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Why are some people happy, but not you?
Why are some people successful, but not you?
This article could create a turning point for you and your life… By using the method I teach here.
Realizing value is, maybe, the fundamental distinction that is missing.
What does it mean: realize the value of something.
Realize means: make it real. It is a real thing.
For example, a blueprint, the plans of a house have no value. Only when the house is built according to the blueprint does.
An idea has no value. An insight has no value, until it is realized.
So is an activator. It has no value until the person starts doing the activity that it enables.
So is any teaching.
You may have been in a situation where you were in a class with many others. One of those ran with an idea and made a lot of money or made a lot of something with it, while you did nothing.
The difference between people is what they do with what they get.
Taking something from mere words, mere information to something that has value, is a process.
But why don’t you?
You don’t see value. Value is a distinction. Having examples of value doesn’t mean you have the distinction.
Examples do not add up to a distinction.
If you don’t see the value that can be created with a process, you won’t go for it.
Driving is not a value. But driving people where they want to get to, at short notice, in a clean car is. That is the value UBER realizes. They built a system,a process for it, and that is what a company is about. A system for delivering the realized value.
Knowing anything is not value… yet.
Unless the value is realized, i.e. there is a construct to provide it to those who want exactly that value, no value was realized.
Unless you see value, you can’t realize it.
But why wouldn’t see value? The value that can be created for yourself? For the future? With a process?
Seeing value does not equal appreciation. Seeing value is seeing that with a process it can deliver value.
So the seeing value is seeing the potential of something.
Through providing the vehicle. Building if you need to.
Sales presentations, whether they are in writing, audio, or video, talk about the realized value. the potential. And you buy the stuff to get it, not realizing that you need to build the bridge.
A simple example, in a joke, is the dude who prays to his god to let him win the lottery. After years of this, one night, during his prayer, he hears a voice that says: I can only help you win the lottery if you buy a ticket, so will you?
That dude is you.
You want value but you don’t see what it is that YOU need to provide so you can get what you want: that you need to realize the value.
Raw ingredients in the kitchen are unrealized value. They become value when you PREPARE something with them that is enjoyable, nourishing, and EATEN.
But why wouldn’t you see the value that can be created by you? Why can’t you have the vision? That is the question.
Because how you do anything is how you do everything.
A few years ago I had a workshop. In that workshop people looked at what is not working, and endeavor to find some way of being that would make what is not working start working again.
I saw that ‘being a value recognizer’ would make all participants’ issue dissolve.
And then came the rude awakening. None of the participants were able to see value in the world.
My then best client
My then best client saw value in what I was teaching, for example, had seen others recognize it in him, and yet, he wasn’t able to see, wasn’t able to build a vehicle for it.
He wrote in an email:
I’ve been continuing with the mirror exercise. Mostly focused on learning to connect to people. I can tell you it’s not easy. Especially in the beginning when the voices are there judging…
Became better this two days. is it normal to get scared or getting tears and wanting to cry? How do you know when you are actually connected… is it like there is another person on the other side looking at you?
By the way since Saturday’s webinar and doing the mirror exercise I’ve started having more compassion. I don’t know why. compassion for others, for my children. I am starting to see my older son’s racket. He is complaining that everybody is unfair to him and reacting with anger and ‘me me’ way. I talked to him calmly and it came out that his itch is being worthless…
Something strange happened…
Something strange happened. I was at this client’s place today and they were going to have a board meeting talking about a competitor company they are interested in buying. The CEO said Kawa you come too, and I said me? He said yes you care for this company as much as we do so we want to hear your advice too…
It seems mattering and caring and all beingness comes from you. if you are being that, you bring that to the world too. You’ve been saying that Sophie. Now I saw it in action…
Everything you teach me is pure gold Sophie..Thank you very much!
Whatever I say has no realized value. The work that makes it realize value comes from you.
This client did some of the work. but from his email it is clear that he is surprised at the results. And stays surprised.
He doesn’t have the VISION of a result that he builds towards, so when his activity produces value, he is surprised.
The same thing happens in Landmark Education’s programs. The shares are all about results that weren’t intended, because they weren’t foreseen.
And foreseeing a result is the definition of a vision, what is missing is foreseeing. Foresight.
But to even attempt to foresee, i.e. use the foresight capacity, you need to consider that what is asked of you, what is taught to you has a predictable outcome if just used. Used as taught.
Kawa, the client I am quoting above was ahead of my current clients, but still in the ‘I have never considered that what you teach is useful’ stage.
Whaaaaat? Then why are you paying the big bucks for it?
You are deflecting your own responsibility in the results you hope for, and transferring it to ‘it’, or to me.
And as long as you do that, you will remain how you are. Guaranteed.
I literally don’t know what to do so you actually take on the role: if it is to be, it is up to me.
Anything. Results. Beingness. Being liked. Being valued. Being productive.
It’s all up to you.
None of it is up to me. Or to luck. Or to anything other than you.
I know you can’t see it.
It is in the invisible. in the ‘you don’t know that you don’t know’.
I had another client who got it to some degree, because she made it her mantra ‘If it is to be it is up to me’.
And to some degree it worked for her. She is realizing her value. She creates art with unusual methods. She has a website. She sells on Etsy.
Has she realized the value she can produce fully? Muscletest says: to 10% only. 20% would make her a living…
The ‘process’, the machine she built to realize the value is weak at places. Muscletest her marketing is weak. Her marketing doesn’t convey the value accurately.
One of my current clients is in a similar field: craft.
He also realizes 10% of the value of what he creates. His ‘machine’ is also weak. Weak because his vision of how to sell is pedestrian. His vision involves his being present every step of the way.
So it is really all about the vision. and about the lack of awareness that you are creating the vision, and you are creating the vehicle to realize the value.
Without responsibility, knowing and owning that it’s up to you, everything, you won’t use the capacities you have, like foresight. You want to wash your hands from responsibility, because you prefer being a victim, being a beach ball floating on open see, in the drift.
The process of building a value vehicle begins with questions.
Question: What could be possible if I used what Sophie says here in my life? In my relationships, in my work, in my health.
And sit with that. And force yourself to look.
Because you have never done that, just like you have never done any real thinking, it may take a while.
So this is where consistency is king.
If you do it three times, you didn’t do it. If you do it a hundred times: you didn’t do it.
You need to do it until you can see.
If you don’t want to, then I respectfully ask that you leave my teaching.
None of what I teach will do anything lasting for you, without you seeing the vision of what you can do with it in your life.
And so you know, this is true with any knowledge. Anything that anyone teaches.
- My student whose assignment is to learn to cook will do what she normally does: tries something out, and stops.
- Another student who is in the 67 steps, will do his reports exactly the way he does everything else: to get it over with. So he won’t get the amazing results of the program, because he has no vision. he has no idea that what he puts into it is what will get the results, not the steps.
- A third student will do excellent reports, but nothing gets used in her life. Not a thing.
No vision. Why? Is she incapable of sitting until she can see the vision of what is possible for her?
In her case, in her eagerness to get instant results, she won’t have the patience to sit and sit and sit… with nothing to show for it.
Will you sit down and read this article, or the next article, asking the question in your mind: what could this give me if I just used it?
This is the question from which all ‘realizing value’ structures are built.
Ultimately, if you are smart, you’ll pick one distinction and build a whole world of value for yourself.
It can, surprisingly be any of the distinctions I teach.
If you pick more than one thing, you’ll fail. You will end up like the guy who wanted to ride two horses at the same time.
For that you need to have a cart. a cart you don’t have… yet.
If I were you, and I would be a hoarder, hoping that the next thing will break the whole fog open, I would pick the Anna Karenina Principle.
Why? Because the more you grab the less you accomplish.
Pare it down to the bare bones. And work with one thing, and one thing only.
Only then will you find all the others you have already bought useful.
If you are more of the stingy and arrogant constitution: I would pick the distinction: ‘What others think of me is none of my business’.
Why? Because if everything you do is to appease others, you’ll have no time, no energy, no mind for your own stuff, including creating a vision of what is possible for you. What YOU can do with what you have.
What value realizing structure you can build. In reality, not in your mind.
This lack of vision, lack of willingness to sit down and take it on that it is up to you what will happen to you, is your TIGER. The tiger that you need to face.
To make your sitting sessions productive, you can use the Foresight Avatar State Activator audio in the background.
Create a ritual around this. Your entire life will remain in the pedestrian sphere, the horizontal plane, all about you, unless you can break through this barrier. Guaranteed.
The main difference between a producer and a non-producer is this vision of the value realizing vehicle that you can build.
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How often should you do this ritual?
I would do it several times a day. Every time I have a hunch that something is reaching me that can produce value.
For example, if you are in the Reality Challenge, every time you catch a should, the question is: what could life be if I didn’t have this should? And sit with it. Whether you have your eyes open or closed, it won’t matter. The only thing that matters is that you use your brain to attempt to answer the question.
Keep on doing this, even if you get a good idea. Good ideas are a dime a dozen, and still need a thousand steps to take you to the value vehicle. So curtail your jumping jack nature. your jumping the gun nature.
Oh, one more thing: If you can’t commit, won’t commit to this ritual, please don’t buy the activator. It won’t do anything for you without doing what YOU need to do.
PS: your usual questions are useless here. So if you are one of the people who always asks questions on my calls: those questions won’t work, they are all mind-questions.
Ask the question: What could be possible if I used [what Sophie says here] in my life? In my relationships, in my work, in my health.
You can replace what’s in the square bracket [] with your question. This course, this change, mastering this skill, learning to cook… etc.
