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He that won't be counselled, can't be helped
Society is a rule-system designed to perpetuate itself and only itself. It considered outsiders, differents an enemy and most of society’s activity, is hunting down and destroying everyone who is different.
Society is self-regulating: it feeds the members that comply, and denies sustenance to those that don’t comply, that don’t fit it.
Continue reading “Control Life Or Dance With Life? Fit in or be happy?”
Restoring Coherence. Harness and redirect the energy instead of allowing it to diminish you
Not everything you feel is an emotion.
There are emotions and then there are the effects of emotions. But…
Continue reading “Restoring Coherence. Harness and redirect the energy”
Keep your wits about you… or what it takes to become a human being instead of a monkey with a big brain
One of the amazing things I learned from The Jungle Book is that humans are really just monkeys, if we look at their behavior. Lots of chatter, no aim, short attention span, have no ability or even need to think independently…
Very interesting findings. Once you put your attention on a behavior, capacity, characteristic, you start to see what it does for you… or conversely, what the lack of it does for you.
The capacity I am now observing is attention. 1There is a fundamental difference between learning ABOUT attention and TRAINING your attention. I saw that there are courses on Khan Academy about attention, just like we have done the coursera course, learning to learn. Both are about… not the doing of it. Continue reading “Keep your wits about you. Don’t be a monkey with a big brain”
Before I write the meat of the article, I am sure you have a question: what the heck is a worldview… and how do you know what YOUR worldview is, if any.
A little anecdote comes to the rescue, about a radio interview of three umpires on how they call ball or strike (in baseball, for those who don’t know).
The three umpires are different ages.
Umpire number one asked first. He is a rookie umpire. He is asked, as will be his colleagues: How do you call ball or strike?
The rookie umpire answers: It’s obvious. I call it the way it is. A ball is a ball, a strike is a strike.
The journeyman umpire, has a few years of judging the game, answers: I do it differently. I call it the way I see it. I see it’s a ball, I call it a ball.
The old, wrinkled seasoned umpire, when asked the same question, grumbles… You are both rookies. Because I know that it ain’t nothing till I call it.
The three umpires represent three worldviews… A worldview is your relationship to what is happening in the world… 2 Continue reading “Does your worldview keep you from knowing yourself?”
I have one or two opportunities every week to be taken way way beyond what I know. It is triggered by a certain listening… with a fertile echo.
I have a lot more conversations that those one or two… but most people’s listening is so narrow, or so muddled, or infertile, that nothing new can come out.
Yesterday I was lucky and I had a person with an incredibly fertile echo on the call… and I took advantage of it.
This, in the face of most people not even hearing what I was saying… they were already thinking about some thing… So I kept going back to Baheej for nurturing… to be heard.
I am attaching the recording of that call for your pleasure
Imagine that you find yourself in Los Angeles… and then you find out that your meeting was in Seattle… and you took the wrong plane.
If it happened, you would hop on another plane, or in the worst case rent a car and zoom up parallel to the Pacific Ocean, and voila you would arrive to Seattle… tired, but you would be there.
When evolution has taken the wrong “airplane”, let’s not worry if it was hijacked or not, you don’t have the luxury to take another plane, or rent a car…
You have to go back to where evolution took the wrong turn, and take a different path.
The grand experiment I am engaged in, is about that. Continue reading “Turning back the clock from misery to a life worth living.”
Life looks different the moment you look from a different place, in a different way.
This article is about those different ways… Tiny actions, big big big effect. On your life, on your mood, on your experience.
The first step is to look at things from others’ point of view. To reduce the size of “mememe” by getting out of your way.
When you can see that, clearly, without judgment, you are looking from the sideways position. You are not in the picture, only as another representative of “people”… neither the protagonist, nor the victim. Continue reading “Change your perspective to change your experience of life”
‘The reasonable man adapts himself to the conditions that surround him… The unreasonable man adapts surrounding conditions to himself… All progress depends on the unreasonable man.’This post was triggered by me reading a few really good articles… Observing myself I was really clear, that although I enjoyed the articles, it never became knowledge, it stayed information.
Words don’t teach. Speaking only talks to the mind… Real teaching happens NOT when you get stuff with your mind… Transformation doesn’t happen in the mind: transformation happens by taking you out of your mind… All that talking keeps you in the mind. Alas…
Growing up I lived in the shadows of my famous father. He was some kind of genius in the area of economics…
As I was dyslexic, and the public opinion of me was that I was a moron and a failure, he took it on himself to tutor me in my schoolwork, so I can succeed.
Continue reading “Can your teacher teach you what you want to learn?”
Everyone has dreams, visions of success… A good job, a nice family, nice people, nice work, nice house…
But that is not what people have… When you ask people what made them who they are today, invariably all of them answer a version of the same thing: The past.
How they express this varies: my parents, my schooling, what I have been doing, my genes, etc. etc. but all in all, they all mean the same: what makes me who I am today is the past.
If that were true, that would be bad news, really.
Imagine that it is true. Now see yourself trying to be successful online. Given your track record, and your genes, and your past behavior, how much chance do you have for success?
I’d love to say zero, but it would be unfair to many of you. So instead, I answer it in a way that applies to all of you:
The same as yesterday. Or a year ago…
Now, that is a total bummer, isn’t it? Continue reading “Will You Succeed or Will You Fail in business?”
If you are on this site, you will find yourself, more or less, in this article. And it may change your life.
Hi Sophie, I think I take trivial and superficial things too seriously. How can I let go of these immaterial incidents or people and focus on important things that truly matter to me?
“This is the sign of two things: 1. your map of reality isn’t very similar to reality. 2. you have too much importance attached to nice words about you… i.e. you want to be defined by words not by your actions.
Continue reading “Do you meet others’ expectations? There is a price to pay”
