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More on joy, and how I am learning to have joy in my life

My first foray, my first venture into joy or joyous is trying to figure out what joy is. After all we don’t know necessarily what words mean when it comes to feelings… do we. We, children, watch and learn… but in a world where what you see is a mask, what you see does not represent a feeling accurately, because the person isn’t feeling it, because the person is faking it, the looks don’t help.

My hunch is that joy is fabricated with the intention to cause craving for it, to cause an acute sense of the lack of it.

Actually, when I watch people who enjoy something, they don’t smile. Smile is for the outside, social grease. They are deeply connected to something… The pictures of people enjoying something are fake… no enjoyment. I know, I feel what they feel… no joy. Joy interrupted.

Joy is inner, smile is outer. NOT joy.

Joy is a feeling that says something is enjoyed, and, surprisingly, it makes you want to expand…

So, as you see, my first access to joy is the word: enjoy.

You enjoy something, or you don’t. (Enjoy: take delight or pleasure in an activity or occasion).

When you don’t: it doesn’t mean it is NOT enjoyable, it means that YOU don’t take the time to enjoy it.

It happens to me with food, with travel, with music.
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The cruise ship that got caught in the storm

Sometimes I know what I want to talk to you about, and yet I don’t quite know what to say, I don’t quite know how to say it.

One such thing is your relationship to money.

I have been watching people and their spending habits for 30 years.

Either myself, or my clients have always made a living when you, people, considered your (discretionary?) income sufficiently secure to spend it.

In the middle of the month, when most credit card bills are due: no one spends any money, except a rare individual.

It wouldn’t be an issue if this were the same across the world, but it isn’t.

People in other countries are not living from credit card bill to credit card bill.

So, I didn’t know how to address this, what to teach, what exactly to say. Then I saw this video clip of this cruise ship caught in a storm…
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Yet another lie that renders you ineffective and stunt your growth…

Yet another lie that renders you ineffective and stunt ¹ your growth…

Our minds are filled with truisms, memes, quotes, that are actually lies.

The lies are carefully designed. Designed by Dark, Evil People… who benefit from you being sheep.

If you believe them, you’ll do their bidding… you’ll make them money, you’ll put them in power.

There are a lot of lies, but in this article I am only concerned with the lies that prevent you from growing, evolving, and thus make you miserable.

This article will specifically show the lies that stunt your growth as a human…
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Falling in step, intelligence, tough choices

Falling in step

I just finished a Talk-to-me call. It’s a call available for people on my mailing list, where they can ask any questions and get answers, coaching, whatever they need. The call was a breakthrough for me, in a lot of ways.

First off, I distinguished for myself, for the second time, that unless I fall in step with the person I coach, they can’t get what I am saying as contribution and cannot act on it.

Falling in step with music is obviously fun. Falling in step with a drum circle is fun. But falling in step with another person is a challenge. But unless you do, discord is the result.

So what does it take to fall in step with another person in a conversation? Whether it is a co-worker, a parent, a child, a spouse, a friend, if you learn to fall in step with them, you’ll experience influence, intimacy, closeness… all the things that are missing in most relationships.
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The secret of saying no

This is from the Monday Morning Memo:

Years ago, when Henry Kissinger was one of the most admired men in America, my friend Ronnie mistakenly dove into the shallow end of a hotel pool late one night and scraped his scalp pretty badly. Holding his hand over it, he staggered into that little room where they keep the ice machine. The man who turned to see who had walked in was Henry Kissinger.
“Mr. Kissinger,” exclaimed Ronnie, “you’re one of three people I’ve always dreamed of asking for advice.”
“No,” said Kissinger.
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The cycles of energy: the will to live and its cycles

Sinatra described himself as ‘an 18 karat manic-depressive’, and claimed he had ‘lived a life of violent emotional contradictions’. “I have an over-acute capacity for sadness as well as elation,” he added, hinting at one of the classic symptoms of bipolar disorder.

As I have said in other articles before, we have several cycles going on in our lives.

What I didn’t say about the cycles is this: earliest incidents of disappointment, pain, abuse, loss may create them. The length of the cycle is fixed, and it is correlated to the age when the incident happened. Continue reading “The cycles of energy: the will to live and its cycles”

The path to beauty, goodness, and truth is through…

The path to beauty, goodness, and truth is through the ugly, the bad, maybe even the horrible, not around them

We all bow to a deity, the god of respectability. Looking good, being well thought of, getting respect.

Even animals pretend, just watch your cat… their survival depends on looking good to you… so they pretend…

To be authentic

…to have no need to pretend, being willing to be seen, warts an all, is more human, it is in the direction of the evolution of the species.

While you give your life to respectability, your life sours, your dreams die, you stop knowing who you are, where you are, what YOU want, what YOU want to do with your life. You don’t know who you are.

Very unpleasant and troubling feeling.

Most are stuck there, but some (you?) yearn to know and live in harmony with who they are… love themselves, but how do you go about it?

Bad news: you can only get to your true self, to your inner beauty, your inner goodness, your inner truth through wading through the ugly, the nasty, and the mountain of lies about you.
Good news: What you need to wade through is only a certain amount of ugly… 30, 50, 70? Depends on you and how much you sold out on respectability, status, on looking good.

There is a finite amount of ugly, though it is still a small army…

…that unless you can face it, without running from it, without judging it, without trying to unsee it, it is going to stay and multiply. and keep you in the world of pretense, where who you are is not who you pretend to be.

Now, I know it is a mouthful, but

ultimately that is the work. Seeing all the ugly about yourself. And make peace with it.

The help I can give, is to give you pointers, give you beacons so you will see the ugly by their light. And, of course, the Unconditional Love Activator, will make it a lot easier…

One such beacon is when you feel an urge to explain or justify.

If you stop for a moment and look behind that urge to justify your actions, you’ll see ugly. You’ll see that either you don’t trust yourself, or you don’t trust the other person to like you after you did what you believe is the right thing while you knew it wasn’t.

Don’t just stop explaining or justifying… no value there. Look. See the ugly in you. Own it.

The ego is the part of you that wants to stay the same. It wants you to resist looking because if you saw it, you’d want to change.

The ego is the part of you that you’ve been quietly and secretly in cahoots with… but, unfortunately, it is also the ego that could give you strength to accomplish.

But you limit what the ego can do for you by having more and more to hide, more and more falsehood to prove every day.

You look at every program with suspicion. Will this want me to change? Will this want me to look at what I have been hiding?

You say you want to change, you say you want a great life, but you are lying.

You can’t have the rose without the thorns, you can’t have night without day… Life has a certain order to it, but you want, with all your might, to go around it.

You want respect without giving respect, you want love without giving love, you want something for nothing, you want beauty without the ugly.

You invent religions, you invent gods, afterlife, karma, just to avoid having to face the truth about you.

You rearrange the furniture, do feng shui, invite a shaman in your home to get rid of evil spirit… but you go back, and there it is again: evil spirit. In you… The ugly that you have been hiding.

Everyone has ugliness inside, by the way. It is not just you.

Beacon #2:

You can see the ugly in others that means you are good or at least better. Nice. High minded.

Exactly the opposite is true.

All the nasty stuff you see in others is something you recognize because you have it.

They hold up a mirror for you to see it. But you run, but you hide, but you blame, smear, get angry.

You miss the lesson.

I am not saying it’s pleasant. But it is possible to bring a sober eye to the things you see and say: Hm… I see that. Hm, that’s ugly. or nasty. However you express yourself. Sober. Matter of fact. Flat.

To the degree you can own the ugliness, to the same degree it loses its hold on you.

Whatever you allow to be, allows you to be.

Beacon 3: Apologizing

Husband cheated on you? Notice the nastiness that comes up… it is choking you. Notice that you want to be nice… then the nastiness comes out… and you apologize.

Don’t apologize. Actually have it a goal to never have a reason to apologize.

If it comes out… then instead of pushing it back, and feeling shame, fear, rejoice. You got a chance to see the poison you carry around. And own it as yours.

Sit down and watch it simmer. Accept it for what it is. Embrace it. Do NOT justify, do NOT explain, just allow.

The longer you can watch it the less power it will have… Half done work (looking away, justifying) will bite your ass.

The beautiful you is behind the ugliness… it is not next to it, not in front of it, it is behind it.

As long as you have the ugly, all beautiful is a pretense… ugh, that hurts, right?

Now get to work. And let me know if and when you are ready for the Playground. Or Reclaim. Or both…

Oh, and don’t forget to stock up on the Unconditional Love Activator. You’ll need it.

Are your actions effective? Constructive? And if not, why?

This may be the most important article for you to read… Don’t complain that I didn’t warn you!

One of the things mainstream (all the gurus) get wrong is this: they consider you a constant in opportunities. Constant as in fixed… As if you were the same when you are afraid, and when you are confident…

You are not constant until you are on the vibrational level of above 900. How do I know? Because I can see the difference in me and in my ability to act constructively, even though I am above 900. Continue reading “Are your actions effective? Constructive? And if not, why?”

Review: Natalie Ledwell and Mind-Movies: does it work?

Review: Natalie Ledwell and Mind-Movies: does it work? is it worth buying it?

Update June 15: Unless you recognize the inner voices that want to keep you and your life the same, every program, including the Mind Movies will fail you… Because you and what YOU want will be beaten to the punch by the inner voices.

The practice that will allow the Mind Movies to work, The Amish Horse Training Method is something you want to consider BEFORE you spend your time, money, and dreams on the Mind Movies… Continue reading “Review: Natalie Ledwell and Mind-Movies: does it work?”

Does “not that bad” have you by the balls?

More than half of my site’s visitor come to download the codes by Grabovoi, for free. Grabovoi’s numbers are the type of miracles that people hope for, angels, spirits, gods… ²

I have contemplated that maybe I should remove those articles, and maybe I should.

Why? Why would I want to remove a post that brings in so many visitors?

I tell you why! Because people who are interested in those numbers, are not my people. They want miracles, angel dust, prayer, magicians, shamans, or some other form of “please do it for me” magic.

Of all the people that searched for the Grabovoi codes, I am aware of one person who stayed and became a star student of mine… One out of hundreds of thousands.

But what if the people who search for the Grabovoi codes need my help?

What about the people who don’t feel well, who are bloated, or can’t get enough rest in the night, tired, sluggish, listless, depressed, not enough pep or not enough energy to enjoy life?
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