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How do you cook frogs?
You put them in water. And then, slowly raise the temperature. So slowly that it is near imperceptible for the frogs. They will not jump out of the pot, because they won’t feel it.
The way you cook frog is the surest way to change.
Wild turns, jumps, dramatic workshops are dramatic, but ineffective.
Most things you want to change are stuck on the genetic level. All the behaviors are lined up neatly, like apples on an apple cart.
So to cause an epigenetic shift, you need to go slow, or the genes will jerk you back to how it was.
Chiropractors know it. Good teachers know it… most people have no idea.
In my 26 years in Landmark Education I participated in breakthrough programs that were exciting, but didn’t make a difference… for most people.
I fared somewhat better: I picked one little thing here and there, and could take it into my life. One little thing. Not everything that looked like a breakthrough: no. One thing. Each course. One small thing.
From one weekend course I SAW dramatic shift POSSIBILITIES, but instead of trying to take them all, I took one thing: the insight that I had the tendency to offer assistance, unsolicited. Even today I have a chest pain remembering. I still have that tendency, but today I see what it is trying to do, and exert control over the behavior.
Was that worth the few hundred bucks I paid for that course?
Well, when I compare it to my dramatic classmates, who ‘got my life out of it!‘ celebrating, whooping, and happy, No. But then went back to how they were in about three days, my tiny shift of awareness has been worth many thousands of dollars to me over the years. while their excitement didn’t make any difference for them.
I have always considered transformation a ‘cooking frogs’ phenomenon. And I have cooked many batches of frogs… to raise my vibration from about 35 to above 900.
Tiny gains in awareness.
You could also call me a turtle. definitely not a hare. I also don’t dream about being a hare.
I just came off a coaching webinar where I was a participant. And unfortunately I got no value for myself out of the call. every person there was a hare or a wannabe hare. talking big numbers, big overarching achievements. but overall no attention and therefore no success on the level of the small, of the daily, of the practice… none.
When I look: Hare has a campaign mentality.
It procrastinates, then it does a campaign. A sprint. Then it waits for it to bring in the millions… and when it doesn’t happen, it gets discouraged, and goes back to how it was. Nothing changed.
And then it starts again, either with the same or with a different agenda… and fails fulfilling the millions, again.
Your METHOD belies of people’s profound misunderstanding of how they work… and how things work.
In the race between the hare and the turtle, it is always the turtle that wins.
Bill Gates, Warren Buffet, Steve Jobs, all turtles extraordinaire.
Obviously I am a turtle too.
If you could learn one thing, and one thing only, I’d recommend this: become a turtle.
Not flashy, not dramatic, not even visible till the moment of “overnight billionaire”, “overnight success” stage, where every Joe, Dick and Harry will try to emulate the visible part of their success: the 1%.
Elon Musk is a hare. Jeff Bezos is a turtle. Jack Ma is a hare.
Now, what if you put years of turtle effort into something that isn’t it?
Well, consider the gain that you’ve become a new human being through the epigenetic shift your effort created.
If you can consider that growth satisfying, that the journey is the important, and not the destination, they you can say: it was easier to shift myself on this project, because I wasn’t pulled out of my turtle state by the smell of BIG success.
What allowed me to be who I am today is the many areas I took to completion in a turtle way.
Architect, structural engineer, seven languages, athlete, competitive swimmer, gymnast, making it in two foreign countries, magazine publisher, coach, spiritual beacon, empath, marketer, energy practitioner, etc. etc..
I know myself as someone who can do anything. That’s a result of my history. I can trust myself. And if I cannot YET do something today, I can learn anything and do it well.
Can you say that?
I have had clients and friends who had an accidental fast success in their past, and could not understand why they couldn’t have it again.
It was simple for me to see, but not for them.
They never actually did what it would take to be successful. It happened TO them.
Just like the lovely night to the woman who was instructed by Dear Abby to pray for rain.
I am sure I have written an article about this woman… but I can’t find it.
Here is the story: this woman writes a letter to Dear Abby:
Dear Abby. The other night I had too much work, and I stayed late in the office. When I was done, it was late. It was raining, and I missed the last bus to take me home. As I was standing pondering what to do, a car pulled over, and a good looking man asked if he could help me.
I never get into the car of strangers, but he was so good looking, and it was raining… so I asked him to give me a ride home.
On the way home we stopped at a bar and had a few drinks. Now, I don’t ever have drinks with strangers, but it was so cold and I was so wet, and he was so nice… and we had such a good time.
When we got to my house, I asked if he wanted to come up. I don’t do that… but we were having such a good time…
Next morning, when I woke up, he was gone. I want to meet him again.
What shall I do, dear Abby?
Dear Abby answered: PRAY FOR RAIN.
Build a track record so you know that you can.
PS: My programs are frog cooking processes… little by little you learn… through doing.
All my programs where I did most of the work, where I did most of the talking were really enjoyable… but didn’t cause much.
One of the most dramatic of all my programs was the Level2… with the Pebble process. I loved it. The participants loved it. But when you looked at participants… nothing much changed.
I am making it part of all my programs now… and make the participants practice. I am even doing these 30-day ‘doing’ challenges that have the potential to leave you with a major capacity to live your life with… to have a life you love and you live it powerfully.
It literally hurts me in the heart to watch people who can’t get from A to B… Those who get trapped in the desire trap. Who get trapped in the ‘please do it for me’. Who get trapped in the ‘I surely cannot do it’. And those who get trapped in the pink colored glass only to be used, and abused by everyone.
I have developed a methodology for a turtle-style growth, whether it is in business, health, vibration, or anything.
When it comes to growth, it is important to know what is your personality type… If growing like a turtle is a good match for you.
Whether you can clearly see the path to the mountain when you start, or you need to inch your way up… the Inching type is the turtle. I am a turtle… I am only interested in the next step, not what I’ll do 10 steps down the line.
Get the course: the turtle method of growingPS: Many of my current and past students have been doing a version of the ‘hare’… They did something akin doing some exercises for exactly three days, and then they stopped. It could not be called a sprint… yet their method of never amounting to much was campaign mentality… just not enough. Not even to scratch the surface.
