Become all you can become by raising yourself higher on the Tree of Life

Too many choices leave you high and dry. Confused and stuck

Clarity is power… Unclarity traps you. Makes you stuck.

I have lived in three countries.

I was pretty in the first country. And I was normal in the second. And I have been mostly exotic and ugly in the third.

Because what you are most used to, what is like what you saw as a child is what is pleasing to you. Even though philosophers have defined beauty through and through… and yet.

Why am I writing about this now? Continue reading “Too many choices leave you high and dry. Confused and stuck”

How to have your cake and eat it too? The secret skill

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I am an avid reader. Of novels. Of fiction.

What you don’t know, and I didn’t know it until I did, is that

…unless I care about the main character, unless I care how things turn out for them, I don’t want to read the book.

It is at best boring, at worst it’s drudgery.

I hadn’t realized the importance of liking until just recently. Continue reading “How to have your cake and eat it too? The secret skill”

16 ways you render yourself unlikable, and poor

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16 Reasons Why People Don’t Like You

What can it be that causes you to be less popular than most?

Why do you miss out on invitations and frequently feel like a Billy-No-Mates?

Or do you feel that your career is suffering because you’re alienating superiors and co-workers alike?

Let’s take a look at some possible factors. Continue reading “16 ways you render yourself unlikable, and poor”

Word-cages… The means of keeping you powerless

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I woke up at 3 am today. Shall I get up? I asked myself. Yes…. said something…

And then I asked, what part of me that wants me to get up.

My body, my intellect,

My psychology…

What is Psychology? Feeling science… right?

I want to be proud of myself. Continue reading “Word-cages… The means of keeping you powerless”

You don’t like me? Want only positive guidance?

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I am reading many books, many articles.

They all say that my life could be better, would be better if I just looked at the bright side of things.

But that… looking at only the bright side of things, actually leads to a boring, inauthentic life.

What makes good good is the contrast… No bad? Not looking at it? there suddenly isn’t good either… only boring, dull, dead. And you can’t sleep… Continue reading “You don’t like me? Want only positive guidance?”

If it sounds too good to be true, it probably is.

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When it comes to making buying decisions, what do I pay attention to?

I pay attention to how many different problems a product is trying to solve… claims to solve…

Because they are trying too hard.

Now, most things, most problems, admittedly, cannot be solved with one skill, one tool, one push of effort. You need a set of tools, a set of skills, and efforts invested in the right amount and in the right order.

But… tell me, can you tell a first grader to fix the leaky toilet, or to cook a three course meal?

You wouldn’t dare… Continue reading “If it sounds too good to be true, it probably is.”

The Third Kind of Depression to beat: simple but not easy

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This article, unintentionally, has two parts. They are loosely connected. One part is about hitting bottom, the second part is about getting out of the judgment, getting out of the systemic value paradigm where you have no future.

Depression Is A Sign That You Are Unwilling To Hit Bottom.

Continue reading “The Third Kind of Depression to beat: simple but not easy”

By nature, men are nearly alike ~ Confucius

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By nature, men are nearly alike; by practice/culture, they get to be wide apart. ~ Confucius

or by another great Chinese philosopher, Mengzi:

…if the people ‘are full of food, have warm clothes, and live in comfort but are without instruction, then they come close to being animals‘

Can you, do you ever contemplate what is the measure you could change? Change so you can be a high achiever, a high earner, a popular person, or even just healthier? Continue reading “By nature, men are nearly alike ~ Confucius”

Who, what is responsible for your health or the lack of it?

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A few comments and observations that have arisen from my offer to muscletest your health measurements for free.

If you think that past sins can be erased: you are probably mistaken about that.

Injuries, inner or outer, may leave you permanent disfigurement.

Pockmarks on your skin due to you not leaving your pimples alone is one example. The inner pockmarks due to indiscriminate eating are another. Continue reading “Who, what is responsible for your health or the lack of it?”

Til you yank the roots of your misery, you can’t get better

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It’s like a root canal…

Until you yank the roots of your misery, you can’t get better.

Imagine that your tooth is your life. You don’t want to yank your life. that would mean dying. But you can yank the root, the part that makes it hurt…

Or you can self-medicate.

Take drugs,
Drink
Sex
numb yourself…
get religious. it will divert your attention from your life

All self-medications are harmful, because they cement the notion that how it is is wrong. Continue reading “Til you yank the roots of your misery, you can’t get better”