I wrote this article 12 years ago. I was 60 years old. I had a lot more money than I have now, I wrote my blog only for my personal pleasure, like a journal.
I was the happiest I had been in my life… but I had no idea that I could be happy… every day, no matter what.
That came later… I was still looking for a home, looking for answers to questions, like why am I not liked… as you’ll see in this article.
I am republishing the article because, I think, you’ll see yourself in it… especially the in comparison part.
I am comparing myself to others and I am coming out short… while I fancy myself better… lol.
Comparison is a very potent misery maker.
Some 44 years ago, when I was in high school, and a celebrity of sorts, I was presented with a lesson that did not land until just today.
Back in 1963, my friend, Pamacs an I, applied to a talent show. She sang, I sang, she could strum the guitar, I was an accomplished guitar player. We opted to sing two Neil Sedaka songs, in English, instead of my native Hungarian. We stayed in the competition for quite a few rounds, and became everyone’s favorite Bambi Duo, as we called ourselves. I have seen photos taken from the Television show, and we looked sweet, fresh, and just adorable.
Everyone who watched TV watched that show: that was the only TV station in Hungary, back in the olden days 😉
Every Saturday, Pamacs showed up at our house, and we went dancing. She danced the whole evening, I danced maybe two songs. At the end of the night hordes of boys wanted to walk her home, no one cared about me. I was prettier than Pam. I was dumbfounded…
Fast forward a few years… a few months ago Pam got in touch with me: the magic of the Internet.
She now lives in London, married to a famous and absolutely smashing guy, step mother of an Oscar Best Actress winner, has a striving psychology counseling practice.
I am not married (have never been), live alone, so you see, the story continued as it started. What is the difference between Pam and myself? If you guessed: her personality, you guessed it right.
So that means that I am screwed, right?
Now, I happen to agree with you, but we are both wrong.
Potentially…
Because in my new course, to be released soon, “Design Your Winning Personality” I have good news for you! You are not stuck with your personality, warts and all… You have built it, you can build another one. One that will get you what you want, the right guy/gal, the right job, the right connections, the right income, the right mood.
Let me ask you a question: if you could change anything about yourself: what would you change? What do you think would happen different in your life, if you could successfully changed that?
This is again from 2019: I never put together a course on that… Instead I ran about 20 different workshops, starting in 2011, four years later. The favorite and most effective course has been the one where my input is the smallest… it turns out that input doesn’t mean results… In fact the correct proportion is 1:4: one input from me, four input from your practice, either alone or with a partner. Of course I mean four CORRECT inputs, accurate inputs… and this is what we are doing in this favorite course, The Playground. Once a month we all come together, and four times a month each participant practices with another participant.
The Playground is a tiny course, never more than six participants in a group. Why? Because it is much like one-on-one coaching plus the power of the group… the most potent combination… Want to know why? Please ask.
Want to do what made me able to be joyful 24/7? It took me decades, but it seems that I am able to deliver to you the same results in a year… depending on, of course, your participation.
Sign up to the PlaygroundLooking forward to hearing your answers.
xoxo Sophie
PS: In my next post I will write about a real-life example, another friend of mine’s, how she changed from a needy wallflower to a married, happy, successful architect.
PPS: what personality would you design for yourself if you could? Please comment, if necessary anonymously, in the comments area.
PPPS: In a workshop I have now run a lot of times, we look at what is the truth about you… and look what’s missing that you could have in life what you want. I am going to run that workshop again on April 24, which is a Wednesday at 4 pm my time, 10 pm in Europe, 9 pm in the British Isles, 1 pm in California, early morning in Australia. Count on two hours or more… It’s a workshop, not a lecture.
You can participate, even if you have done it before. We’ll focus this time on your “personality”… lol.
I’ll make you pay a dollar for it, so I know you mean to be there.
Sign up to the What’s missing workshop
