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First off: whatever you chase, runs from you… so stop chasing… Start finding.
Second: Do you have The right vehicle, the right timing, and the right you?
You may have found it all… and yet… nothing is happening.
And here it is why
‘It’s the start that stops most people’.
‘It’s the start that stops most people’.
‘It’s the start that stops most people’.
That’s it
It’s the start that stops most people
Do you get this?
NOTHING good in your life has or will happen to you until you START!
You can have the right opportunity, the right timing, and maybe even the right you… but unless you take action… public action, an action where you can fail, all bets are off.
If you write but never publish. If you make videos but never post them. If you just read, or watch videos, but never actually do anything with them… you haven’t started.
And reality has a funny way to behave: what you haven’t started cannot succeed…
Just think about this for a moment before you leave this page and continue seeking… even though you may have found already..
It’s ALL about starting.
And starting is NOT the same as deciding to start.
You can decide to start and not do anything.
Or remain that cold and timid soul who neither knows victory nor defeat…
‘It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena, whose face is marred by dust and sweat and blood; who strives valiantly; who errs, who comes short again and again, because there is no effort without error and shortcoming; but who does actually strive to do the deeds; who knows great enthusiasms, the great devotions; who spends himself in a worthy cause; who at the best knows in the end the triumph of high achievement, and who at the worst, if he fails, at least fails while daring greatly, so that his place shall never be with those cold and timid souls who neither know victory nor defeat.’
I have a lot of quotes I likes, but only have a few people I like… Often the quote is just a thing to say: the person doesn’t, can’t say they live that way.
But this past week I found a man to like… through an extraordinary Twitter thread… a thread of his responses to a fiftysomething old man who is divorcing his wife of 33 years. Brilliant… A bunch of one-liners, baring HIS soul… putting him out there to be ridiculed. Read it if you alternately want to cry and laugh… Cathartic.
As is my habit, I honor people by actually looking at them and seeing them. So I went to his blog on google, and cried some more. I am in love. Go and read that too…
https://thismighthurtalittle.blogspot.com/2016/08/i-dont-know-what-healing-looks-like.html
He didn’t sit down and write for seven hours straight, and felt good about himself. No. He wrote and then clicked the publish button… putting himself out there to be loved or ridiculed.
A kin spirit… I do the same… and when I look not many are willing to put themselves out there. This is, probably, why Woody Allen said in 1977: 99% of success is showing up. Sometimes it’s easier to hide home in bed. I’ve done both.
OK, he said 80%, but I dare to differ. If you don’t show up, if you don’t test your ideas, if you hide at home in bed, or a job that doesn’t ask much of you, or a marriage that doesn’t let you shine, or hide behind enormous weight, or behind victimhood… then the end of the Rudyard Kipling poem, for you, is: ‘NOT Yours is the Earth and everything that’s in it,
And – which is more – you won’t be a Man, my son!’
70% of the people who are on my mailing list don’t even open my emails… They are off seeking somewhere else.
Don’t be a seeker. Seekers are miserable wretches… never finding…
The completely counter-intuitive truth is: all you ever wanted are on the other side of unpleasant, maybe even boring effort.
- Love in relationships is on the other side of years of disagreeing, and wondering why you got married.
- Success in business is on the other side of years of no success… maybe not even a little bit.
- Friendship is on the other side of being in the trenches together.
Seekers don’t go deep, and they never experience anything worth experiencing, they never achieve anything worth achieving. They don’t hang out with anything long enough to do so… They keep on seeking… and seeking… and seeking, never finding. They probably have a commitment phobia.
If you are a seeker… if you are just floating through the life… you have a few options.
- 1. stay the way you are. The chances that you even read this are slim…
- 2. decide that enough is enough and you’ll deal with what is making you a seeker and not a finder. A thinking about-er, not a does. A ne’er do well. Why do I say ne’er do well? Because doing well requires one to buckle down and commit. Maybe even work their ass off, experience pain, tiredness, fear, overwhelm, and deal with it.
If this is you, I can help you. You may not want my help, and that is OK. I only want to help those who want my help…
For me the process started with a pdf… and although what I read in it struck me as maybe not true, it also struck me as maybe true… and that little thing made a huge difference.
I don’t know what will be the starting trigger for you… but if you want that pdf, I have it for you. All you need to do is sign up to my mailing list. I email at least once a day… and you can cancel any time. I don’t want to email to someone who doesn’t want to hear from me. I also don’t want to email to someone who never opens my emails… I consider it a waste of my spiritual energy…
Here is the form to enter your best email address and your real name…
I’ll personally email you your pdf… as soon as I see that you confirmed your subscription… that is.
Jayme, I like to go deeper than the pop psychology does… no offense
I’ve read articles about the paralysis of perfectionism and imposter syndrome and I think they’re part of this problem. When I wait until I feel ready to do something, I never do it.
“Those who say it can’t be done are usually interrupted by others doing it.”
-James Baldwin