Life is a game… a game is something where something is better than something else. That is winning.
In golf having your ball in the cup is better than outside of it.
In basketball: the ball in the basket, in tennis the ball staying in the air longer, in bridge the higher score, in Freecell: the empty board.
In business more profits, more money that stays in your pocket, is better than less.
In love, being loved is better than not to be loved.
Sun Tsu (The Art of War on Wikipedia, read The_Art_Of_War pdf) said:
‘All men can see these tactics whereby I conquer, but what none can see is the strategy out of which victory is evolved.‘
So the fact that YOU cannot see the strategy is not an exception, it is more like the rule.
Losing is also defined, either as trying but not winning, or not playing at all.
In the psychopath segment, was it yesterday? feels like a whole week passed, I am talking about the Jewish strategy for survival of the tribe: education. Deep looking, curiosity, inquiry, discussion, diligence, and… not lastly, the principle of marrying a spouse with whom to spawn the next generation… for the survival of the tribe.
If you missed that part, in the video, go back and watch, only three minutes long.
The Jewish way goes exactly the opposite direction than the world is going… nowadays even among many assimilated Jews, by the way.
What Sun Tsu says is a principle.
A principle, if it is really a principle, then it obeys the holographic principle, the fractals… it is true across the board, in many diverse areas, both small and large.
Every battle is won BEFORE it is fought, says SunTzu… and today’s wannabe winners another name for losers, is obvious: they are reactive, they are needy. They don’t plan, they don’t see the future for which they are ‘playing’.
What Sun Tsu says, that you can see what he did…
…but not the strategy below it, is true everywhere: you cannot see even the one deeper layer of reality, unless someone points it out to you. But even then you see a singular event, instead of seeing the principle.
This is why the Playground program needs to be a year long, this is why unless you get diligent you won’t EVER be able to grab life by the horns, to have self determination, and build yourself a life you can love.
Why again? Because you stay on the tactics level, while strategy level must start with the work to reclaim control from the marker feelings, your anchor to doom, and your dominant world and self-view.
Because you live as if all of reality were visible… and you don’t even suspect that reality is layered: the top layer covers the invisible layer under it, that covers the next layer… and so on.
The top layer is far from being true, or real… by the way… and that is all you see… and you are duped.
To get access to reality, how things really are, how things really work, you need to learn principles of how to recognize the layers covered up, so you can start having some power in your life.
And for that you need a guide who you trust.
You are full or fuller of crap, to one degree or another. How? regarding your promises to yourself and others, and to your spirit and to your soul.
If you are full of crap, you have no reason to trust yourself.
If you don’t trust yourself, you won’t trust other people either, and you are not ready for coaching or guidance.
So what can you do? How can you even get ready for guidance?
You need to begin where you are, and build up trustworthiness, integrity, from now on.
When you keep at it long enough, when you can maybe start trusting yourself. then you can consider trusting another to guide you and to not judge you.
Will it be easy? No. I don’t think so. Or, of course, who knows?
Is it worth it? Hell yeah, it’s worth it.
Unless you are here because you so love your life, you cannot even imagine life getting better…
Here is what we want to accomplish in the first part of any type of coaching. whether it is health, whether it is to become worth a damn, or full-on business coaching:
You need to learn the ability of seeing the box you live in from the outside. That view shows you that it is a box… and that (seeing that it’s a box) makes all the difference.
Looking at the box from inside of it feels restrictive, but comfortable. It masquerades as reality. From the outside you can see it as a made up thing.
We don’t see things as they are, we see them as we are.
Here are writings of famous people about how we see:
A man is shown in a dream only what is suggested by his own thoughts…
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…in order to understand the great and noble, it is necessary to have some of those qualities oneself. but to a Philistine, the most brilliant achievement in history would appear only a paltry, commonplace event. for ‘It is well known, that we see things not as they are, but as we are.’
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1. We see only so much of the world as we have apperceptive (seeing things based on past experience no themselves as they are) organs for seeing.
2. We see things not as they are but as we are–that is, we see the world not as it is, but as molded by the individual peculiarities of our minds.
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It has been well said that we do not see things as they are, but as we are ourselves. Every man looks through the eyes of his prejudices, of his preconceived notions. Hence, it is the most difficult thing in the world to broaden a man so that he will realize truth as other men see it.
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Stephen Covey says it this way… Each of us tends to think we see things as they are, that we are objective. But this is not the case. We see the world, not as it is, but as we are—or, as we are conditioned to see it. When we open our mouths to describe what we see, we in effect describe ourselves, our perceptions, our paradigms.
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Now. why did I go into all this trouble to repeat the utterings or writings of famous people?
Because the first leg of the strategy needs to be to exchange the warped filters. The warped self-referential filters that make us see ourselves (and what we had decided about them) in everything. To exchange them to a filter that is truer to how things are.
You need to remove yourself from the filter if you want to get closer to how you see reality.
Once we succeed with that, we can start working on the rest…
I measure how much you filter everything through yourself… the about-you score in the Starting Point Measurements
