The invisible components of success: two case studies

You cannot talk butterfly language… unless… Also: Lies by omission, lies by commission… are you a liar?

Last night I was reminded how my nights used to be before I discovered Source energies. Hellish…

I am reading a book from someone, I still haven’t decided if I want to name that someone… or not.

Why? Because I am irate… so angry and envious… I am afraid to let it all out…

But I have to start releasing this tension somehow.

I continued this conversation with my Sunday morning buddy… if you want to hear the conversation, and how he transformed as a result of our calls, here is a link to buy the call

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OK, here you have it, an insight that will make me sound condescending… and it is, if we consider the height of the vantage point, is descending, I am not sure about the con…
Condescending is a how… look DOWN in a particular way. Here is what the dictionary says:

Condescending: having or showing a feeling of patronizing superiority.
‘she thought the teachers were arrogant and condescending’
synonyms: patronizing, supercilious, superior, snobbish, snobby, disdainful, lofty, haughty; smug, conceited;
informal: snooty, stuck-up
‘she looked us up and down in a condescending manner’

So it looks at the how, from the point of view of the Precious (Delusional) ‘I’. The one that is unwilling to look up. The one that can only see ‘three inches’ above its eye level… so it never really sees anyone too high, anyone with anything it doesn’t have.

OK, rant 1 is done… lol.

OK, back to this dude…

He writes books. He makes himself attractive to people who can’t do what he can do (make money, write books, interview people, successfully invest, start companies and sell them for much money, etc.) by sounding just like them: a nebbish.

nebbish, Yiddish: a person, especially a man, who is regarded as pitifully ineffectual, timid, or submissive.

He says: “I am a sissy, I am depressed, I lost everything, I hate myself, I hate looking in the mirror, I don’t understand why this beautiful woman married me.”

So people flock to his site, to the tune of 250 thousand people a month. They love him. They love his story. They love his whining. Why? They connect to his misery. It gives them hope. Hope that they can do the same: marry a beautiful woman, make money, even though he hates himself, hopes he’d die, etc. If this nebbish can do it, I can too.

What he doesn’t tell them is that being a nebbish is a character that he built, cunningly.

He has skills and capacities few in the world have, and he makes his money, his fame, his success with his skills and capacities and his actions that come from those, not his whining.

Skills and capacities: it takes years of tireless, consistent, and painful work to build.

Here are his starting point measurements:

1. your vibration (1-1000): 170
—2. your overall intelligence, emotional, intellectual, spiritual, body, relationship, etc.: 100 (pay attention to this number… you cannot go higher!)
3. the number of spiritual capacities you have: 10 (pay attention to this number, his audience has 1)
4. your soul correction (your machine): “Removing Hatred” https://yourvibration.com/sc
5. do you have attachments? no
6. the level of your health (1-100): 10%
7. the level of your cell hydration (1-100): 10%
8. your relationship to feedback and instruction: whimpering
9. The level of discomfort you are willing to allow w/o trying to fix it. This is your TLB score… 1
—10. The size of your vocabulary: the number of words you can use accurately: 3500 (pay attention to this number! his average customer has this at 200)
11. To what degree you think of yourself: 99%
12. # of fixed mindset: 10%
—13. Ambition: 80% (this number tells you how much of what he wants he is willing to work for. The average number in the world for ambition is 4%, and of his audience: 3% meaning: not willing to work for what they want.)
14. Desire: 10%
15. Degree of inauthenticity overall: 99%
16. Level of integrity 1-100: 80% (compare it with your… the average is 3%)
17. how enslaved are you to memes? (what percentage of your life is run by memes?) 40%
18. do you have a bridge between your precious I and your actual I? What is your level of delusion 7%
19. To what degree you have access to your adult capacities 7%
20. How teachable/how coachable are you? 7%

So whining, and pretending that anyone and everyone can do what he is doing, what he is teaching is a lie. A lie by omission… And that would make him a liar if he knew it.

It’s invisible, what he omits. Invisible to him. Invisible to others. Not invisible to me… And, between you and me, those that he omits, skills, capacities, attitudes, are the most important creators of his success, which is quite obvious to me.

Here is an article in FastCompany…  talking about the invisible… in probably a much more accessible way than I do. So read it… It will help. To know… so you can start seeing them…

But surprisingly he doesn’t know it. For two reasons: 1. his #11, to what degree you think of yourself: 99%. When this number is high, you are blind to other people, because you think everyone is like you… and his #17: 40% memes means he has no separation between himself and the bs society is spewing… the memes everyone is sold out to… that you can to anything, that you are beautiful, that you are supposed to be a winner… blah blah blah. You know, the Facebook stuff.

Now, why am I angry? Good question.

I am angry because he further corrupts people and the world. He doesn’t tell people to go out and do something, which is what is missing most in the world. He says: gratitude… without knowing that people can’t be grateful: it is a capacity that hardly anyone has turned on.

My Russian friend, one of his followers, hasn’t done a darn thing, even though he could.

Hasn’t grown, even though he could. Because this dude is so successful, therefore he can, too.

Ugh, ugly.

And why am I envious? Because he is a master of making friends and allies. Because he has the golden touch. I’d like to have that. Not the money, the savvy to make connections… And because I am really not that good at giving people hope… Why? because I don’t see much hope either. I am a realist, and that doesn’t sell.

His constitutional Bach Energy is Agrimony: the cheerful face that covers up inner turmoil and misery… people like that. Mine is Gentian, a fundamentally pessimistic energy, and people don’t like that. OK… now you see if you can see.

OK, let me look at another person, a dudette, whose date of birth I don’t know because she doesn’t have a Wikipedia listing yet.

1. your vibration (1-1000): 130
2. your overall intelligence, emotional, intellectual, spiritual, body, relationship, etc.: 40
—3. the number of spiritual capacities you have: 2
4. your soul correction (your machine): https://yourvibration.com/sc… I don’t know. but she is an Aquarius
5. do you have attachments? no
6. the level of your health (1-100): 5%
7. the level of your cell hydration (1-100): 5%
8. your relationship to feedback and instruction: strong resistance. From the kind of resistance, I guess, maybe, Finish what you start?
—9. The level of discomfort you are willing to allow w/o trying to fix it. This is your TLB score… 3
10. The size of your vocabulary: the number of words you can use accurately: 400
11. To what degree you think of yourself: 99%
12. # of fixed mindset: 10%
13. Ambition: 99%
14. Desire: 10%
15. Degree of inauthenticity overall: 99%
16. Level of integrity 1-100: 5%
17. how enslaved are you to memes? (what percentage of your life is run by memes?) 99%
18. do you have a bridge between your precious I and your actual I? What is your level of delusion 99%
19. To what degree you have access to your adult capacities 5%
20. How teachable/how coachable are you? 1%

Very interesting. Totally ordinary person, except a few things that are not ordinary, they are in fact extraordinary:
  • 1. She actually has a spiritual/DNA capacity open… she is a storyteller, and stories sell…
  • 2. She has a TLB 3, which means she is willing to deal with hard, difficult, disappointing, controversy and ambivalence.
  • 3. She has ambition that is over the top. She is probably a workhorse… and set her eyes high

She is an example of someone who doesn’t have much going for them, but they take full advantage of it.

Now, here is what we can learn from this article:

  • 1. The story you tell needs to be a coherent persona, whether it is real or made up. It has to work down, horizontally, and upward. The same story. It needs to sell you and what you are offering well… or you’ll remain poor.
People buy your story, not your product. The story that they can do what you did without having to change…

I will need to rewrite my story to give hope, to be more relatable. Come down from the peak and appear to be human.

It’s all about appearance… as you can see.

  • 2. You need to poke around and see what is a strength that is worth developing to master level, a strength that can get you what you want.

Both these people’s strength is story… I have a hunch that who irks me the most will have that in spades… because I lack it… lol. And I am almost certain that I attract people who are weak at story…

  • 3. Somehow you need to get that only action will produce any change. Physically, emotionally, mentally, and spiritually. Action. And action is hard. Confronting. Time consuming. You may find out that you are not as good, not as smart, not as anything as you thought… Action brings you back to Earth. And that is good… if you take action.

Your ambition number shows how much of you want you are willing to take action for. Especially when you compare it with your desire number… The higher your desire number, the more delusional you are about what produces results. And the unhappier you are…

The happiest people are who don’t look far into the future, don’t look at goals, don’t look at attaining pie in the sky results. The happiest people stay within their three-foot environment and make things happen there.

That is the real meaning of Step 47 in the 67 Steps: STEP 47 – THE 5% TWEAK, NOTHING JANKY, & WHEN GOOD ENOUGH IS PERFECT. Your three-foot world can move upwards… but only if you keep your attention on it, the world where you have power… instead of the far away goal…

Learning this is maybe the most important thing to learn… even the first two learnings won’t happen unless you keep your attention on your 3-foot world…

The problem with most teachings, including the Mind Movies, is that it fixes your eyes on the far away goals… and rob you of your 3-foot world, where you can do stuff…

OK, that it is what I learned from being angry and envious… Did you learn anything? Please comment, or send me an email if you are too scared to comment.

Author: Sophie Benshitta Maven

True empath, award winning architect, magazine publisher, transformational and spiritual coach and teacher, self declared Avatar