The Detached/Unattached 1 capacity workshop evolved into a major tranformational process course… which I didn’t know it was going to do. 2
Lots of insights, but here is one I want to share:
In your life, beginning with your life in the womb, you made up stories about how you are, how others are, how life is.
Your life, the quality of your life, whether you are worth a damn, whether you have knowledge, strategy, whether you do something worth doing or not, are given by the stories you made up.
If you are here, you are here because what you got is not what you want. You want more, better and different.
I have powerful tools to support you in that, but unless you are willing to change the stories, make them malleable… more plastic, your life will not change.
The capacity that allows you to change the stories is the capacity of humility.
When I attempt to turn on capacities for people, I find that unless humility stayed on, none of the other capacities will stay on wither. They turn off. You go back to how you were: the life that is predetermined by your stories.
Unless you are willing to allow humility to tell you that whatever you were thinking as true about your past, about how to win in life, who is prettier, who is more deserving, etc. is wrong.
Until you are willing to have been wrong for all the years you’ve been alive, nothing will ever change.
It’s not personal. It is not personal like a rain storm is not personal. But you do get personally wet… and do get personally stuck.
You live your life like the laws of physics don’t apply to you: Arrogant.
The less knowledge you have, the more arrogant you are. The less accomplishments you have, the more arrogant you are. The more miserable you are the more arrogant you are.
Listen, I know it is an unbearable thought to start your life all over again, because the foundation of your life, your stories, were lies.
I know, because I had to go through it myself. And it was so hard. Emotionally hard, but even more hard intellectually.
Until I could really get to separate what happened and what I made it mean, the past was still 100% determining what was going to happen in my life.
It is not a one time event. My hunch is that I still have some stories I haven’t seen, and therefore have not done the work of separating what happenned and what I made it mean.
How do I know? I know because in some areas of my life I have no power. I am powerless, impotent, ineffective, and stopped.
My health and my environment.
I am not willing to do the Playground program again: it is very time consuming, and unless you have the capacity to change… i.e. you have humility, it is a complete waste of my time.
I have been, on the other hand, dreaming of turning it into a grass root movement, where participants manage each other, and the program runs without me. Much like AA, Alcoholics Anonymous.
Actually, 30 years ago when I first invented it, the Playground, I fashioned it, somewhat, after the 12-step program I was in, Adult Children of Alcoholics. Where the participants were effected by their parents who drank.
Much like we all are, effected by the behavior of our parents. Near-perfect match.
The only job of the Playground is to separate, in language, the what happened and the interpretation.
Simple, not too hard.
What is hard is to keep them separate… and lack of humility, ego, is going to fight you every step of the way.
But it’s worth it.
- I am starting to realize that a better name would be: Unattached… but then, the stepping back would not make sense… grrrr!
Here is the Osho quote:
To be unattached is not to renounce the world. If you renounce the world you are attached to the world; otherwise why should you renounce it? What is the point in renouncing it if you are not attached to it? Only attachment renounces. If you are really non-attached there is no question of any renunciation.If you are reading this: please explain to me what it means to you?
- One of the things I did that put the workshop on steroids, is I bought the 67 steps program, best $67 I have EVER spent, and got a lot deeper into the spiritual capacities that I could get on my own. If you didn’t buy that program, you are hm… moronic, in my humble opinion. lol.
hi Sophie,
In reply to your question at the bottom of the post.
What the quote means to me. By renouncing there is something to get-away from, something wrong. resistance. No room for allowing.
yes.