Become all you can become by raising yourself higher on the Tree of Life

Why you feel how you feel and what can you do about it?

Most people live in a constant “this is not right… this is not where I am supposed to be, this is not how I am supposed to be, this is not what I am supposed to do” jerky place.

It seems inevitable, it feels bad, and all of it is based on delusions, pretenses, and lies.

Obviously you can’t see your delusions. That is your “reality”.

But… if you don’t feel good, if you don’t see clear, if you don’t have a 360 degree view of the world in most issues… they you can be sure you have delusions.
and… if you don’t go for growth, learning, profound well-being, fulfillment, expertise… they you can be sure your life and actions are based on delusions.

Delusion is a “cognitive bias”… you think something is as simple as X, while it is a lot more complicated than that… but you can’t see beyond X. So you don’t see what is, you only see the X.
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Why are you not ready to take on a project?

Given that I am recommending the 12-week Mastery program, I am keeping my finger on the “pulse” and watching the videos of the 4-video series…

Two reasons:

I am watching for flaws… either in the program or in you… so I can warn you against spending your money… again… on something that won’t make a difference.
I am watching to see if I should do the program myself…

I have just got a glimpse of a flaw that most everyone I know has… including myself… at least in some areas. Continue reading “Why are you not ready to take on a project?”

Your ignorance in health matters… even if you are an MD

No advice, no course, no program can give you everything…

… including my health consultation… unless…

What is this unless, that has been showing up in articles, for the past few days?

Unless you have a basic and accurate understanding of life, of health, or physics, of chemistry, of biology, of spirituality, no program is going to do much for you.

This is the main reason most programs have only a 1-10% results rate… Not because the programs a bad, but because the participants don’t know much of anything.

And I am talking about you.

Even if you are a reader… you don’t understand what you read, unless you have a basic foundation to understand what you are reading, to build a coherent whole with the new information, to make it become knowledge.

Even the best of my students are lacking in that area…
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Are you good enough to achieve your goals?

I suddenly got a glimpse why people are resisting doing my 67 steps coaching.

It came from Step 19 of the 67 steps… where you are asked to budget lots of money to just read… Read anything… Any good book.

And the resistance of people is tremendous. Because… this is what I wrote to a student of mine (whose yet unattainable goal is to make money) in my coaching:

I think admitting that you need to raise your foundation, from which you attempt to make money is difficult, because it is like a summary judgment on YOU…
“do you mean I am not good enough to make money the way I am”
Yes, that may be the truth… Yes, that is what I am saying.
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The biggest reason you are stuck on a plateau or in a ditch

Regardless of what you do, how you do it, how good or bad your life is… you are always stuck…

Stuck in some deep bad place, or stuck on a plateau… stuck is stuck.

So learning what keeps you stuck and how to unstuck yourself, at will, is one of the most important things you can do… and the sooner the better. Because being stuck is not fun.

Cognitive biases, those knee jerk reaction tiny pieces of automatic responses, are at the root of your misery.
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How do you see yourself? how accurate is your self-image?

The inner view and the outer view of who you are are vastly different. Your chances for success, love, happiness depend on the accuracy of your self-image.

Do you know that people see you differently than you see yourself? And both you and other people see you differently than you actually are.

You may see yourself worse or better or just plain different than you really are… and so do others.

Your life would work better if the two views were closer. You’d have less surprises, less upsets, less fragmentation in your life…

Your actions depend on your self-image combined with your world-image. Altering either, will alter your actions. Bringing both closer to reality will make you a winner.
Want to stop procrastination? This is the work you need to do…

But why and how are the two pictures different, and what can you do about bringing them closer so you can start living the good life?
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How to live a meaningful life, find & live your life’s work

Humans are meaning making machines… and are unconscious of the fact that all meaning comes from them.

We want to know what something means, so we can be prepared for the danger or the good fortune that the meaning carries inside it.

But, alas, life is empty and meaningless… intrinsically.

No meaning.

And yet. Meaningful is something we crave… We crave the certainty, we crave the guidance meaningful would give us. Continue reading “How to live a meaningful life, find & live your life’s work”

I looked what is more important to me than life itself…

Why do I write? Who do I write for? What is important to me? These are the questions that are occupying my thoughts…

I just finished reading 1984, Orwell’s novel. I am not an American, so I never even heard about it until about 1984… In Hungary it is not a recommended reading. Continue reading “I looked what is more important to me than life itself…”

Knowledge is power… but not all knowledge

People want to become the person they are in their dreams…

They are not that way… obviously.

Becoming that person is like being a Michelangelo at the stone quarry looking at a block of marble and seeing if the sculpture they see with their mind’s eye fits it.

If it doesn’t fit, you need a bigger block of marble.

But no matter how big a block you choose, it will take two kinds of work to get to the David of your imagination: the work of awareness and the work of chiseling.

Chiseling is the easy part… honestly. I bet you thought that was the hard part. Continue reading “Knowledge is power… but not all knowledge”

Force your thinking brain to work or else

I had an insight into how our education system fosters only first brain thinking and how to force the thinking brain to work…

I am reading a book, Stumbling on happiness… so far it’s excellent, funny, witty, and very enlightening. ¹

I am learning that the difference between animals and humans is their capacity to plan, their capacity to do computations for a future, imagine a future, their capacity for “if… then” statements: (If I do this, then that happens…), i.e. foresight and preparation for the future.

The part of the brain that does that is the frontal cortex. People with frontal cortex lobotomy cannot plan, and don’t have anxiety. Because anxiety always deals with the future… albeit in a very primitive way.

Now, unless you had lobotomy, or a frontal cortex injury, you have the capacity of a human, for thinking.

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Regardless of what you do, how you do it, how good or bad your life is… you are always stuck…

The inner view and the outer view of who you are are vastly different. Your chances for success, love, happiness depend on the accuracy of your self-image.

Your actions depend on your self-image combined with your world-image. Altering either, will alter your actions. Bringing both closer to reality will make you a winner. Want to stop procrastination? This is the work you need to do…

Your actions depend on your self-image combined with your world-image. Altering either, will alter your actions. Bringing both closer to reality will make you a winner.
Want to stop procrastination? This is the work you need to do…