One of the things I am starting to check if the person who wants to work with me, closely, is in the habit of lying or not.
So yesterday I told an applicant that she was a liar.
I muscletested it, and muscletest said she was a liar…
Turns out she wasn’t lying in that moment, yet she was a liar.
I muscletested it because I felt it. It felt like a disgust or stomach ache…
She considered the incident an invalidation of anything and everything I do, and left.
I am OK with that. It is still “cheaper” to have someone quit than have to do the uphill struggle to try to cause transformation to someone who is a liar. Even if the lies are not conscious. Mostly they aren’t.
This video, I found this morning, looks at detecting lies… very interesting. You may first want to look at your own language… by the way. Ugh… right?
And here is another one
