As difficult as dirty dishes can be, they’re even worse when you let them sit for a while. And the longer they sit, the harder they are to clean.

This is life. Something that is potentially easy to clean up right after it happens – an unkind word to your father, a lie to your best friend, an insensitivity to your girlfriend – can become a difficult mess if you don’t deal with it now.

Do the dishes today.

I have been thinking about Kaizen a lot. Kaizen can be the saving grace for a lot of people, because Kaizen is a way of life, a non-threatening way, but it is an awake way, and most of us are not awake, get jolted out of our sleepwalking by big things only. I am awake, and Kaizen is for me.

So I decided to use Kaizen to ease back into exercising. Since I stopped exercising, my face aged 10-20 years. That is a lot. I used to have no wrinkles, now I have folds, and wrinkles inside the folds… not pretty.

I have no special occasion to be pretty at, I just think that looking into the mirror should be a joyous occasion, not an occasion to berate myself.

So I am now doing 15 seconds of the exercise I used to do. I am happy. It is starting to show on my face. Hm.

Another Kaizen thing: in airplane bathrooms there is a sign that says something like this: would you be so kind as to use your paper towel to clean the sink before you throw it away?

Very Kaizen. Imagine going to the bathroom and someone’s soapy dirty washwater is still in the sink. (The airplane sink stopper needs to be manually lifted, otherwise it stops the water from emptying…) I would never wash my hand again on an airplane. But with that little Kaizen note, most 99% of the passengers follow the instructions, and everyone washes their hand. (I think that sign also reminds people to wash their hands, which many people don’t see a reason for… ).

And the third Kaizen example I read about in a Kaizen book, and it is about Toyota. The factory. They learned Kaizen from Americans… who would have thought… from Americans.

At Toyota, manufacturing cars happens on the assembly line. Nothing new there. In a normal assembly line everyone is concerned only about their part of the assembly, and the occasional errors are noticed and corrected, or not noticed and not corrected at the quality control station.

Toyota’s then CEO installed a rope switch above every workstation along the assembly line, where workers were asked to pull the rope every time they noticed an error in the work on the half-assembled car in front of them. The pull stopped the assembly line, they corrected the error, and pulled again to re-start…

It was a heretic idea, going counter with mass production. American auto manufacturers, that relied on quality control, had thousands of cars recalled, paid billions in restitution for tiny errors that weren’t corrected right after they happened.

Toyota went on to become the most reliable car. 250K cars are still sold and they run the highways: it is commonplace, while even an ‘error-free’ American car would be proud to run till 200K.

Which leads me to the ‘boundaries’ part.

It is still my cat that is on my mind. Or my previous failed relationship. Or my previous failed New Year resolution. Where, in all circumstances, I ignored, put up with, tolerated, shut a blind eye to a small aberration, a small violation of my boundaries, a little mistake, a little skipping… and they all became the core of a snow ball and destroyed an otherwise hopeful relationship, or my health, or my results.

Do the dishes soon after they get dirty. And stay awake. I have learned my lesson.

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Great question, right? After all, most things we get for our hard earned money are BS. So would it be possible that you can get the real deal for nothing? I mean no money… you still need to put in some effort, but the result you will get will be the result you seek, instead of shooting blanks.

Anyway, I was looking at my videos today. I compared two, one I really loved and it brought me a lot of success 18 months ago, and the one I made yesterday. In a lot of way the two videos are very similar and I am real on them, so it’s a good comparison.

The first thing that struck me is the place that I laugh from on the two videos. And the second thing is how much younger I look today.

And don’t be mistaken: this job is long hours, hard work, and low or no pay… so I should look more tired and older… but I don’t.

I also look much much happier, for no reason.

Watch them for yourself, and tell me if I am right… or if I g-o-d forbid, I have a slanted filter for glasses… lol

Here are the videos. Enjoy.

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Why Am I Miserable? Why You Are Miserable? The Most Binding Agreements Are The Ones You Never Made

I had a session with a client. The conversation went to one of my ‘favorite’ topics: why wives stop wanting intimacy after the children are born.

This is a big issue for men, and destroys many marriages.

The topic, the issue, reveals the tip of a significant iceberg.

You recall from your studies (I hope) that icebergs are those big chunks of ice, the shape of a pyramid, where only the tip of that pyramid shows above the water level, the rest of it is underwater.

If I remember correctly, hitting one of those is what sunk the Titanic.

With most things in life, the invisible part is what wreaks havoc, unless there is an awareness.

Law of Attraction teachers teach about that. Transformational coaches cause transformation by simply revealing that. Medical mediums, medical intuitives cause an opportunity for healing by simply seeing what’s hidden.

This article is an exploration for my book on the unexamined life. Living an examined life gives you the power of the Original Design, where you safely and skillfully navigate the waters of reality, where you actually live like the Powerful Creator you are, instead of languishing and creating what you don’t want.

The following is an exploration of the machinery underneath one of my behaviors that has robbed me of being able to be in relationships and have power. It is exploring the machine: most of what is being said is said by the machine… so listen, please, that way. OK?

I had an interesting experience last Saturday: I was on a webinar with a client/coach of mine. I observed her being just as friendly and just as warm with all the people on the call, as she has been with me. I felt a pang of jealousy, and it felt bad.

I started to pay attention, enrolled Source in looking with me (you can never have enough help!) and what was there, underneath: I claimed this person, and she is mine. WTF!

Not only that, I also saw that I expect people to claim me, and if they don’t, I know they don’t love me.

In every relationship I have had this machine engaged after about a week or two. It made me claim the other person, and forced the other person to claim me.

Not like there were any conditions, no. Often I didn’t like the other person. Often we didn’t have a good time. Often they were abusive, etc. But the machine didn’t care: I claimed them, they claimed me, and we were stuck in a relationship that didn’t work.

Now, listen up: the next phase was: I stopped doing the things I liked to do. I stopped pursuing my goals. I stopped having friends. I started to turn myself completely over to this person. I was claimed, and that is what a claimed person does!

When I eventually came out of these “relationships” I was alone, no friends, no goals, no money…

Now, let’s return to the client and the wife who doesn’t want intimacy.

It goes like this: we live in a monogamous society. It is not the natural way: men, at some point, decided that it gives them more power if they combine their fortune with the wife’s family’s fortune, and create a clan.

It’s OK, I am not knocking it, but you need to know that it didn’t come from our higher, or even our lower nature, it came from an economic consideration.

When a woman needs to choose between her children or her husband, that choice is not by nature and not by design: it reveals a cultural conversation, that is like an immersed iceberg: you can only be claimed by one party, not two. A version of monogamy, I suppose.

But if this iceberg were revealed, and women saw what is the rule that is running the show, I bet they would choose continued intimacy, partnership, warmth with their husbands and taking care of the children as compatible, and healthy, side by side activities, or commitments, not as an either one or the other choice.

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Why is it that once really effective, brilliant, and spot on spiritual and transformational teachers are not able to come up with technologies and distinctions that would transform the participants in their courses into accomplishing, fulfilled, and satisfied mavens? Why is that?

I had some unexpected glimpses into this today, and I am going to share them as fast as I can, before they disappear for me.

Because the nature of glimpses into what works, what we are swimming in, is fleeting, like the memory of “water!” for the fish that once jumped out of water… and saw it, until he was back in it again.

I have been wondering why what people teach doesn’t work. It doesn’t just not work for the masses that don’t use it as a system, but pick and choose, mix and match, until what they are cooking is unrecognizable and can’t work.

No, I don’t mean the 98%-ers. I mean the 1-2 percenters. When they test it, it doesn’t work.

I shared a major missing step with one of my teachers today, and when she heard it there was this long silence. I let her sit in the silence. Then she said: you know, as I look back, that is exactly what I did: but I never thought that I did that. Not only that, whenever I start a new project: I do that. It is in my nature, but I never thought of teaching it to anyone.

Great catch. Now we identified, at least one reason why what people teach doesn’t work.

What is this magical step, you ask? It is called: clearing the deck.

I am an architect, so I’ll use an example from building, but then I’ll find you one from cooking and gardening: it’s going to surprise you how come you never thought of using the same principle when it’s about your life!

So, when we want to build a building, we first survey the area. We either get a geological map, or we drill down to see how the soil is, and what kind of and how deep foundation we need. We find out if there is ground-water.

We find out what are the regulations, distance from neighbors, maximum height, how many cars need to be on-site parked, you know, legal stuff.

If you listen carefully, most students that I talk about, haven’t the faintest clue about these (or parallel conditions in their lives.) How about yours?

The an architect designs a building to the owners’ specifications. Advises them to design within their budget, advises them to rather plan for expanding than blowing all their funds on building a castle that will be expensive to maintain, and won’t be needed for a few years. Fastest way to be house poor: have a big house but no money to live.

Or if it is a business, make sure you have money to advertise your new business and market it for a long time, not expecting any returns: that is the nature of the beast. Most businesses don’t even break even for 1-3 years… will you have money to continue?

Then we clear the grounds from trees, bushes, top-soil, rocks, bricks, debris. We don’t start to do anything until we do that.

Why? Because you need to build on solid ground, otherwise what you are building won’t stand.

Here is how it is in cooking: you clean the counter. You clean the stove. You remove the dirty dishes, wash the stuff you are going to use.

If you didn’t, the leftover of yesterday’s lamb stew would surely spoil today’s chicken fricassee…
And in the garden you pull the weed, remove the rocks and pebbles, pick out the visible pests. You won’t waste your new plants or seeds by putting them into something that will prevent it from growing optimally.

Now, what do people do in their lives? They want, let’s say, more money. They decide to start a business.

Starting a business is a lot like building a house. You find out what you know, what you don’t. How much time you have to invest. What are the skills you have and what will you be willing to learn. What would you love to do? What will you need? How much will it cost?

Most people, listening to the Law of Attraction teachers, spend a few minutes fantasizing about what they saw on TV’s wealthy people shows, decide that’s what they want, and then wait for it to appear.

I know people that are not willing to read a book that would help them to do a business that probably will require to read 30 books. “30 books? I have read two in my life, and that’s enough for me…” they say. “No need for books, I’ll just create things as I go…”

Right, I say.

Now, why don’t these teachers teach that you need to do inventory, and exploratory work, and removal of debris and anything else that’s there?

Because they are afraid that if people find out that work is involved they will run.

True. They will. But how can you live with yourself looking in the mirror knowing that you have mislead people, that you have added to the misery on the planet to make a few bucks?

That is the question.

And you, the buyer of bs: how can you live with yourself knowing that you are only fooling yourself?

Magical thinking is for children. If you are an adult, you will need to do work to have any results. No exception. No matter what the Law of Attraction and other unscrupulous teachers tell you. They worked long and hard to be where they are. Or did you think they just suddenly got there? Think again!

Oh, and to answer the question I started with: you need to struggle with something and find a solution and then turn around to teach it for it to be effective. Smooth talking arrived teachers can’t teach. Just like people who were born with the capacity to connect can’t teach you to connect. People whose high vibration is due to having a near death experience can’t teach you how to raise your vibration.

On the other hand, someone who has never found the solution can’t teach you much either. People whose vibration is under 250 or even 295 can’t teach you how to raise your vibration. They never consciously did it themselves. How could they teach it?

Did I manage to confuse you completely? Please comment below.

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Sometime in August the Dark Side disappeared. I did it.

It was an accident. I intended to destroy the Dark Side, yes, some day, in some special way, but the actual doing it was quite an accident. I was surprised when it happened.

I was working on the first phase activation of the countries. I found a small bunch of countries, among them my birthplace, that registered as “gone over to the Dark Side” and their vibration was low, and they weren’t accepting the activation.

Then I was working on a person, a tester, and felt that somehow the Dark Side was wedged between him and myself. I asked Source if I can just download the activator to the wedged Dark Side. The answer was yes, so I did it. It went through. It left silence and peace in its wake.

Muscletest showed that it went to 0… before that it was gradually diminishing, from 55% when I started in July to… 5 or 10%, I don’t recall.

I was elated. I was really happy.

I frequently measured after that, and it stayed at zero for three months.

Then it started to show an increase. It’s at 2% now.

It’s all fine and dandy, but what is Dark Side?

People that come to my site to look for stories of the Dark Side, movies, etc. depict Dark Side as an organization hellbent on destroying life on the planet. Right? Conspiracy theories. The Dark Planet…

But just like I got a new definition of what’s evil a few months ago, yesterday I got a new definition of what is Dark Side.

Let me first give you the definitions before I give you the story.”

OK, Evil. In my conversations with Source it has become clear that evil is a simple (as in uncomplicated) phenomenon. It is simply desire to receive for the self alone.

Even simpler put, wanting something that gives you what you want by taking it away from another or others. Taking something that belongs to another. Like making someone wrong. Like shaming a child. Like gossiping. Like avoiding responsibility. Like blaming. Like justifying yourself. Like making someone look bad. All the moves of ego.

Without human interaction, there is no evil in the universe. Evil is an entirely human phenomenon because only humans have ego. Only human can want something for themselves at the expense of another.

A lion chasing, catching and eating an antelope is part of life. It is part of the great circle of life. But for a human it looks like the “poor cute” antelope is more important than the lion and therefore the lion should starve. What the human does is desire to receive for the self alone. The human sacrifices another for their idea of what’s right and what’s wrong.

The humna, you! interfered with the order of life… and you decide who is deserving and who isn’t.

How is that desire to receive for the self alone? Good question. It is you, the self-righteous one, who is the evil. The self appointed judge, You, are right and declare everything that is life wrong. You interfere. For your own selfish gratification of being right.

Evil is about being right, looking good, dominating, winning, justifying, assigning blame, and avoiding responsibility at the expense of life. Life as a whole. Reducing space for all of life. To gratify your ego.

Government can become a tool of evil. Church can become a tool of evil. Reforms, laws, groups of men, organizations, KKK, etc… can become a tool of evil. If they “rig” life, they are.

Simple. A corporation that destroys or poisons the environment pretending to do good is a tool of evil in doing that. But only that part of the corporation is that. The main activity of the corporation is good. It serves the public, it creates products that people are willing to pay for. Business is good. It creates progress, it creates jobs, it serves people, it serves life. But a business, an entity that has ego, when it is ego serving, it is on the side of evil.

OK, then what is Dark Side? Isn’t that the same as Evil? The people that do evil for the Dark Side… it would make sense. Surprisingly that is not the case.

Dark Side is the pre-occupation with perceived evil.

Dark Side is looking for evil outside of you. Dark Side is thinking that you are good and others are engaged in wrongdoing.

Dark Side is more dangerous than Evil, because Dark Side is a thinking phenomenon: it is creating that which it thinks about.

When in early August Dark Side got eliminated, evil was doing what evil does, acts of desire to receive for the self alone. People did what they did before. But, compared to before, there was a deep silence in the world. It was tangible for an empath like myself.

Dark Side is a buzzing, a vibration. It’s the engaging in opinionating, writing, thinking, weeping, complaining about perceived evil.

So when you are complaining about government, about the guy who didn’t pay you, about the rapists, the murderers, the thieves, the thugs, the good old boys club, the monopolies, the secret societies, the conspiracies, the catastrophes forthcoming in 2012, you are creating and strengthening the Dark Side and at the same time you are engaging in Evil-doing.

When you just simply do evil, (desire to receive for the self alone) you are only hurting some people. When you focus your thoughts on “evil” you are creating it as an entity, poisoning the planet, poisoning the environment, killing all of life.

When man ate from the Tree of Good and Evil, the Tree of Knowledge (could be called the Tree of your opinion!) Dark Side was born.

Did people do acts of desire to receive for the self alone before this turning point? Yes. Of course. Selfishness is our nature. But we didn’t dwell there, we didn’t walk around with our fingers pointing at others and pronouncing them good or evil. No, we were busy doing what it took to stay alive. Doing what we did, hunt, gather, love, hate, kill, give birth… whatever we still do. Except this opinionating part. We do more of that today… again.

So, let’s see what happened to me that I could finally see how this works. As usual I had to go through pain to learn. Oh well, I guess this is how it works for the “chosen” people, lol.

A week or two ago a classmate of mine proudly announced that her first article was published on Technorati, a famous website. I went to read it. The article was about the Penn State scandal. I had heard nothing about it, so I researched it.

The story hooked me. It was like an single cigarette to an ex smoker. It was like a sip of drink for a recovering alcoholic. It (the addiction machine) wanted more… and I felt myself falling deeper and deeper into the abyss of victimhood and blaming.

Lucky to us, I kept my eyes open. I was observing it while another aspect of mine was in it. ¹

There should be an anonymous group for victims, where the first sentence is instead of “I am powerless over alcohol” it would be “I declare that I am powerless over victimhood” in the AA group for recovering victims.

There is a victimhood nerve path that is just thinly covered with “life” but it’s there, ready to take over life, and turn your life back into “they did that to me” and “they are evil” “poor me” “poor them” baaah baaah baaah.

You don’t know it’s horrible until you spent a few years outside of it, like I did. You feel so justified! You feel that if you don’t say what you “need” to say, it will be horrible for the whole world!

Activists are like this. Most charitable organizations are like this. Trying to save people from the wrongdoing of others. Having to, needing to, wanting to, and should… the main moves of the machine.

One of my closest friends is an expert at that… she fell back to it at the same time as I did. We had a long talk last night, and she is back at life, she is free, she is happy.

When I muscletested, Dark Side was back to 2%.

It is time to put attention back to life and away from the perceived evil. You, me, all of us that want Life to win.

We do want that, don’t we?

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Go to https://yourvibration.com/daily-connection/

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What is Soul? I don’t know. Although I know a lot about Soul, I don’t know what Soul is… as much as I don’t know what Source is.

In the Old Testament the word “know” had no intellectual knowledge meaning: it actually meant “get intimate with.” Sexually, or otherwise.

You get intimate with a jacket by trying it on and wearing it for a while. Same with a pair of shoes.

Intellectual knowledge is not knowing, it’s knowing about: a world of difference.

Do you know the dish roasted potatoes with rosemary? You can know a lot about it. Maybe you even think of differentiating between this type of potato or that type of potato. Dried or fresh rosemary. Made with olive oil or some other fat… etc.

Does that mean you know the dish? The only place to know it from is the intimate relationship of eating it.

Now, let us take to the area of your worldview: knowing Source, knowing Soul… knowing your Self.

How many of you spend any intimate time with yourself? Not many, I assert. I once heard someone brag that they had a wonderful trip to Europe, they spent some time in two capitals, in 3 airports, and flew above 8 others…

Laugh, but make it the laughter of recognition. Add a hint of embarrassment to it… done? OK, you are at the place where you can start reading this article. Thank you.

We know, about the Soul, how it was created and what for… The Creator, Source, needed something to hold its benevolence, receive its light, and for that purpose it created the Vessel. The nature of the Vessel is to receive. The Souls are the fregments of the original Vessel… still with the base nature to receive.

In the Big Bang incident an impulsive Vessel refused to receive the light of the Creator and declared that it wanted to earn its light.

Bold statement. No capacity, innate or learned, to actually do so. Going against its grain, going against its design.

The Creator complied and a new agreement was born: the Soul won’t get any light unless it either earns it or requests it. That is the agreement that is still in effect.

The Soul that has taken up residence in you is interested in two things: it is interested in receiving, because that is its nature. And it’s interested in earning its light, because that is the pathway to receiving light. Not an enviable position.

The Soul’s job is to enroll the human to do it together, but it has formidable competition for the attention of the human… and also teachings that are counter with what would work.

For the most part the human ignores the existence and the needs of the Soul. Or it doesn’t know about it. Or it knows that there is no such thing, as it is for half of humanity…

So when people think that the Soul is this hardy little indestructible being, able and willing to take any abuse, physical, or emotional, they are wrong.

One of the things I learned from Theta Healing is to visualize Soul and then re-build it, reattach parts of it that it lost to earlier attachments, abuse, trade… etc.

The Soul that I saw was a few shards from a whole sphere… not even able to spin evenly, it was wiggling, limping.

I worked on rebuilding, restoring the Soul to its original glory, using Vianna Stibal’s method, and it took me 5 sessions, more than an hour intense meditation each.

Two thirds of the fragments were lost in previous lifetimes… but because nothing disappears, I could reclaim those fragments as easily as the recently lost ones.

So there goes the hardy little indestructible being theory… does not hold water.

Now, why is it good to “know” Soul? Because when Soul gets what it needs, your life goes easier. When Soul can earn its light through your actions, you both get light. When Soul doesn’t: you both starve for the light.

The reason humans die is because they are disconnected and their power source, their battery, runs out of power.

If you want to live longer and have more fun, your best bet is to know Soul, work with Soul, and help Soul earn its light.

Your vibration only rises when you do that. You only get light from Source when you do that. Watching countless individuals from all different cultures, it isn’t easy. But it’s possible.

This is what I teach. This is what I excel at. This is what I was born to do. And, ultimately, this is what YOU were born to do, though no one ever told you. But it is not too late.

Start by signing up to my notification list, so I can invite you when I post more articles.

Second: sign up to my Connection meditation class, conveniently scheduled twice a week, Saturday morning and Saturday evening.

You’ll be glad you did it.

You may also want to read my previous article on soul… very personal… https://yourvibration.com/427/biggest-pain-biggest-blessing/

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Grieving The Loss Of A Child… Whether They Died Or Just Gone to Live Their Own Life

No matter how you slice it, a big change like this, even if it is the best of the child, is a huge trauma for the parent, especially the mother.

Most mothers are programmed to care for their young ones, but while they are doing that, they forget to be themselves, forget to rebuild a life of their own, so when the child dies, or leaves, they are left with nothing.

I have a student whose children live in other countries, you can’t just offer to drop by, bring some good home-made cooking, or babysit their child while they attend to other things.

You experience your life empty, your self butchered. It seems that the only way the damage can be repaired if you reunite with the child: wish it to come back, or move to the country where they are living.

If you have a loss, you think your loss is very different from other people’s. You think losing a child to death is different from losing a spouse or a parent. Or losing a child to illness is different from losing a child to a violent death.

Losing someone with whom you strongly identified yourself is always traumatic, experienced or not.

I number of decades my father left my mother exactly at the same time when my uncle died, my mother’s uncle really. The two “widows” got together for a day or sharing, but it ended poorly: they got into a physical fight about who suffers more, whose pain is bigger.

They were both right. Your own pain is always bigger, to you, than anyone else’s pain. Because you experience it directly, not through empathy.

What I am trying to say here is that losing a close person with whom your whole existence was intertwined, is a loss that requires recovering from.

You recover your self from the entanglement, you may even rebuild your self, but you can’t do that until you grieved. Until you completely and totally get the finality of the loss. Until you get that there is no hope. That it is true, it is real, and that’s that.

That is the first step you need to accomplish, and I have seen a lot of people taking years to accomplish that first step.

There is a lot of work to be done there. In addition to getting the finality, as a concept, you need to get it in detail, as an actuality.

My mom visited me from Hungary in 1992, and then died in 1995. I dreamed about traveling cross country with her in an RV… she would have been the perfect person to do that with. Hardy, enjoys and appreciates different sceneries, different foods, different cultural varieties: I so wanted to do that with her.

When she died, two things died with her:

1. I was never going to experience being loved by my mother… all hope was lost. I never experienced that while she was alive, and now it’s over.
2. That trip, cross country, and all the other ways I wanted to contribute to her were gone.

It took me ten years to accept the finality, and sometimes even today I catch myself a twinge of pain here and there when I think about that trip.

What ended the ten years “holding my breath” or “waiting to exhale” was a new knowledge, that the soul hangs out at least for a year before it moves on, and even more importantly, some souls are afraid to move on, and you can help them with that.

My mother was abusive with me and, I think, she felt very guilty about that. She asked me once, when she was visiting, and I assured her that I turned out, so she must have been a good mother, but it was like a band-aid for her, didn’t really convince her.

So when she died I could feel her hanging around, brooding, even trying to make herself felt.

One evening I set on my bed with a back pillow and connected with her. I told her that it was OK for her to go “home” and know that the faster she goes the more time she will have to try it again, next time love her child instead.

I could feel her caress my face and ascend. I experienced peace, and I experienced my own power: I set my mother free.

Now I can light candles on her birthday and on her death anniversary and just celebrate her life. That is getting into the second phase.

The second phase is finding yourself and your own purpose independent and liberated from caring for and caring about the departed.

It is not easy, so be prepared that, as with anything, you can’t just jump from a to z. You need to actually say the whole alphabet, or the missed steps will bite your butt later.

You can’t jump from grieving and feeling a part of you died to being passionate about life.

If you do, it’s a pretense, or the original question wasn’t accurate: you never felt a part of you died. You are lucky, but exceptional.

It takes healing, silence, time, and energy to build a passion that will carry you as an independent entity forward.

Connecting to the Creator of All That Is is a power source that never lets you down, that is intelligent and sends the light and the healing energy where you wouldn’t think to send it: to the past.

Connecting, on the second level, with the Tangerine Method, 5-10 minutes daily can shorten your recovery without feeling that you betrayed your loved one: they are there rooting for you, they want you to be happy, joyful, and alive.

Death for the spirit is not the same as the people left behind: death for the spirit is returning to their native state: not having to carry a body, care for a body, worry about a body, or a mind. Death for the spirit is joyful.

Come and learn to connect, experience the connection meditation in a small group, every Saturday 9 am and 9 pm. You can stay for an hour or for 30 minutes. I make sure to check you are connected and if you are having difficulties I can point out exactly where you need to put in a slight correction.

Connection meditations

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Sweep The Floor, Wash The Windows, Vs. Move To A New House Or A New Country… Or The Different Modalities Of Self-Improvement, Self-Development And Transformation

I have been looking at some of my personal sticking points.

Addicted to milk, addicted to sugar, avoiding doing the laundry… these are just the tip of the ice berg.

Oh, you thought that I was beyond that? Oh, sorry to disappoint, you are never beyond that. Besides, if I were, I would not be writing these posts, it would be painfully boring.

Life is about growing, life is about being an advancing personality, not about comfortably teaching something that is a non-issue for me. Even if writing about it would potentially cause your growth: life is about each person becoming an advancing personality, not some teaching others to be that, so they can be off the hook…

Anyway, returning to my top of the iceberg imperfections: I am wondering what is the payoff.

You see, no one perpetuates a behavior that comes with a payoff that is smaller than the discomfort or cost. Catching a payoff without outside help is virtually impossible: it is like asking you to step over your shadow: by the time you step, it has moved ahead of you.

Why is it so difficult to see? Because it is like the water for the fish. It has shaped you and your life to the same degree that water has shaped the fish: its physiology, its psychology, everything.

So you either learn to jump out of the water long enough to notice it, or you need someone else to point it out to you.

The real payoff, the real water that shapes your life, doesn’t want to be recognized.

When a coach points it out, it’s a little dysphoric… that was it? But then in minutes it disappears. If it doesn’t, it wasn’t the real payoff. It takes seeing it a lot of times, before you can keep seeing it, over time.

Why? Because giving up a payoff requires a major life change, a major transformation, and it is never the right time to do that.

People quit their spiritual practice, their coach, their 12-step program… but the few that can face the tiger will rise to the top.

So what do coaches and self-improvement courses do instead? They help you to polish the apples, wash the windows of your life, sweep the floor, vacuum the carpet.

Do these activities make a difference? I swept the floor today, and yes, it made a difference. It brightened my apartment.

Did it cause transformation? No. But it wasn’t designed to cause transformation! Did it raise my vibration? No. But it wasn’t designed to raise my vibration. It brightened my day.

So why, so called transformational coaches and raise your vibration gurus tell you that they are doing transformation, or they raise your vibration? Because you buy that.

You are happy about your clean windows, you are happy about your shiny apples. And you like that you can pride yourself as a transformed being. That in conversations you can drop, casually, that you are raising your vibration. Don’t deny.

Except you aren’t. If it were that easy, There would be lots of people with a vibrational frequency on or above the level of unconditional love (540/1000 on the map of vibration)… instead of the ten (worldwide), at the time of this article.

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How Did I Put Myself Into The Vibrational Frequency Of Money? A Case Study

I have been spending money on my own training. Not as much as before: this time I only spend money on stuff I know I can totally consume: i.e. do all the exercises, attend all the classes, without having to give up on something important.

I used to spend 5-10 times more money, but normally I would drop all the balls… and end up empty handed.

So, I am spending less money, but getting tremendous value for each dollar I spend.

The truth is, for about 6 months, while I was intensely working on developing the technology of connecting, I didn’t buy anything, I didn’t go to any webinars, I didn’t read any sales letter. So I had no idea where people’s mindset was, and I was in blissful ignorance.

My other business is making enough money to pay the bills, and at this point this is good enough for me.

But a few days ago I came out of my self-imposed information-withdrawal mode, and started to pay attention to a few things:

people are trying to dig a well when they are already thirsty. Some of my students can’t afford to pay $7 for the recording of a session they missed, even though it could mean the difference between them wasting their time or getting all the pieces that work to produce reliable results in every area of life. They literally can’t afford the $7.

The level of magical thinking is through the roof… and the stuff that is still used, read, etc. is the kind of stuff that calms people, soothes their overexcited nerves: people are not at a pretty place.

The just introduced check your connection meditation is very successful. It gives people what they want: a moment of respite, a moment of rest, and hope for more.

But, or course, unless people take care of the fundamentals, the respite is an escape, it is hiding, it is “not facing the tiger.”

Today I was reflecting on my own situation. My income is steady. But why? Why is mine steady and yours is dropping? What did I do or do I do different?

Honestly, it wasn’t easy to see. It wasn’t one thing.

Here are the things I’ve been doing: 1. I have been strategically creating income sources, when I can see that I can. Sometimes the effort seems to be bigger than the result: this past spring a big advertising site closed. About a month before they closed a friend emailed me and suggested that I create a site to replace it.

I connected to Source and asked if it was a good thing to do. I felt no greed in my gut, I felt no aversion: I went for it.

I invested 200 of my hours and two whole months of my assistant’s paid time to actually do the work. It cost me about 1,000 dollars in salaries paid, plus my time and a bunch of visits to the chiropractor: it was a lot of repetitive work, lol.

In the first month the income was zero. In the second it was 14 dollars. In the third it was 139. Now it averages between 400 and 600 dollars a month, maybe more. It’s not an exact science… No additional work. One time large investment.

Every time I see some of that money in an email notification, I say “Thank You.” It is found money, as far as I am concerned. I worked back in May for 200 hours, the money in November seems disconnected from that work… doesn’t it. So I say Thank You. Every day. Or several times a day.

• That is one type of thing that I do, always. Build strategically to create income. Not large, but ongoing.
• The other thing I do is track. I track and tweak. Not fanatically, but at least once a week.
• And the third thing I do is stick by my principles. One of my main principles is never do anything for money that I would not be willing to do for free.

Interestingly, the past 5-6 days have been challenging: I have gotten 8 or 9 requests for personal coaching from people that I said no to.

I charge minimum $200 an hour of my time. So we are talking about a lot of of money I’ve said no to.

Why? Because those meeting would not have contributed anything other than money to me. Meaning: I would have only done for them for the money. No thank you, no I don’t do that.

My hunch is that it is a test. What is testing me? I don’t know. Kabbalists would say “The Opponent.” Christians would say “The Devil.” I say: I don’t know and I don’t care. I rejoice that I am tested. It means to me that I have been on the right path.

I take care of “digging wells” so I never get thirsty. It is easy to tempt a thirsty person, because a thirsty person wants to and needs to drink.

I make sure to put myself in the position when I neither want to, nor need to… anything.

And this is the teaching of this article. It may be the umbrella after the rain storm, but don’t forget, the next rain storm is on its way: it will catch you unprepared unless you get the umbrella now.

Start building yourself and opportunities for income now. It’s never too early and it’s never too late. It is always the right time. Reacting is never the right thing to do.

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Living my life as an experiment has given me a valuable “to the side and slightly elevated” vantage point.

What does that mean? That while I am in the midst of whatever is going on, whatever is bothering me, I am also viewing it from a point not in the midst of.

Example: My landlord treats me like a dirty rag. That is a sentence from he midst of… From the side I can see that it is his self defense. He is a bad landlord who needs this property to suck the money out of so he and his family can live the way they want to live. I can understand his point of view. It doesn’t mesh well with mine, but such is life. But the dirty rag thing is the figment of my imagination.

I am peaceful, at least have been for the past year or so. Yesterday and today are different.

My first thought is wtf? Did I lose my vibration? I am restless, I am harboring nasty thoughts, I am angry… not peaceful at all.

Enter the special vantage point: I can see that I am scratching myself, I am slapping myself… the mosquito invasion is getting to me. The bait station has arrived, I have set it up, but the info sheet says it will start catching mosquitoes in 2-3 weeks… Fasten my seat belt, world… I am not my usual nice self.

And that whole situation has suddenly made me understand a principle, Maslow’s hierarchy of needs, that until now was just buzz words to me.

This theory says that a human being has all kinds of needs. Physiological, safety, love and belonging, esteem and self-actualization needs.

The most important aspect of this theory, from the point of view of what’s happening to me, is that unless the “lower” needs are fulfilled, one has no energy and no real desire for the higher needs, like self-actualization.

Maslow’s hierarchy of needs is often portrayed in the shape of a pyramid, with the largest and most fundamental levels of needs at the bottom, and the need for self-actualization at the top.

The most fundamental and basic four layers of the pyramid contain what Maslow called “deficiency needs” or “d-needs”: esteem, friendship and love, security, and physical needs.

With the exception of the most fundamental (physiological) needs, if these “deficiency needs” are not met, the body gives no physical indication but the individual feels anxious and tense.

Maslow’s theory suggests that the most basic level of needs must be met before the individual will strongly desire (or focus motivation upon) the secondary or higher level needs.

Maslow also coined the term Metamotivation to describe the motivation of people who go beyond the scope of the basic needs and strive for constant betterment.

Metamotivated people are driven by B-needs (Being Needs), instead of deficiency needs (D-Needs).

And although I am mostly one of these metamotivated people, in the presence of a mosquito invasion (no safety), with frequent visits from my landlord (no respect), it’s been harder to concentrate and allocated attention and focus on being needs.

Thanks to the methodology I use in my courses, in spite of all this “invasion” I have been well and even productive.

I have been teaching with this methodology combined with an activator each session. The lessons were delivered in a webinar and the webinar recordings are available for purchase.

The best way to do this course is to do one webinar a week so you have time to practice the principles given in the homework.

The course is delivered in a membership site and you can sign up here

You can cancel any time. You get one lesson per week. If you do your homework, I can guarantee that your vibration will rise and your experience of life will change dramatically.

Go and buy it. The first week you’ll get 4 webinars, I want you to get all the background, and everything you need.

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