The religion you live that keeps you in your mind and dumb

This article is the beginning of an inquiry. An inquiry into how and why humanity evolved backwards. How humanity has lost the capacity and interest in using their brain for constructive thought, reasoning, questioning, inquiry. Continue reading “The religion you live that keeps you in your mind and dumb”

The age of your emotions, the age of your behavior, the age of your attitude

Human-Embryo-DevelopmentWe, humans, go through most of our evolutionary processes in the womb, but even after we are born, unlike animals, we are still in the process of becoming human… some of us will grow as high as human being. Not many.

Most of us get stuck at the attitudes, the behavior, the emotions of a young age, and continue behaving on that level of evolution… not very powerful.

In addition of it being annoying to others, and cause you not to fit in, it is as if you had a huge toolbox in your shed, but would never grow tall enough to open the door to get to the toolbox.

Some of us manage to grow out of the “young” stages, but when there is a trigger, we readily jump back and be the baby again.

Today I had this conversation with two people on two sides of this phenomenon.
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6 Hobbies – Science Says – Will Make You Smarter

I am re-publishing this article from Entrepreneur.com.

Although some of the article is hogwash, these are good hobbies to cultivate to increase your use of your capacities. Just like Mr. Miyagi didn’t go and teach karate through karate, these hobbies train specific muscles, specific abilities that are going to be put to good use in a money earning activity later. You can’t effectively learn them then. It is too late to dig a well when you are thirsty.

We are all born with way more capacities than we can use in a lifetime. What makes them capacities that serve us is using them, cultivating them.

You won’t get more capacities this way, but you’ll get a lot happier and a lot better at living life to its fullest.

At the end of the article, I have added one hobby of my own… if you want to be well, physically and emotionally, I recommend that very much.

Here is a list of six hobbies that make you smarter and why.

Play a musical instrument.

Playing music helps with creativity, analytical skills, language, math, fine motor skills and more. While these are all great advantages, some people argue that playing team sports might do as many things. What playing musical instruments does that other activities don’t is strengthen the corpus callosum that links the hemispheres of the brain by creating new connections.

An improved corpus callosum helps with executive skills, memory, problem solving and overall brain function, regardless of how old you are.

Read anything.

The benefits of reading are the same whether you are enjoying Game of Thrones, Harry Potter or the latest issue of the Wall Street Journal. Reading reduces stress, which makes you feel better about yourself, and increases all three types of intelligence — crystallised, fluid and emotional. That helps with problem solving, putting different pieces of knowledge together to better navigate everyday life, detecting patterns, understanding processes and accurately interpreting and responding to other people’s feelings.

At work, this translates into better understanding how to make things happen and better managerial skills.

Exercise regularly.

Occasional exercise alone doesn’t do the trick. Regular exercise is much more effective than hard work-outs every now and then. When exercising regularly the cells are flooded with BDNF, a protein that helps with memory, learning, focus, concentration and understanding. This is also often referred to as mental acuity. It’s missing for most of you…

Some scientists speculate that sitting down for prolonged periods of time has the opposite affect and actually hinders our brain from working as well as it could.

Learn a new language

Forget solving puzzles to improve your memory and learn a foreign language instead. Research has shown that people who are bilingual are better at solving puzzles than people who speak only one language. Successfully learning new languages enables your brain to better perform any mentally demanding tasks. This includes the typical executive skills such as planning and problem-solving.

Additionally, speaking at least two languages positively affects your skill to monitor your environment and to better direct your attention to processes. Many people are told that because executives speak languages, they should learn Spanish or French if they want to move up the ranks. Based on how the brain reacts to learning languages, it might be the other way around. Learning another language might be the last missing link people need to get their brain ready to take on C-level jobs.

Test your cumulative learning.

Many intelligent students in high school and college “cram” for finals and seem to have mastered the topic the day of the big test. The trouble with that is we tend to forget these things quickly because we are rarely, if ever, required to repeat that knowledge in that same way. One reason studying a new language makes us smarter is because it requires cumulative learning. Because we need them over and over again, the grammar and vocabulary we learn is repeated countless times as we improve our foreign language skills.

Apply the concept of cumulative learning to every day life and your work place by keeping track of noteworthy bits of knowledge you acquire. Go through takeaways from recent books, observations during an important negotiation, or keep a small journal with anything that strikes your attention. Start integrating cumulative learning into your self-improvement program.

Work out your brain.

Sudoku, puzzles, riddles, board games, video games, card games, and similar activities increase neuroplasticity. This encompasses a wide variety of changes in neural pathways and synapses that is basically the ability of the brain to reorganize itself. When nerve cells respond in new ways, that increases neuroplasticity, which allows us more ability to see things from different points-of-view and understand cause and effect of behaviors and emotions. We become aware of new patterns and our cognitive abilities are improved.

Considering that neuroplasticity is involved in impairments such as tinnitus, an increased amount can help prevent certain conditions. For instance, people with high neuroplasticity are less prone to anxiety and depression while learning faster and memorizing more.

Meditate.

Take a basic cooking class.

I find that too many of my students don’t cook. But that means you subsist on salads, and restaurant food. Given that my number one recommendation is to stop eating grains, preferably completely, you will need to be able to cook side dishes to go with your protein… or you’ll continue eating bread, chips, all the things that got you dull, dumb, lazy, hazy, and sick. So, please take on cooking, cooking simple dishes. You don’t need to be a chef… just a simple bachelor-type cook, someone who can sautee, boil, stir-fry… Make sure you start with onions, how to chop, how to fry… and then garlic, and then vegetables. If you do it wrong, you won’t eat it. The purpose is to learn a new skill… meditative too.

Now, get busy. Get smarter, and get better. Put some life into your years.

How come humanity hasn’t evolved the past 50 thousand years?

child-dog-kid-photografy-125142How come that humanity hasn’t evolved the past 50 thousand years? What is, what has been preventing it from naturally evolving, from going to the next stage of evolution where freedom, joy, is normal like breathing.

My personal vote goes for the lazy mind. The mind phenomenon that supposes that everything is already known, and all you have to do is find the person who knows the answer.

That you don’t need to think, research, compare, look at the big picture, all you have to do is accept the “truth” from whoever is offering it.
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Winners don’t fight what is: they use it.

Your chances are like this tiny sea turtle hatchling... not bigThe ones who fight are broken.

You fight? you’re broken

To all the people that had their anchor-to-doom attachment pulled, I recommended that they start using the Unconditional Love Activator. Why?

Because the capacity of allowing need to be first practiced between you and you. Between you and your actions. Between you and your feelings, thoughts, and urges.

Without first allowing what is, you will ALWAYS be ineffective, bruised, and beaten.

I have learned this the hard way. I am a very forceful person by nature, and that is a horrible thing for a coach. Forcefulness create resistance in the other person, and instead of smooth transition to desirable actions, I trigger fighting, belligerence, and ultimately failure.
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Conditioned patterns can be stubborn

1598273_1510684609157486_186667503_nI am re-learning to walk. It’s slow going, but muscletest said it would work, so I am practicing.

This morning I got this encouraging email

Hello, It’s Jonathan, just checking in to see how things are proceeding with your new ways of being.

Do you think it looks funny?

Does standing up feel like you’re leaning forward?
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What to do with what you don’t want, don’t agree with?

lying to yourself is not allowing yourself to be who you areDo you get hooked? People pushing your buttons?

Ultimately, every time you encounter something you don’t want, don’t like, don’t agree with, your first reaction is resistance, i.e. not allowing what you don’t like to be. Continue reading “What to do with what you don’t want, don’t agree with?”

Are you a match to life? If not: Allowing is missing.

whatever you don't allow is what will continueIt’s even obvious to you that allowing is missing… But how do you activate the capacity of allowing, and then how do you make the capacity a working skill?

Allowing is what’s between you and serenity. I don’t mean happiness, because happiness has its roller coaster nature: happiness has unhappiness as its shadow. You can only get happiness if you are willing to have unhappiness.

Allowing is letting it be. And although you may feel the urge to change it, fix it, kill it, hide it, hide from it, allowing is authentically allowing something to be, and gain your own beingness.

Without allowing you have no access to beingness.

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If you keep forgetting what you are up to… or if you keep procrastinating

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The fear of losing sight of what you want…

You know what you want. And you want to march to it now. But of course the world doesn’t work that way, you need to sleep, eat, go to the bathroom, job, family…

Then opportunities knock. For some, opportunities for fun and companionship. For others, adventure, business, learning.

They say: don’t take your eyes off the ball… That turns out to be another myth that takes away your power to reach your goal, to get what you want.

Nothing can be reached by a straight line, except the refrigerator, the TV and your bed. Oh, and facebook and youtube… Even my site…

So how does this really work?
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When you realize that YOU are wasting your life… Updated

where are you leaking? how do you waste your life? How do YOU waste your life? How do YOU leak?

A student of mine watched a movie last night. In the movie she heard the following dialogue:

“Thank you for saving my life” “Don’t waste it.”

She cried. Later her husband was picking a fight with her. She stepped back 1 and didn’t react.

An hour later the husband came downstairs. She offered him tea. He apologized for his behavior.

Why am I sharing this with you? Because one way or another we are all wasting our life, or most of it.

The most useful question I have found to snap me out of this wasteful way of being is:

What is using my perfectly good life right now?

Here are some examples. All are life-wasters that you can eliminate by bringing consciousness to life… stopping for a moment, and choose…. Helping you with that are, of course, the the activators.

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