walk with your students. Not ahead them, not behind them, with them. Continue reading “Are you OK?”
The Outcome Is Not Pretty. You Are Trying. You Fail. What’s Going On?Your Troubles Are Repeating Themselves. your life is scripted. different locales, different characters, but it is the same repeating story. You Are Living Out A Script… The Outcome Is Not Pretty. You Are Trying. You Fail. What’s Going On?
I would dare to say, that repeating a script that only brings you trouble, pain, guilt, shame is the opposite of emotional intelligence.
Continue reading “What’s your story? Your Troubles Are Repeating Themselves.”
You can only control what belongs to you… Your thoughts, your feelings, your emotions don’t belong to you. Your actions, your attitude, what you actually heed, what you say… they do belong to you.
They are interestingly difficult to see… they are hidden from your view, overcrowded by noise.
We call these here: invisible dynamics. They are tiny machines, their behavior is predictable, manageable, and their effect on your life are detrimental. Continue reading “Focus on the things you can control… but what can you?”
One area where every student of mine is lacking is communication.
When suddenly they do something that I consider communication, I cry. Tears of joy. One of my recent articles brought a flurry of communication… but it was a ‘fluke’, an accident, a one time event.
What is communication, really?
The dictionary says: conveying information. Bah humbug.
Continue reading “Where every student of mine is lacking is communication.”
I wrote this article in 2014… So the webinar sessions it talks about are now a recorded course… Carrot and Stick.
We’ll have the third webinar in the Carrot and Stick series today. The results are mixed, but I am excited. Because it has made people to show their true colors: good or bad.
M from London, a Filipina writes:
Hello Sophie
I want to share with you that what we did last Wednesday (in the Carrot and Stick webinar) is now having an effect on me. Just saying UNWILLING in my mind has some some effect on my body something like a burst of energy and the feeling of ‘I can’t have this same life any more.’
This morning, I don’t know if this is part of the the plan of the universe for me to feel the disgust on how I behave and live my life by accident, I watched something on the internet that made me question how could I live the way I live…. I cried for hours until I felt I could not cry any more.. I have headache and my eyes hurt. I’ve never cried like this before. I feel so disgusted the way I live my life.
In case you are interested this the video that made me feel disgusted with my behaviour and attitude in my life. she won XFactor Israel. The song she sang inspired me which I will keep on listening at the moment to remind me the feeling of disgust with the way I live my life
Thank you so much Sophie. Stick works for me.
Watch the video below that inspired M… https://youtu.be/_LVV750lZkA
Continue reading “Carrot and Stick: Becoming someone who can”
What do I mean too late? I mean this: The chains of habit are too light to be felt until they are too heavy to be broken
This saying sounds like the god honest truth, doesn’t it? But when I muscletest, it is only 20% true…
Why is the truth value of something universally accepted as truth?
It is true, because it takes effort and intention and commitment to break bad habits. And we, humans, are not very motivated to change any habit, let alone a habit that gets us pleasure… in another name, payoffs. But when people can see, when people can own that they pay with their lives, a lot more people are interested and are willing to make efforts…
The biggest hindrance is the goodies… What goodies? you ask. Continue reading “Is it too late for you? Is it too late for you to change?”
Freedom versus Liberty, those who thrive, survivors, or those fallen by the waysideWhen I ask people what they want, many say they want freedom. When we poke into it: they want a sense of freedom, but think the way to get to freedom is through liberty… Let me explain.
Just like with all words we use, here is huge confusion, a collapse of two distinctions: freedom and liberty. They are not connected. They don’t even overlap!
Continue reading “What is Freedom? What is Liberty? What is the difference?”
Can you learn how to have peace of mind, productive, and maybe even happy from Colin Wilson and from the book The Mind Parasites?Colin Wilson died a few years ago. He left a legacy of of many many books, some of them I have read. His vibration was 200, and yet the book can leave you a lot more empowered than Colin Wilson ever was…
This article is about that… how to be empowered by that book, the idea that there are parasites, mind parasites that have their own agenda in your brain. Continue reading “What can you learn from The Mind Parasites?”
