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Whole and complete… and neediness. Completion

I just had an insight. I saw something I had never seen, even though it was right in front of my eyes.

The source of neediness.

First let’s look at what is a need and what is not…

We need food and shelter and clothes to cover our need. We may need a community, and air and water. Not much more.

Margoczi says we also need to fulfill our own expectations of ourselves and other people’s expectations of us… Maybe. I am not sure. Maybe to the extent that we can carry our own weight… but not more.

But there are certain things we, as children, thought we should have gotten, and we didn’t, and now we pursue it, relentlessly, at our own detriment.

What kind of things? Continue reading “Whole and complete… and neediness. Completion”

In life you get what you get. Want more? Negotiate for more

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A child is self-referential, self-centered, considers everything personal, and sees everything through this vantage point: everything is because of me, about me, for me…

By age three the child is able to see that some things are not related to him, some things have nothing to do with them.

And by now, that you are reading this article, it would be a sign of maturity, a sign that you grew up, if you take nothing personally.

But you do, don’t you? And it makes you miserable, reactive, and ineffective in life. Continue reading “In life you get what you get. Want more? Negotiate for more”

What Causes Weather Extremes? Floods, Earthquakes, Draught?

Why didn’t the world end like the Mayan predicted?

The Universe is not exactly a cause and effect phenomenon, it is too complex to detect causality in it. From the limited perspective of the human mind, no causality can be detected… it looks random and capricious.

Humans always wanted to reduce the risk that Life is, always wanted to understand how it works, always wanted to reduce Life to a formula. This is what gave rise to religions.

Religion, organized religion, puts you in the cause and effect mindset. They are doing it to control you, to control your behavior. It puts you in a false sense of security: you are doing the right things, so only good things can come out of it… Continue reading “What Causes Weather Extremes? Floods, Earthquakes, Draught?”

We are all at the mercy of cancer… old age, etc. eventually

I want to ‘muse’ about cancer a little bit more… not because it is my or anyone’s favorite topic, but because we are all at the mercy of cancer.

I will only say what I actually KNOW, I am not repeating anything I haven’t seen, experienced, checked with Source.

So this will be a really short article… And I know I am going to make a lot of people angry… So be it…

The question is not what causes cancer… cancer isn’t caused by anything, cancer is ever present in the body. Cancer cells are born all the time.

Cancer isn’t caused by anything

The problem begins when the cancers cells are not removed by the immune system. When your immune system is sluggish, or too busy working on some other issue that you caused, the cancer cells behave like mice when the cat is busy. Proliferate. Continue reading “We are all at the mercy of cancer… old age, etc. eventually”

The pretense to know… and cancer. The pursuit of smarts

That’s me on the picture, 20 years ago… Waiting to get wet on the USA side of Niagara Falls… A perfect example of becoming… Scared, anticipating, not knowing what is going to happen.

We, humans, negotiate our way in life… with circumstances, schedules, things, and other people. From cradle to grave… we could say, that is life… negotiating every step, winning some and losing some.

But here is the thing: the rules are not clear, not clean, and not overt.

You cannot be sure what constitutes winning, and what constitutes losing a step… in fact, most steps: you have no idea.

But, as society, as a race, we have trained ourselves to pretend: to look as if we knew… maybe even feel as if we knew. Continue reading “The pretense to know… and cancer. The pursuit of smarts”

The human body is not one size fits all or most

I first had this thought in the title when I read the book: Eat right for your type, some 24 years ago. That is when after 20 years of being slim, suddenly I grew four sizes… and became a whale. The blood type diet didn’t make me slim… but the germ of the idea that we are not all the same inside took root in me.

My next time to get this idea to strengthen was the ‘eating styles‘ I got from the Human Design Institute. It didn’t make me slim, but it made me have a lot more energy than I had before, and a whole lot less of indigestion.

And lastly, when about 10 years after that I connected to Source, or whatever you want to call what I am connecting to, and started my conversations with it, through muscletesting, I started to see the tremendous differences inside people, the differences that don’t clearly show on their outside, or even in their attitudes. Continue reading “The human body is not one size fits all or most”

The pull and push system of growth… How inspiration is proving to be stronger

I have been ‘playing’ this self-improvement, self-development game for 35 years. It germinated and grew into a full ‘tree’ in me, while in others it remained stunted, or maybe even died.

What was the difference between those others and myself?

The main difference was, I thought, is that I saw going up incredibly inspiring, while others focused on protecting their egos. We call it precious I in my work.

I had a precious I too, but I could see that what it had given me is grief, so I was willing to think and do things that offended or scared my precious I, because what I saw was available was inspiring enough for me to do so. Continue reading “The pull and push system of growth… How inspiration is proving to be stronger”

Another wrinkle in authenticity and your strengths

We’ve spoken about authenticity before. My definition of authenticity, I borrowed from a note on someone’s desk I saw some 35 years ago, is this:

Authenticity means: there is nothing in the unsaid. There is nothing that you should say that you don’t.

That doesn’t mean you should say everything… No, no, no. The one who says everything is not authentic, he is a bore. Or she is. And often seemingly saying everything is a smokescreen that covers up what you are not saying.

This topic came up because some of the people I coach are in the middle of starting to use their strengths… or about to start. Continue reading “Another wrinkle in authenticity and your strengths”

Main issues in this lockdown environment… What are yours?

My experience with people, you, during this pandemic is that you have too much time on your hands and you become unfocused… no time constraints, and nothing gets done, and you waste the rare opportunity to grow, to learn and practice a new skill, to become the person you were meant to become.

Another experience I have is that their vibration drops, much like during 3-day holidays: too much social influence. Don’t forget that the average vibration on the planet is now 100, and people influence you and your vibration, in subtle ways.

When you spent eight hours away from these people a day, you had other influences, and you gave actually more time to yourself than you do now. Continue reading “Main issues in this lockdown environment… What are yours?”

Soul correction: your only way to raise your vibration

“The planets may impel but not compel” say Rob Brezsny, and, if in nothing else, we agree on this point.

If the planets compelled, then soul correction, as a trajectory, would be an oxymoron… leopards don’t change their spots.

My soul correction is “Forget Thyself” which impels me to place myself higher than anyone else, including any authority, including Source.

Today that soul correction, that behavior, that attitude only shows up about 10% of the time. I say this in celebration of free will… how I behave, what attitude I bring to life is up to me: I can bend even though the planets impel me to be rigid.

According to Kabbalah, somewhat the bedrock of my mindset, free will is what created the physical universe. Continue reading “Soul correction: your only way to raise your vibration”