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Why so many of my subscribers are full of crap
In an elementary school in California the administration was warned several times that a 6-year old brought a gun to school and was threatening the other children with it.
The administration did nothing. They didn’t call the police, they didn’t lock the school down… They did nothing.
The child, finally, shot his teacher.
OK, why do I sound like the nightly news?
Because, alas, most people, and at least half of my subscribers are exactly like that school’s administrators.
Hoping that it will go away on its own. The trouble, the gun, the kid, the responsibility.
Head way up their asses.
I have so many examples! too many to share all.
But here is one, that hopefully you don’t all identify with.
This person has had the desire trap as long as he remembers.
The desire trap is when you imagine yourself having all the benefits… without ever having to do anything. It doesn’t even occur that you should. Like becoming a billionaire, the CEO, an award winning actor.
And now that you already have that, enjoyed that, the path isn’t showing up… so you never actually do anything.
So he buys courses, attends presentations, gets all excited… normally. But given that he is in the Reality Challenge, this time he noticed that he has no business imagining the success the presenter promises… that it would take some skills to do what the course to get the results.
And then… he says: I think I may have to build some skills before I can do a course like that.
But you build skills doing.
No skills ever got built as a separate activity. You learn to fly as you are falling… says the bird… and he is right.
Flapping your wings in the nest won’t teach you to fly… you have to fall… and invent your wings.
Every single skill anyone has ever developed by doing something they first didn’t know how to do, or couldn’t do.
Every single one of them!
I have a ton of skills. Why? Because all my life I volunteered to do stuff that I could not possibly do with the skills I already had.
I volunteered to write restaurant reviews for the magazine I worked for. They laughed… but I went there, ate what they wanted me to write about, wrote the articles, they published it, and voilà, I started to develop the skill to write in a way that makes people want to eat what I enjoyed.
I had never written an article before. Not in any language. But I volunteered to do it. As I volunteered many things before…
It meant: I had to be willing to look bad, to be laughed at, to feel stupid… That is the price you pay for anything you ever wanted.
That willingness.
What is in unwillingness? Fear, I say.
The school’s administrating staff was scared… My client has been afraid all his life… So they don’t do… they are not willing to risk.
Some of my subscribers are not even willing to risk reading my articles…
If you are not willing to look bad your head is up your ass… guaranteed. You cannot see reality, because it actually takes some courage to look there.
Courage? Yeah.
But I have some news for you: on the other side of courage you find out you didn’t need it. Because all that fear is also wholly unjustified.
Unreality fear. You were never in any real danger.
A week ago I asked someone for some support. He said: I’ll get back to you on that. He hasn’t.
When I connect to him as an empath, I feel that he is hiding. Full of fear.
But what would happen if he came back to me and say: Sorry, I can’t help.
Even if I were unkind and say: You are a cowardly little sh!t… or selfish, or stupid, or whatever!
So what? Why would anyone care what I say? What anyone says?
Eleanor Roosevelt said best: what other people think of me is none of my business.
Whatever I say to him or about him is none of his business. Even if, for a moment, he’d get a whiff of reality…
Yeah, reality can be hard to face.
My Face the Tiger workshop would not have happened, if people spent more time in reality.
- Some of my clients spend 1% in reality.
- Others 10%,
- some are just starting to spend 30%. The ones in the 67 steps, aka Prison Break add a few percentage every day. If and when they do the program the way I ask them to do it.
My hunch is that people in the Reality Challenge by the end will get to spend 50% of their time… Which will make them the top of humanity…
They’ll find or build their wings while they are falling.
What about the people who don’t do the Reality Challenge at $10 a month?
The ones that do but don’t participate: they are not willing to risk finding out that their head is up their asses… deep deep inside, so they can’t see anything else but what’s there: I am already OK. I don’t need that.
I am furious, if you can’t hear it…
Furious.
PS: Obviously if you signed up to my list to be proven right that you are OK and you are like god can get what you want by just thinking about it… then you are on the wrong list…
PPS: You know who and what you are by tracking what you spend your time with.
- You are a writer if you can’t not write. So we would find lots of writing when we look at your day.
- You are a songwriter if we see you writing songs all the time
- Producer? You are a producer if we see you producing results because you can’t do no other.
- And You are a wannabe if we see you wanting but not doing all day. Wannabe spiritual, wannabe powerful, wannabe whatever you wannabe.
- You are a ship without a rudder (or without a captain) if we see you jumping from this thing to that…
- You are a campaigner if we see you doing something with enthusiasm for a short time, then see you do nothing for a much longer time
Did I manage to hit on your case? Let me know. email is fine if you are too cowardly to post a public comment.
You definitely hit on my case, with almost all of your examples, but especially about being a campaigner and songwriting.
Thank you for the much needed kick in the butt.
but unless your resistance and avoidance lower, no kick in the butt will make any difference. Watch out for the next article… I am rooting for you, but only you can do it.
Yeah, but I don’t wanna talk about that. đŸ™‚
No really, thank you. I never saw the avoidance
To attempt to answer your question, I’d say my resistance is high along with my unwillingness (Pushing on the string-I’ve been bending but not moving) and thus making my intelligence low as if there is an inverse correlation.
The only light that I can see, at this point, is that there is a choice. I can choose the fear to keep me from risking looking bad or I can start something as a newborn dear wobbling about in front of everyone.
pushing on a string, interestingly, from the inside, is avoidance…
I have never detected any resistance in you, only avoidance.
These two, at least, I have: You are a ship without a rudder (or without a captain) if we see you jumping from this thing to that…
You are a campaigner if we see you doing something with enthusiasm for a short time, then see you do nothing for a much longer time
now you know who you have been being, Baheej. But you also know that no one in reality would have any tolerance for either of those. I am writing an article soon to be published I hope, where I distinguish ways to resist: the resistors, and the ‘pushing on a string’… both are resistance to any change, any guidance.
When we add up those two kinds of resistances, percentages, the remaining to make it a 100% is what we can call intelligence. Intelligence is the ability to change. Can you guess where you are at with the three measures? Resistance, pushing on a string, intelligence?