You Suck. And it sucks. But unless you are willing to…

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I wrote this email 12 years ago… It is a great reminder for me, and it is quite apropos for you. Even though you may not be in marketing, you may not have a sales letter… but you have me, and I could be your Big Kahuna… So here is the email:

You Suck

Some people get lucky.

Most people I know want to avoid a situation where they can look bad. I know I do.

These are the ones that stagnate.

Then some of those people get lucky and get a mentor who pushes them… pushes them to be more, do more, have more…

Sounds good, right? Let me tell you, it sucks. It sucks big time.

You need to talk to people you don’t know. They may be nice, but probably won’t be. They may say yes, but probably won’t. And chances are, they will say: ‘You suck‘ one way or another.

Why would they say such a thing, you say? Because you suck! All the way to the top!

The person who says it, knows that. He knows that he sucks too… just on a different level.

I have a website critique today.

Normally it’s me who tells people that they and their work sucks… today someone especially honest and caring will take his time to tell me how I suck and why I suck, and I will appreciate it.

But right now I am scared. Right now I am sobbing. Right now my mind is looking for excuses why I should not do it, why I should just call in sick.

My mind likes to stay comfortable and within reasonable boundaries.

But nothing great has ever been accomplished by reasonableness.

I am not reasonable, have never been, and won’t be today.

I suck. I suck big time. The BIG Kahuna is critiquing my sales letters today…

Today I have a chance to start sucking on a higher level…

And today I give you a chance to start sucking on a higher level too.

Now go and get ready. Wipe off those tears, tear up the suicide note, and get on the webinar: You get to show the world how much you suck today.

You are next.
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Update: Follow up on the results of this article that I also sent out in email:

25% of people who read the email so far, have unsubscribed. 90% of those are from Canada.

WTF? Right?

I am learning that the ‘culture’ of Canada is nice-nice… on the surface. You need to be polite, courteous, and pretend that you are a nice, good, conscientious person.

Their slogan is: Pretend that you don’t suck… so you will grow.

Only in the rare moments that you get a glimpse that you are short of who you want to be, that you have an opportunity to grow into who you want to be.

If the mandate of the culture you subscribe to doesn’t allow you to look the tiger straight in the face, i.e. if it is politically incorrect in your culture, you won’t be allowed to see the gap between who you are and who you want to be…

And such is the culture of Canada…

Of course, as an individual, you can be different, but it is hard. You are swimming against the tide.

Going along to get along is one of the most dangerous things: you become like the masses… not a good thing…

Whenever I applied to a leadership program in the past, one of the most important questions was: can you prove with examples that you are able and willing to take correction?

When you unsubscribe because someone says ‘you suck’ it is a clear indication that you cannot take, and won’t take correction.

Any journey worth taking is an endless series of corrections.

Anything that can be reached by just keeping your eyes on the goal is a two-bit, imaginary journey, not worth taking.

In my carrot and stick webinar series I teach the method of self-correction, to results… although the methodology works, it needs you to be the kind of person who loves and takes correction… a rare kind of individual. And to be able to catch yourself, that is one in a billion… so although the webinar series was great, and you will, maybe enjoy watching the replays, benefiting from it other than understanding the technology is questionable.

But be my guest, watch the replays. https://yourvibration.com/carrotwebinar
it was free 10 years ago, but today I’ll charge you $39 to watch all 10 videos, all longer than an hour. The information, the teaching, if applied (almost never!) is worth thousands of dollars. Even if you suck which you certainly do!

If you are a bottom-feeder, a freebie seeker, you won’t buy anything. I wonder why you signed up to my mailing list… you are simply NOT even interested, let alone want what I have… So do me a favor, and unsubscribe… and stop lying to me and to yourself.

I read yesterday:

Most of my life had been spent acting like someone else. They say that depression is your mask, telling you that you’re tired of the role you’ve been putting on for everyone else. 

But why were you acting like someone else? Because you are not tough enough to be yourself and ‘suck’… and then ‘suck’ on a higher level.

here is another quote from the same book:

Gotta be tough and take some pain. Take small pain now and you can handle big pain later when it comes.

But if you never start… you’ll never grow. You are a weakling, a Milque Toast, a snowflake, and I despise you. Because you could… but you won’t.

I, and my teaching is for people who are willing to suck. Who are willing to take some pain… so they can grow and suck on a higher level. I did… and I teach what I did…

Want me to tell you how you suck, and why you suck?

Come to my diagnostic webinars on Saturdays. They are small, and you need to speak… Or I can’t diagnose how you suck and why you suck.

Let’s see how you suck and how you can growPPS: Sucking, knowing, feeling you suck never gets more pleasant. So you better learn how to deal with it, instead of how to lie about it.

I have been sucking, on different levels, in different professions, for 75 years. I even sucked as a baby… Big time!

PPPS: I suspect that being willing to suck is what enlightenment is… Honestly, it is so rare… that it must be!