As difficult as dirty dishes can be, they’re even worse when you let them sit for a while. And the longer they sit, the harder they are to clean.

This is life. Something that is potentially easy to clean up right after it happens – an unkind word to your father, a lie to your best friend, an insensitivity to your girlfriend – can become a difficult mess if you don’t deal with it now.

Do the dishes today.

I have been thinking about Kaizen a lot. Kaizen can be the saving grace for a lot of people, because Kaizen is a way of life, a non-threatening way, but it is an awake way, and most of us are not awake, get jolted out of our sleepwalking by big things only. I am awake, and Kaizen is for me.

So I decided to use Kaizen to ease back into exercising. Since I stopped exercising, my face aged 10-20 years. That is a lot. I used to have no wrinkles, now I have folds, and wrinkles inside the folds… not pretty.

I have no special occasion to be pretty at, I just think that looking into the mirror should be a joyous occasion, not an occasion to berate myself.

So I am now doing 15 seconds of the exercise I used to do. I am happy. It is starting to show on my face. Hm.

Another Kaizen thing: in airplane bathrooms there is a sign that says something like this: would you be so kind as to use your paper towel to clean the sink before you throw it away?

Very Kaizen. Imagine going to the bathroom and someone’s soapy dirty washwater is still in the sink. (The airplane sink stopper needs to be manually lifted, otherwise it stops the water from emptying…) I would never wash my hand again on an airplane. But with that little Kaizen note, most 99% of the passengers follow the instructions, and everyone washes their hand. (I think that sign also reminds people to wash their hands, which many people don’t see a reason for… ).

And the third Kaizen example I read about in a Kaizen book, and it is about Toyota. The factory. They learned Kaizen from Americans… who would have thought… from Americans.

At Toyota, manufacturing cars happens on the assembly line. Nothing new there. In a normal assembly line everyone is concerned only about their part of the assembly, and the occasional errors are noticed and corrected, or not noticed and not corrected at the quality control station.

Toyota’s then CEO installed a rope switch above every workstation along the assembly line, where workers were asked to pull the rope every time they noticed an error in the work on the half-assembled car in front of them. The pull stopped the assembly line, they corrected the error, and pulled again to re-start…

It was a heretic idea, going counter with mass production. American auto manufacturers, that relied on quality control, had thousands of cars recalled, paid billions in restitution for tiny errors that weren’t corrected right after they happened.

Toyota went on to become the most reliable car. 250K cars are still sold and they run the highways: it is commonplace, while even an ‘error-free’ American car would be proud to run till 200K.

Which leads me to the ‘boundaries’ part.

It is still my cat that is on my mind. Or my previous failed relationship. Or my previous failed New Year resolution. Where, in all circumstances, I ignored, put up with, tolerated, shut a blind eye to a small aberration, a small violation of my boundaries, a little mistake, a little skipping… and they all became the core of a snow ball and destroyed an otherwise hopeful relationship, or my health, or my results.

Do the dishes soon after they get dirty. And stay awake. I have learned my lesson.

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Sometime in August the Dark Side disappeared. I did it.

It was an accident. I intended to destroy the Dark Side, yes, some day, in some special way, but the actual doing it was quite an accident. I was surprised when it happened.

I was working on the first phase activation of the countries. I found a small bunch of countries, among them my birthplace, that registered as “gone over to the Dark Side” and their vibration was low, and they weren’t accepting the activation.

Then I was working on a person, a tester, and felt that somehow the Dark Side was wedged between him and myself. I asked Source if I can just download the activator to the wedged Dark Side. The answer was yes, so I did it. It went through. It left silence and peace in its wake.

Muscletest showed that it went to 0… before that it was gradually diminishing, from 55% when I started in July to… 5 or 10%, I don’t recall.

I was elated. I was really happy.

I frequently measured after that, and it stayed at zero for three months.

Then it started to show an increase. It’s at 2% now.

It’s all fine and dandy, but what is Dark Side?

People that come to my site to look for stories of the Dark Side, movies, etc. depict Dark Side as an organization hellbent on destroying life on the planet. Right? Conspiracy theories. The Dark Planet…

But just like I got a new definition of what’s evil a few months ago, yesterday I got a new definition of what is Dark Side.

Let me first give you the definitions before I give you the story.”

OK, Evil. In my conversations with Source it has become clear that evil is a simple (as in uncomplicated) phenomenon. It is simply desire to receive for the self alone.

Even simpler put, wanting something that gives you what you want by taking it away from another or others. Taking something that belongs to another. Like making someone wrong. Like shaming a child. Like gossiping. Like avoiding responsibility. Like blaming. Like justifying yourself. Like making someone look bad. All the moves of ego.

Without human interaction, there is no evil in the universe. Evil is an entirely human phenomenon because only humans have ego. Only human can want something for themselves at the expense of another.

A lion chasing, catching and eating an antelope is part of life. It is part of the great circle of life. But for a human it looks like the “poor cute” antelope is more important than the lion and therefore the lion should starve. What the human does is desire to receive for the self alone. The human sacrifices another for their idea of what’s right and what’s wrong.

The humna, you! interfered with the order of life… and you decide who is deserving and who isn’t.

How is that desire to receive for the self alone? Good question. It is you, the self-righteous one, who is the evil. The self appointed judge, You, are right and declare everything that is life wrong. You interfere. For your own selfish gratification of being right.

Evil is about being right, looking good, dominating, winning, justifying, assigning blame, and avoiding responsibility at the expense of life. Life as a whole. Reducing space for all of life. To gratify your ego.

Government can become a tool of evil. Church can become a tool of evil. Reforms, laws, groups of men, organizations, KKK, etc… can become a tool of evil. If they “rig” life, they are.

Simple. A corporation that destroys or poisons the environment pretending to do good is a tool of evil in doing that. But only that part of the corporation is that. The main activity of the corporation is good. It serves the public, it creates products that people are willing to pay for. Business is good. It creates progress, it creates jobs, it serves people, it serves life. But a business, an entity that has ego, when it is ego serving, it is on the side of evil.

OK, then what is Dark Side? Isn’t that the same as Evil? The people that do evil for the Dark Side… it would make sense. Surprisingly that is not the case.

Dark Side is the pre-occupation with perceived evil.

Dark Side is looking for evil outside of you. Dark Side is thinking that you are good and others are engaged in wrongdoing.

Dark Side is more dangerous than Evil, because Dark Side is a thinking phenomenon: it is creating that which it thinks about.

When in early August Dark Side got eliminated, evil was doing what evil does, acts of desire to receive for the self alone. People did what they did before. But, compared to before, there was a deep silence in the world. It was tangible for an empath like myself.

Dark Side is a buzzing, a vibration. It’s the engaging in opinionating, writing, thinking, weeping, complaining about perceived evil.

So when you are complaining about government, about the guy who didn’t pay you, about the rapists, the murderers, the thieves, the thugs, the good old boys club, the monopolies, the secret societies, the conspiracies, the catastrophes forthcoming in 2012, you are creating and strengthening the Dark Side and at the same time you are engaging in Evil-doing.

When you just simply do evil, (desire to receive for the self alone) you are only hurting some people. When you focus your thoughts on “evil” you are creating it as an entity, poisoning the planet, poisoning the environment, killing all of life.

When man ate from the Tree of Good and Evil, the Tree of Knowledge (could be called the Tree of your opinion!) Dark Side was born.

Did people do acts of desire to receive for the self alone before this turning point? Yes. Of course. Selfishness is our nature. But we didn’t dwell there, we didn’t walk around with our fingers pointing at others and pronouncing them good or evil. No, we were busy doing what it took to stay alive. Doing what we did, hunt, gather, love, hate, kill, give birth… whatever we still do. Except this opinionating part. We do more of that today… again.

So, let’s see what happened to me that I could finally see how this works. As usual I had to go through pain to learn. Oh well, I guess this is how it works for the “chosen” people, lol.

A week or two ago a classmate of mine proudly announced that her first article was published on Technorati, a famous website. I went to read it. The article was about the Penn State scandal. I had heard nothing about it, so I researched it.

The story hooked me. It was like an single cigarette to an ex smoker. It was like a sip of drink for a recovering alcoholic. It (the addiction machine) wanted more… and I felt myself falling deeper and deeper into the abyss of victimhood and blaming.

Lucky to us, I kept my eyes open. I was observing it while another aspect of mine was in it. ¹

There should be an anonymous group for victims, where the first sentence is instead of “I am powerless over alcohol” it would be “I declare that I am powerless over victimhood” in the AA group for recovering victims.

There is a victimhood nerve path that is just thinly covered with “life” but it’s there, ready to take over life, and turn your life back into “they did that to me” and “they are evil” “poor me” “poor them” baaah baaah baaah.

You don’t know it’s horrible until you spent a few years outside of it, like I did. You feel so justified! You feel that if you don’t say what you “need” to say, it will be horrible for the whole world!

Activists are like this. Most charitable organizations are like this. Trying to save people from the wrongdoing of others. Having to, needing to, wanting to, and should… the main moves of the machine.

One of my closest friends is an expert at that… she fell back to it at the same time as I did. We had a long talk last night, and she is back at life, she is free, she is happy.

When I muscletested, Dark Side was back to 2%.

It is time to put attention back to life and away from the perceived evil. You, me, all of us that want Life to win.

We do want that, don’t we?

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What is Soul? I don’t know. Although I know a lot about Soul, I don’t know what Soul is… as much as I don’t know what Source is.

In the Old Testament the word “know” had no intellectual knowledge meaning: it actually meant “get intimate with.” Sexually, or otherwise.

You get intimate with a jacket by trying it on and wearing it for a while. Same with a pair of shoes.

Intellectual knowledge is not knowing, it’s knowing about: a world of difference.

Do you know the dish roasted potatoes with rosemary? You can know a lot about it. Maybe you even think of differentiating between this type of potato or that type of potato. Dried or fresh rosemary. Made with olive oil or some other fat… etc.

Does that mean you know the dish? The only place to know it from is the intimate relationship of eating it.

Now, let us take to the area of your worldview: knowing Source, knowing Soul… knowing your Self.

How many of you spend any intimate time with yourself? Not many, I assert. I once heard someone brag that they had a wonderful trip to Europe, they spent some time in two capitals, in 3 airports, and flew above 8 others…

Laugh, but make it the laughter of recognition. Add a hint of embarrassment to it… done? OK, you are at the place where you can start reading this article. Thank you.

We know, about the Soul, how it was created and what for… The Creator, Source, needed something to hold its benevolence, receive its light, and for that purpose it created the Vessel. The nature of the Vessel is to receive. The Souls are the fregments of the original Vessel… still with the base nature to receive.

In the Big Bang incident an impulsive Vessel refused to receive the light of the Creator and declared that it wanted to earn its light.

Bold statement. No capacity, innate or learned, to actually do so. Going against its grain, going against its design.

The Creator complied and a new agreement was born: the Soul won’t get any light unless it either earns it or requests it. That is the agreement that is still in effect.

The Soul that has taken up residence in you is interested in two things: it is interested in receiving, because that is its nature. And it’s interested in earning its light, because that is the pathway to receiving light. Not an enviable position.

The Soul’s job is to enroll the human to do it together, but it has formidable competition for the attention of the human… and also teachings that are counter with what would work.

For the most part the human ignores the existence and the needs of the Soul. Or it doesn’t know about it. Or it knows that there is no such thing, as it is for half of humanity…

So when people think that the Soul is this hardy little indestructible being, able and willing to take any abuse, physical, or emotional, they are wrong.

One of the things I learned from Theta Healing is to visualize Soul and then re-build it, reattach parts of it that it lost to earlier attachments, abuse, trade… etc.

The Soul that I saw was a few shards from a whole sphere… not even able to spin evenly, it was wiggling, limping.

I worked on rebuilding, restoring the Soul to its original glory, using Vianna Stibal’s method, and it took me 5 sessions, more than an hour intense meditation each.

Two thirds of the fragments were lost in previous lifetimes… but because nothing disappears, I could reclaim those fragments as easily as the recently lost ones.

So there goes the hardy little indestructible being theory… does not hold water.

Now, why is it good to “know” Soul? Because when Soul gets what it needs, your life goes easier. When Soul can earn its light through your actions, you both get light. When Soul doesn’t: you both starve for the light.

The reason humans die is because they are disconnected and their power source, their battery, runs out of power.

If you want to live longer and have more fun, your best bet is to know Soul, work with Soul, and help Soul earn its light.

Your vibration only rises when you do that. You only get light from Source when you do that. Watching countless individuals from all different cultures, it isn’t easy. But it’s possible.

This is what I teach. This is what I excel at. This is what I was born to do. And, ultimately, this is what YOU were born to do, though no one ever told you. But it is not too late.

Start by signing up to my notification list, so I can invite you when I post more articles.

Second: sign up to my Connection meditation class, conveniently scheduled twice a week, Saturday morning and Saturday evening.

You’ll be glad you did it.

You may also want to read my previous article on soul… very personal… https://yourvibration.com/427/biggest-pain-biggest-blessing/

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Grieving The Loss Of A Child… Whether They Died Or Just Gone to Live Their Own Life

No matter how you slice it, a big change like this, even if it is the best of the child, is a huge trauma for the parent, especially the mother.

Most mothers are programmed to care for their young ones, but while they are doing that, they forget to be themselves, forget to rebuild a life of their own, so when the child dies, or leaves, they are left with nothing.

I have a student whose children live in other countries, you can’t just offer to drop by, bring some good home-made cooking, or babysit their child while they attend to other things.

You experience your life empty, your self butchered. It seems that the only way the damage can be repaired if you reunite with the child: wish it to come back, or move to the country where they are living.

If you have a loss, you think your loss is very different from other people’s. You think losing a child to death is different from losing a spouse or a parent. Or losing a child to illness is different from losing a child to a violent death.

Losing someone with whom you strongly identified yourself is always traumatic, experienced or not.

I number of decades my father left my mother exactly at the same time when my uncle died, my mother’s uncle really. The two “widows” got together for a day or sharing, but it ended poorly: they got into a physical fight about who suffers more, whose pain is bigger.

They were both right. Your own pain is always bigger, to you, than anyone else’s pain. Because you experience it directly, not through empathy.

What I am trying to say here is that losing a close person with whom your whole existence was intertwined, is a loss that requires recovering from.

You recover your self from the entanglement, you may even rebuild your self, but you can’t do that until you grieved. Until you completely and totally get the finality of the loss. Until you get that there is no hope. That it is true, it is real, and that’s that.

That is the first step you need to accomplish, and I have seen a lot of people taking years to accomplish that first step.

There is a lot of work to be done there. In addition to getting the finality, as a concept, you need to get it in detail, as an actuality.

My mom visited me from Hungary in 1992, and then died in 1995. I dreamed about traveling cross country with her in an RV… she would have been the perfect person to do that with. Hardy, enjoys and appreciates different sceneries, different foods, different cultural varieties: I so wanted to do that with her.

When she died, two things died with her:

1. I was never going to experience being loved by my mother… all hope was lost. I never experienced that while she was alive, and now it’s over.
2. That trip, cross country, and all the other ways I wanted to contribute to her were gone.

It took me ten years to accept the finality, and sometimes even today I catch myself a twinge of pain here and there when I think about that trip.

What ended the ten years “holding my breath” or “waiting to exhale” was a new knowledge, that the soul hangs out at least for a year before it moves on, and even more importantly, some souls are afraid to move on, and you can help them with that.

My mother was abusive with me and, I think, she felt very guilty about that. She asked me once, when she was visiting, and I assured her that I turned out, so she must have been a good mother, but it was like a band-aid for her, didn’t really convince her.

So when she died I could feel her hanging around, brooding, even trying to make herself felt.

One evening I set on my bed with a back pillow and connected with her. I told her that it was OK for her to go “home” and know that the faster she goes the more time she will have to try it again, next time love her child instead.

I could feel her caress my face and ascend. I experienced peace, and I experienced my own power: I set my mother free.

Now I can light candles on her birthday and on her death anniversary and just celebrate her life. That is getting into the second phase.

The second phase is finding yourself and your own purpose independent and liberated from caring for and caring about the departed.

It is not easy, so be prepared that, as with anything, you can’t just jump from a to z. You need to actually say the whole alphabet, or the missed steps will bite your butt later.

You can’t jump from grieving and feeling a part of you died to being passionate about life.

If you do, it’s a pretense, or the original question wasn’t accurate: you never felt a part of you died. You are lucky, but exceptional.

It takes healing, silence, time, and energy to build a passion that will carry you as an independent entity forward.

Connecting to the Creator of All That Is is a power source that never lets you down, that is intelligent and sends the light and the healing energy where you wouldn’t think to send it: to the past.

Connecting, on the second level, with the Tangerine Method, 5-10 minutes daily can shorten your recovery without feeling that you betrayed your loved one: they are there rooting for you, they want you to be happy, joyful, and alive.

Death for the spirit is not the same as the people left behind: death for the spirit is returning to their native state: not having to carry a body, care for a body, worry about a body, or a mind. Death for the spirit is joyful.

Come and learn to connect, experience the connection meditation in a small group, every Saturday 9 am and 9 pm. You can stay for an hour or for 30 minutes. I make sure to check you are connected and if you are having difficulties I can point out exactly where you need to put in a slight correction.

Connection meditations

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Sweep The Floor, Wash The Windows, Vs. Move To A New House Or A New Country… Or The Different Modalities Of Self-Improvement, Self-Development And Transformation

I have been looking at some of my personal sticking points.

Addicted to milk, addicted to sugar, avoiding doing the laundry… these are just the tip of the ice berg.

Oh, you thought that I was beyond that? Oh, sorry to disappoint, you are never beyond that. Besides, if I were, I would not be writing these posts, it would be painfully boring.

Life is about growing, life is about being an advancing personality, not about comfortably teaching something that is a non-issue for me. Even if writing about it would potentially cause your growth: life is about each person becoming an advancing personality, not some teaching others to be that, so they can be off the hook…

Anyway, returning to my top of the iceberg imperfections: I am wondering what is the payoff.

You see, no one perpetuates a behavior that comes with a payoff that is smaller than the discomfort or cost. Catching a payoff without outside help is virtually impossible: it is like asking you to step over your shadow: by the time you step, it has moved ahead of you.

Why is it so difficult to see? Because it is like the water for the fish. It has shaped you and your life to the same degree that water has shaped the fish: its physiology, its psychology, everything.

So you either learn to jump out of the water long enough to notice it, or you need someone else to point it out to you.

The real payoff, the real water that shapes your life, doesn’t want to be recognized.

When a coach points it out, it’s a little dysphoric… that was it? But then in minutes it disappears. If it doesn’t, it wasn’t the real payoff. It takes seeing it a lot of times, before you can keep seeing it, over time.

Why? Because giving up a payoff requires a major life change, a major transformation, and it is never the right time to do that.

People quit their spiritual practice, their coach, their 12-step program… but the few that can face the tiger will rise to the top.

So what do coaches and self-improvement courses do instead? They help you to polish the apples, wash the windows of your life, sweep the floor, vacuum the carpet.

Do these activities make a difference? I swept the floor today, and yes, it made a difference. It brightened my apartment.

Did it cause transformation? No. But it wasn’t designed to cause transformation! Did it raise my vibration? No. But it wasn’t designed to raise my vibration. It brightened my day.

So why, so called transformational coaches and raise your vibration gurus tell you that they are doing transformation, or they raise your vibration? Because you buy that.

You are happy about your clean windows, you are happy about your shiny apples. And you like that you can pride yourself as a transformed being. That in conversations you can drop, casually, that you are raising your vibration. Don’t deny.

Except you aren’t. If it were that easy, There would be lots of people with a vibrational frequency on or above the level of unconditional love (540/1000 on the map of vibration)… instead of the ten (worldwide), at the time of this article.

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How Did I Put Myself Into The Vibrational Frequency Of Money? A Case Study

I have been spending money on my own training. Not as much as before: this time I only spend money on stuff I know I can totally consume: i.e. do all the exercises, attend all the classes, without having to give up on something important.

I used to spend 5-10 times more money, but normally I would drop all the balls… and end up empty handed.

So, I am spending less money, but getting tremendous value for each dollar I spend.

The truth is, for about 6 months, while I was intensely working on developing the technology of connecting, I didn’t buy anything, I didn’t go to any webinars, I didn’t read any sales letter. So I had no idea where people’s mindset was, and I was in blissful ignorance.

My other business is making enough money to pay the bills, and at this point this is good enough for me.

But a few days ago I came out of my self-imposed information-withdrawal mode, and started to pay attention to a few things:

people are trying to dig a well when they are already thirsty. Some of my students can’t afford to pay $7 for the recording of a session they missed, even though it could mean the difference between them wasting their time or getting all the pieces that work to produce reliable results in every area of life. They literally can’t afford the $7.

The level of magical thinking is through the roof… and the stuff that is still used, read, etc. is the kind of stuff that calms people, soothes their overexcited nerves: people are not at a pretty place.

The just introduced check your connection meditation is very successful. It gives people what they want: a moment of respite, a moment of rest, and hope for more.

But, or course, unless people take care of the fundamentals, the respite is an escape, it is hiding, it is “not facing the tiger.”

Today I was reflecting on my own situation. My income is steady. But why? Why is mine steady and yours is dropping? What did I do or do I do different?

Honestly, it wasn’t easy to see. It wasn’t one thing.

Here are the things I’ve been doing: 1. I have been strategically creating income sources, when I can see that I can. Sometimes the effort seems to be bigger than the result: this past spring a big advertising site closed. About a month before they closed a friend emailed me and suggested that I create a site to replace it.

I connected to Source and asked if it was a good thing to do. I felt no greed in my gut, I felt no aversion: I went for it.

I invested 200 of my hours and two whole months of my assistant’s paid time to actually do the work. It cost me about 1,000 dollars in salaries paid, plus my time and a bunch of visits to the chiropractor: it was a lot of repetitive work, lol.

In the first month the income was zero. In the second it was 14 dollars. In the third it was 139. Now it averages between 400 and 600 dollars a month, maybe more. It’s not an exact science… No additional work. One time large investment.

Every time I see some of that money in an email notification, I say “Thank You.” It is found money, as far as I am concerned. I worked back in May for 200 hours, the money in November seems disconnected from that work… doesn’t it. So I say Thank You. Every day. Or several times a day.

• That is one type of thing that I do, always. Build strategically to create income. Not large, but ongoing.
• The other thing I do is track. I track and tweak. Not fanatically, but at least once a week.
• And the third thing I do is stick by my principles. One of my main principles is never do anything for money that I would not be willing to do for free.

Interestingly, the past 5-6 days have been challenging: I have gotten 8 or 9 requests for personal coaching from people that I said no to.

I charge minimum $200 an hour of my time. So we are talking about a lot of of money I’ve said no to.

Why? Because those meeting would not have contributed anything other than money to me. Meaning: I would have only done for them for the money. No thank you, no I don’t do that.

My hunch is that it is a test. What is testing me? I don’t know. Kabbalists would say “The Opponent.” Christians would say “The Devil.” I say: I don’t know and I don’t care. I rejoice that I am tested. It means to me that I have been on the right path.

I take care of “digging wells” so I never get thirsty. It is easy to tempt a thirsty person, because a thirsty person wants to and needs to drink.

I make sure to put myself in the position when I neither want to, nor need to… anything.

And this is the teaching of this article. It may be the umbrella after the rain storm, but don’t forget, the next rain storm is on its way: it will catch you unprepared unless you get the umbrella now.

Start building yourself and opportunities for income now. It’s never too early and it’s never too late. It is always the right time. Reacting is never the right thing to do.

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Living my life as an experiment has given me a valuable “to the side and slightly elevated” vantage point.

What does that mean? That while I am in the midst of whatever is going on, whatever is bothering me, I am also viewing it from a point not in the midst of.

Example: My landlord treats me like a dirty rag. That is a sentence from he midst of… From the side I can see that it is his self defense. He is a bad landlord who needs this property to suck the money out of so he and his family can live the way they want to live. I can understand his point of view. It doesn’t mesh well with mine, but such is life. But the dirty rag thing is the figment of my imagination.

I am peaceful, at least have been for the past year or so. Yesterday and today are different.

My first thought is wtf? Did I lose my vibration? I am restless, I am harboring nasty thoughts, I am angry… not peaceful at all.

Enter the special vantage point: I can see that I am scratching myself, I am slapping myself… the mosquito invasion is getting to me. The bait station has arrived, I have set it up, but the info sheet says it will start catching mosquitoes in 2-3 weeks… Fasten my seat belt, world… I am not my usual nice self.

And that whole situation has suddenly made me understand a principle, Maslow’s hierarchy of needs, that until now was just buzz words to me.

This theory says that a human being has all kinds of needs. Physiological, safety, love and belonging, esteem and self-actualization needs.

The most important aspect of this theory, from the point of view of what’s happening to me, is that unless the “lower” needs are fulfilled, one has no energy and no real desire for the higher needs, like self-actualization.

Maslow’s hierarchy of needs is often portrayed in the shape of a pyramid, with the largest and most fundamental levels of needs at the bottom, and the need for self-actualization at the top.

The most fundamental and basic four layers of the pyramid contain what Maslow called “deficiency needs” or “d-needs”: esteem, friendship and love, security, and physical needs.

With the exception of the most fundamental (physiological) needs, if these “deficiency needs” are not met, the body gives no physical indication but the individual feels anxious and tense.

Maslow’s theory suggests that the most basic level of needs must be met before the individual will strongly desire (or focus motivation upon) the secondary or higher level needs.

Maslow also coined the term Metamotivation to describe the motivation of people who go beyond the scope of the basic needs and strive for constant betterment.

Metamotivated people are driven by B-needs (Being Needs), instead of deficiency needs (D-Needs).

And although I am mostly one of these metamotivated people, in the presence of a mosquito invasion (no safety), with frequent visits from my landlord (no respect), it’s been harder to concentrate and allocated attention and focus on being needs.

Thanks to the methodology I use in my courses, in spite of all this “invasion” I have been well and even productive.

I have been teaching with this methodology combined with an activator each session. The lessons were delivered in a webinar and the webinar recordings are available for purchase.

The best way to do this course is to do one webinar a week so you have time to practice the principles given in the homework.

The course is delivered in a membership site and you can sign up here

You can cancel any time. You get one lesson per week. If you do your homework, I can guarantee that your vibration will rise and your experience of life will change dramatically.

Go and buy it. The first week you’ll get 4 webinars, I want you to get all the background, and everything you need.

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How You Do Anything Is How You Do Everything

As usual, I didn’t invent this sentence, but as far as I can see it is true, every single time.

People say: I did that… but I don’t normally do that. I never do this… but of course, they do. Cheat, lie, go back on their word, no show up, not call, keep you waiting, gossip about you… you know the stuff that people do. People like you.

Let me give you a few examples, and how it can be your best “coach” if you have the desire to improve your life, raise your vibration, feel better, etc. Because how you feel about yourself is what gives you the quality of your life.

If you love yourself, you love your life. If you look in the mirror and you see a jolly good fellow, or a winner, or a courageous broad, you love yourself and you love your life.

So let us see what examples of common self-delusion that you can catch with the phrase in the title:

A friend of mine called me the other day. She was in the car heading north. What’s there that you are going there, I asked? A place with electricity, she answered.

Next day she was heading back to the state where she lives: the power has been restored.

I have known this woman, and was always puzzled how come, that she never accomplishes anything that requires persistence. I got a quick peek this time, a perfect answer. The moment her comfort is threatened, the moment things go awry, she runs for the hills.

Another example: one of my clues about myself: I often say to my students: it is too late to dig a well when you are thirsty… but I catch myself, time and again, taking action only after the trouble is unbearable. I ordered mosquito traps yesterday. They will be here tomorrow, but tonight, I am spending more time chasing and killing mosquitoes than writing. My head is covered with bites, my ankle, ditto, and I can barely concentrate long enough to write a whole sentence… lol

Another person, a body worker, loves calling me on the phone. He either talks about himself, asking for my coaching, or he talks about my stuff, has ideas for me, then starts talking about my stuff as ours… What is yours is ours, what is mine is none of your business.

I am a professional coach. He never thinks about paying me for what I do for him. But when he touches my body, he has his hand out for his fee.

Everything that has value it does because he put it there. How you do anything is how you do everything.

Yet another person, no matter what we are talking about, has a lot of knowledge to offer. But he doesn’t take action. He hesitates, he mulls it over, he has a real hard time even to decide what to do. He looks into his knowledge for his answers, but he can’t find it there: decisions are about the future, not about the past. All knowledge you have is about the past. The future is yet to be.

Watch yourself, how you do things, and you can see what are the things that hold you back in life, that keep your vibration on the low side. These are the areas that once you remove the self-delusion and tell the truth, you can start making changes.

Not before. The whole area has to move, so mapping it before you start making changes is going to be the difference between a flash-in-the-pan or lasting transformation.

If you think you could use some help in that, consider the Daily Connection, which is twice a week nowadays. https://yourvibration.com/daily-connection/ to sign up. Once you find out what’s between you and what you want, you can do the exercises that sharpen your perception, clarify the muddy thoughts, and allow the activators, part of the Daily Connection to produce miracles in your life. Be prepared to be impressed. With yourself, of course

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Why An Activator Cannot Change Your Behavior, Only You Can?

What happens when you get an activator downloaded to you? Even though the activator (a set of statements that are worded as commands, and are very similar to affirmations) alters the “terrain” or the balance of power in the sub-conscious, those affirmations will not alter your behavior.

What will alter your behavior?

Well, it is both simple and complicated to alter your behavior.

Your behavior will be consistent with how the world occurs for you.

For example: if the world seems friendly and helpful to you, you will ask for help.
If the world seems competitive, or unfriendly to you, you will never ask for help.

If you seem capable to yourself, you will do things that capable people do: try new things. On the other hand, if you seem like a certified loser and a screw-up to yourself, you will avoid anything new and will settle for repetitive, risk-free jobs. And even if circumstances presented you with challenges and you aced them, when the circumstances are not pressing, you still won’t go for risk like a capable person: your successes didn’t change your mind about yourself. You probably justified your successes as a fluke… not as a proof that you are capable.

Which means that you can’t accidentally change your mind about yourself. You need know what is the content of your worldview and you need to set out to change the content, one sentence at a time.

The activators will make it 100 times easier. But you still need to do the work. Why? Why can’t Source just change you?

Because those sentences and the behaviors consistent with them are hard-wired in your brain.

I’ve been reading a book on brain plasticity, ² and slowly am starting to understand why the so-called self-help gurus are ineffective. Why the methods are ineffective. And why, if people don’t know why they get a workbook, why do exercises, they won’t.

I remember I did the Millionaire Mind Intensive in 2005. I loved it. I started to do the 90-day workbook, and started to see results. Big ones.

There was an investment meeting in NYC. I was early. I hung out in the vestibule and had a conversation with at least 50 people. None of them did the exercises. Not one. I was so uncomfortable being the only one, that I stopped doing the practices, and my financial situation went back to what it was before the course.

When I look at the exercises in that booklet, I find proof positive to the “theory” above: you need to create new “brain map” that are consistent with the new view: just changing the view will not do anything. No change. Enlightened losers… lol.

The simple rule is: Cells that fire together, wire together. The exercises cause the re-wiring of the brain by making certain cells fire together. It sounds complicated, but it isn’t.

Put in simple way, new habits, new capacities need to create a new brain-pattern for your behavior and your life to change permanently.

The teacher’s job is to create good exercises. Your job is to do them, but not as exercises only, but as the beginning of your new life.

What would have happened to you if at age 1 you had decided that trying to walk once should be enough, and you should not practice walking? You would be still crawling… Not a whole lot of money making opportunities for crawlers. No cars, no sports, no furniture for crawlers.

You have, unconsciously, learned a lot of things and those got you where you are today. If you don’t like them, you will need to learn new ways, and it will take time.

Your brain was completely plastic when you were a little kid and you decided that you were incapable. Then you practiced it for 30-40-50 years. And now you expect a short little meditation to change you completely?

Fat chance.

The first step, getting the new ideas into the subconscious is done with the activator. That was the easy part. Now, with your adult, not so plastic brain, you need to learn new tricks… connect those statements with actions. In reality.

By doing the things you always wanted to do…

Do them badly first, but do them. That is what is going to cause the rewiring of the brain.

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Connecting To Source: Removing The Limited Perspective Of The Human Mind

In this article I’d like to share about one benefit that you see when you connect, and you connect regularly.

In the 6,000 years that we’ve been voluntarily disconnected from our Source, we have been limited to the vantage point being ground-bound, physical existence-bound, mind-bound, past-bound.

In spite of the fact that almost as soon as we disconnected, we started to build Upper Worlds of our own design, we are still EArth Bound.

What does this mean? This means that the real nature of reality, the holographic nature of it, is hidden from our view. Even if scientists, including quantum greats, talk about it, even their view of reality is earth-bound.

What does that mean? That it’s a limited perspective. It comes and deeply rooted in our powerlessness, and our being at the mercy of some spirits, and angels, and dark side, and some god who sits on a throne and passes judgment. Even if that same god sent “his son” and all that.

That whole world, the Upper Worlds, given that we created them, from our earth-bound point of view, are out of our reach.

Although I didn’t like Marianne Williamson’s energy in the only book I read from her, I love the inspired quote:

“Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are POWERFUL BEYOND MEASURE. It is our LIGHT, not our darkness that most frightens us. We ask ourselves, Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous,talented, fabulous? Actually, who are you not to be? You are a child of God. YOUR PLAYING SMALL DOES NOT SERVE THE WORLD. There is nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won’t feel insecure around you. WE ARE ALL MEANT TO SHINE, as children do. We were born to make manifest the glory of God that is within us. It’s not just in some of us; IT’S IN EVERYONE. And as we LET OUR OWN LIGHT SHINE, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same. As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others.” –Marianne Williamson

Now, I don’t know how Marianne Williamson came to this conclusion, but I assume that for a brief moment she connected to something that accessed the true nature of the Universe. It wasn’t herself: my muscletest says that she never actually connected directly to Source. But the quote is. It is connected.

Let me share a recent insight, a glimpse I “stole” that shows me to what degree our limited perspective keeps us from being who we were meant to be, and how connecting can make all the difference.

Not very fast, mind you, I have been connecting for quite some time!

If you have read other articles of mine, you know that I use a computer game, a version of solitaire, Freecell, to both train myself and test myself.

So far the most important accomplishment I got from these exercises is that I can stop, for a moment, when I am sure that I am losing the game, and say: “It ain’t necessarily so.”

I look, I follow all the possible moves I could make, and it is obvious to me that I am losing this game. I am still not hitting restart. I say “It ain’t necessarily so…” and I make sure I am connected, I am willing to be made wrong, I am willing to find out that I am blind, stupid, mistaken… whatever label you want to put on a mistake.

Then, I take a deep breath, concentrate on my connection (the Tangerine Spot) and look again. 4 out of 5 “lost” games turn out to be a few steps away from being winning games.

It is not that the game changed, though I have never taken a screen shot. What changed is where I am looking from. Once I am connected I am tuned into my own god-nature. And from there most things are not impossible.

It’s unsettling, it’s rattling my cage, it makes me grieve for all the opportunities I have missed in my life, but after brief periods of grieving, I rejoice for what the future holds for me.

In my sessions with my students I see the same amazement, the same opening of the eyes to what was before invisible, hidden, veiled, and with connection it is now there for the person to see.

And this is the kind of transformation that you can expect when you connect to Source, allow Source to do its work to catch up to today…

The more you connect, the more you ask Source to do the work Source finds important to do. Instead of considering Source your personal assistant, a boy-Friday or a girl-Friday… you will surrender to what Source deems to do for you, and be grateful for that.

Your ego will be bristled, because the man-made laws corrupted you, meaning Law of Attraction, or religions, but if you can contain your ego, Source’s energy will eventually reach your present circumstances and start working on those.

Not my will, by thy will be done… is one of the sentences I see haven’t been corrupted by faulty translations and interpretations from the original message.

Just connect, connect long and deep. Your bliss is forthcoming.

The limitations you now see will be removed from your “eyes” and you will be able to accomplish what you have always wanted, you always hoped you could, but didn’t believe.

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