Category: attitudes

Seeing the big picture… a uniquely Human Being capacity

seeing-the-bigger-picture1Why is it so difficult to see the big picture?

Seeing the big picture has three dimensions, maybe four.

  1. seeing wide: Instead of locking onto a detail, you see the environment inside which the detail is. This is possible the moment you ALLOW what is to be.
  2. seeing from high: Most things unfold over time, much like traveling on a windy river… you don’t know what is coming beyond the bend, if it is friend or foe.This is one of the problems in making things happen: it is near impossible to be prepared for eventualities you can’t predict.
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Conditioned patterns can be stubborn

1598273_1510684609157486_186667503_nI am re-learning to walk. It’s slow going, but muscletest said it would work, so I am practicing.

This morning I got this encouraging email

Hello, It’s Jonathan, just checking in to see how things are proceeding with your new ways of being.

Do you think it looks funny?

Does standing up feel like you’re leaning forward?
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Are you a match to life? If not: Allowing is missing.

Are you a match to life? If not: Allowing is missing.

whatever you don't allow is what will continueIt’s even obvious to you that allowing is missing… But how do you activate the capacity of allowing, and then how do you make the capacity a working skill?

Allowing is what’s between you and serenity. I don’t mean happiness, because happiness has its roller coaster nature: happiness has unhappiness as its shadow. You can only get happiness if you are willing to have unhappiness.

Allowing is letting it be. And although you may feel the urge to change it, fix it, kill it, hide it, hide from it, allowing is authentically allowing something to be, and gain your own beingness.

Without allowing you have no access to beingness.

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What is the capacity that is like a linchpin… if you have it you can enter the kingdom

allowing - the linchpinI am a lot like you, except not always. I am forceful with the best of them, except I am not always forceful. I can be limp and resigned, like you, except that I am not always limp and resigned.

I have mastered to a large degree the capacity “allowing.”

One of the readers says in a comment: I have been practicing dropping the pen, and yet I find no change in my attitude towards anger that I don’t want.

Dropping is forceful. Surrendering is forceful. Changing is forceful.
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The ‘you can do anything’ myth is a source of your anxiety

The ‘you can do anything’ myth is a source of your anxiety
toda;y is the day when I finally do the impossibleThe anxiety attacks you experience

There are two types of anxiety attacks, as far as I can see:

  1. Dark Side attack. It is an energy that is broadcasted from up North. It is “in the air” and it only waits for you to notice.Then your reaction to it makes it more real, and also last longer than the energy duration would make it justifiable.I have written about this a lot.
  2. Your unrealistic expectations of yourself
If I wanted to design a system for unhappiness

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How to beat the “I don’t know what to do…” and “I don’t know how…”

A combination of enthusiasm with a lack of experience meant that Steve was always leaping to contusions.I have ten unfinished articles on my desktop. It doesn’t feel I have enough to say in any of them to make them a real article.

This one is starting out the same way, to become an unfinished article. I don’t know what to say. I don’t know how to make it a good article.

The base of this article an insight I had just now, five minutes ago.

The situation was: I have been screwing up everything I touched today. Watch my language, by the way.

So, I told myself: “Don’t be a jumping jack. Look before you leap.”

I closed my eyes, and I heard the little voice say: “I don’t know what to look at!” Whiny tone, imagine a 3 year old saying it.
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Positive belief myths

positive beliefsIt is in the unsaid, it is the obvious that doesn’t need to be said, that dominant beliefs that keep us poor, miserable and sick are beliefs that are negative, about ourselves, or about money.

In my work with people, especially pulling the “therefore” of the dominant belief, and pulling the anchor to their doom, I find that about 50% of people have a dominant belief that is a “positive” belief.

Men have it more than women, by my experience.
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Are you willing to become a prosperous “neighborhood”?

Are you willing to become a prosperous “neighborhood”?

baby steps to become all you can beI republished an article, that is as important as anything you’ll ever learn, if you wanted to live a life of an expanding human being…

Response when I first published it: no echo. Response this time: no echo. Nobody heard it. Nobody saw it. Nobody was interested.
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The article is pinpointing the reason why you have what you have, and do not have what you want to have.

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Updated: The attitudes of Poverty vs. Affluence…

Updated: The attitudes of Poverty vs. Affluence…

2013-Manifesto1This article slipped by a lot of people. And today where I keep talking about the small actions that cause and then cement your epigenetic shift, this article is more important than it was a year ago when I first wrote it. Onto the article…

… in Neal Stephenson’s novel ‘Reamde’ he remarks that affluent parts of all cities are similar, but poor parts of cities are miserable in their own way.

What causes success, and what causes failure? Or we could say, what causes affluence, and what perpetuates poverty?

It’s habits. It’s the thing you do (or not do), day in and day out. The things you take care of and the things you don’t.

But if you look, a habit you see are only the tip of the iceberg… maintaining it, keeping it permanently, unchangeably in place.
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