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What’s missing that if it were there life would be different? Your life, not all of life…
In yesterday’s article I said everyone has a keystone. A keystone that if you remove it, the whole arch, the whole construct of your life falls. The construct of the life you lead that is not going anywhere.
So I offered to muscletest that keystone for people.
I admit that first some of the results were unexpected. But after the result of the muscletest it was like ‘of course! that is what’s been missing!’
Self-control missing has been the most unexpected result.
When I look at people I know well, people who no matter how much you want to help them won’t be helped… For them, more often than not, self-control has been missing.
The second most unexpected keystone was forgiveness.
Forgiveness… giving as before… Not willing to give as before, holding a grudge, often when the person themselves was more guilty than the ‘offending’ party.
But whether I was looking for the most surprising keystone, or not, what all these capacities, attitudes, behaviors have in common: In order to not have them one needs to be UNWILLING to have them.
And because the one that you are missing is the keystone, because the one are missing is the seed level of your no success, no joy, no health, riches, no fulfillment can come to you.
What is at the root of your life is an unwillingness.
Holding tightly onto your right to ignore consequences to your actions, to refuse to do what would allow you to have anything.
OK, I just muscletested a large bunch of my clients and ex clients. People I can still connect to without having to whip up their pictures.
A disproportionate majority, 60% of them tested lacking, refusing, unwilling to have self-control. They say: I can’t… And they lie.
- If they could say: I won’t… then it would get conscious.
- If they said: I don’t want to, even though it cost me everything I ever wanted… they would look again.
What they don’t realize that unwillingness is a suppression. And when you suppress anything, you suppress everything. You are unwilling to control yourself… you are also suppressing joy, fulfillment, love… everything.
In the world at large the causes for misery are more evenly distributed than among my clients…
But don’t be mistaken: whatever it is that is the single linchpin will also hold you back from activating that same capacity when you buy it.
The capacities are activated in the 3rd Phase activator course. You can also buy your linchpin capacity to activate… But be mindful. If your linchpin is ‘trust‘, you won’t trust the activator. If your linchpin is ‘self-control‘, you won’t do it fully claiming you can’t. And if it is ‘forgiveness‘, you’ll refuse to let them get away with it, even if it cost you more… You are eating the poison you mean for them.
Here are the 12 activators.
Please know that you may need to do YOUR keystoneactivator 40 times for it to be able to turn you around. I am not kidding. 40 times. I did mine, Kindness, a lot more than 40 times…
The whole course of the 3rd Phase
- Forgiveness with yourself, life, and others
- Goodness
- Healthy Beliefs
- Humility
- Joy
- Kindness with yourself, life, and others
- Love with yourself, life, and others
- Patience with yourself, life, and others
- Peace with yourself, life, and others
- Purposeful Action
- Self-Control
- Trust with yourself, life, and others
Get the whole course… even though I prefer your get your ONE
Which is your one? Just email with the question: which activator is my keystone? If I don’t have your date of birth and your picture, then send those too, or I’ll ignore your request.And make sure that you sign up for the connection clinic webinar this coming Monday… at 1 pm New York Time. this is the first of many… the times will vary to accommodate different time zones.
If you can’t connect or only think you can… come. It is free. I’ll activate self-control on the call, in addition to checking your connection.
If you are the overconfident type… definitely come. ask me to do you first…
