This article is my personal experience. I don’t know and don’t really want to know what the videos, books, articles, say about negativity, I’ll tell you what I see.
Three years ago I met a woman. She was delightful, bubbly, enthusiastic, and I liked being around her.
About two months ago she started counting the days to her retirement. And with that her whole outlook on life altered: she started to pay attention to what she didn’t like, what she didn’t want.
Even when she said something great, she added the contrast, like “finally the sun came out”, or “today is, thank god, not as cold” or “I didn’t spend as much money today as last week”
What is happening?
It’s really simple. Listen up: you probably have this circumstance one time or another, and you need to be aware of it.
When you are planning a change
When you are planning a change, you need to justify it. Unless you have the capacity for taking responsibility, i.e. to be the cause of your actions. Only at vibration 200 you have that, 95% of all people have a vibration (frequency?) lower than 200, so chances are I am talking to you.
- You see, saying: “I am retiring, life is good, but it’s time. I am going to have fun with my job, and then have fun with my next phase of life… ” is taking responsibility.
Or saying: “I am divorcing my husband. Not because he is bad, but because I don’t want to be married to him any more.” is declaring that it is not because of your husband, because what is wrong with him, but because you want to be divorced. You. Alone. No reason.
- Or saying: “I will stop pursuing this project. Not because it is hard. Not because it is crap. Not because I can’t do it. Not because of anything other than I am stopping because I am stopping.” This is taking responsibility.
Or saying: “I don’t love you any more. Not because of you, but because I don’t love you any more. There may not be anything wrong with you, but surely none of what may be wrong with you made me stop loving you. I stopped loving you. I did. Nothing to do with you.”
You see, unless you take complete responsibility, you HAVE TO justify everything. You have to have a bad mood. You have to get sick. You have to blame.
You become noxious. That means: toxic.
You pay for your unwillingness to own your actions, and then you force your environment to pay too: you poison their lives too.
How gracious of you.
So, what is there to do?
You see, even without the capacity of responsibility awakened, you can pull being the cause towards yourself. Any of my Avatar State Audios can help, by the way.
The more you do it, the closer you get to seeing that indeed you can, and it gives YOU power.
The cause has the power, the effect has the suffering. Choose to be cause, if you want power in your life.
Negativity is simply stating that you are an effect. No power other than complain.
This applies also if you had justification because you were mistreated as a child. Or if you were raped, abused, abandoned, called names, etc.
If your life, your actions, your mood has a BECAUSE in it, you are not cause.
Look at this: “Because” is the opposite of “be cause”. Easy to remember, and a life saver. Saves YOUR life and the lives around you.
Please. Thank you.
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Thank you for this article, in particular. This has made me aware that I can have the conversation with my girlfriend in way that allows me to take responsibility for what I want to do. This will be a first for me. Thanks again