As difficult as dirty dishes can be, they’re even worse when you let them sit for a while. And the longer they sit, the harder they are to clean.

This is life. Something that is potentially easy to clean up right after it happens – an unkind word to your father, a lie to your best friend, an insensitivity to your girlfriend – can become a difficult mess if you don’t deal with it now.

Do the dishes today.

I have been thinking about Kaizen a lot. Kaizen can be the saving grace for a lot of people, because Kaizen is a way of life, a non-threatening way, but it is an awake way, and most of us are not awake, get jolted out of our sleepwalking by big things only. I am awake, and Kaizen is for me.

So I decided to use Kaizen to ease back into exercising. Since I stopped exercising, my face aged 10-20 years. That is a lot. I used to have no wrinkles, now I have folds, and wrinkles inside the folds… not pretty.

I have no special occasion to be pretty at, I just think that looking into the mirror should be a joyous occasion, not an occasion to berate myself.

So I am now doing 15 seconds of the exercise I used to do. I am happy. It is starting to show on my face. Hm.

Another Kaizen thing: in airplane bathrooms there is a sign that says something like this: would you be so kind as to use your paper towel to clean the sink before you throw it away?

Very Kaizen. Imagine going to the bathroom and someone’s soapy dirty washwater is still in the sink. (The airplane sink stopper needs to be manually lifted, otherwise it stops the water from emptying…) I would never wash my hand again on an airplane. But with that little Kaizen note, most 99% of the passengers follow the instructions, and everyone washes their hand. (I think that sign also reminds people to wash their hands, which many people don’t see a reason for… ).

And the third Kaizen example I read about in a Kaizen book, and it is about Toyota. The factory. They learned Kaizen from Americans… who would have thought… from Americans.

At Toyota, manufacturing cars happens on the assembly line. Nothing new there. In a normal assembly line everyone is concerned only about their part of the assembly, and the occasional errors are noticed and corrected, or not noticed and not corrected at the quality control station.

Toyota’s then CEO installed a rope switch above every workstation along the assembly line, where workers were asked to pull the rope every time they noticed an error in the work on the half-assembled car in front of them. The pull stopped the assembly line, they corrected the error, and pulled again to re-start…

It was a heretic idea, going counter with mass production. American auto manufacturers, that relied on quality control, had thousands of cars recalled, paid billions in restitution for tiny errors that weren’t corrected right after they happened.

Toyota went on to become the most reliable car. 250K cars are still sold and they run the highways: it is commonplace, while even an ‘error-free’ American car would be proud to run till 200K.

Which leads me to the ‘boundaries’ part.

It is still my cat that is on my mind. Or my previous failed relationship. Or my previous failed New Year resolution. Where, in all circumstances, I ignored, put up with, tolerated, shut a blind eye to a small aberration, a small violation of my boundaries, a little mistake, a little skipping… and they all became the core of a snow ball and destroyed an otherwise hopeful relationship, or my health, or my results.

Do the dishes soon after they get dirty. And stay awake. I have learned my lesson.

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If you have been involved in either therapy or counselling, or spirituality and meditation, in recent years you have probably encountered two basic, polarized viewpoints concerning personality. Essentially it amounts to this: therapists are pro-personality (and its improvement through healing neurosis etc.) while spiritual teachers proclaim personality a big waste of time, since neurotic or not, you are more than your personality.

This is not particularly surprising, since therapy and counseling tend to be concerned with the individual, while spiritual practices are concerned with higher matters. But it does lead the novices and beginners into a quandary where they are faced with the decision of what to do about personality. On the one hand, therapy could be an expensive, futile effort to better the personality, whereas, on the other hand, spiritual practice may offer an excuse to leave personal problems behind, with the justification that you are moving on to more lofty concerns.

In the extensive time I have been engaged in therapy and spirituality I can say that I have discovered the answer to this controversy! And I don’t say it without reluctance and a certain caution, since my answer is liable to offend both camps — therapists and spiritual teachers. Perhaps my answer is less a rejection or abandonment of one viewpoint for another and more of a synthesis. This may be an answer of the best kind – the kind that doesn’t marginalize or dismiss anyone’s experience or viewpoint. For my answer, while radically new and innovative, does not fundamentally disagree with either point of view, but considers each appropriate to the complex, total unfolding process of our human nature and potential.

My answer to the dilemma is to propose a third band of human experience. I call this “the authentic self” and since I am not using any unusual words I need to define this term, because I do mean something specific. The authentic self, in the way I use the term, is the bridge between the personality and the spiritual self. It is arrived at usually, but not always, after a lengthy period of intensive, deep, applied and consistent inner work. This inner work consists of a journey of self-discovery in which one circumvents the self, becoming increasingly aware of the conscious and unconscious material that comprises one’s sense of self, or ego. This involves character, which is essentially defensive strategy or an intelligent, protective reaction to early conditioning, which becomes increasingly calcified and adapted throughout adolescence and adult life. Character is composed of the way in which we survive and protect ourselves from inner and outer stimuli and ultimately avoid really meeting life. It creates a self-imposed prison — limitations in which we feel falsely safe.

Self-discovery also involves cultivating our awareness of personality, or the way in which character (defenses and strategies) is experienced. Both inwardly and outwardly we erect a barrier to experience — life events and other people — which is a mask, façade or persona which eclipses the real person, or our true nature.

We also raise emotional and behavioural patterns out of the murky stratum of the unconscious, out of unawareness, and see just how much our life is lived automatically, as an automaton without real human response, emotional feeling, resonance, empathy or even awareness.

The process of self-discovery involves witnessing, reliving and remembering, practicing awareness and releasing pent-up emotions, returning the bodymind, through self-regulating, self-healing and self-referral, to a natural state of balance, ease and relaxation, and opening to insight and experience. In the short-term the experience is enriching, enlivening and full of dramatic changes. In the long-term through achieving personal wholeness, soul nourishment and insights we reach a threshold, a bridge, a chasm – all variously transitional metaphors that signify a quantum leap, a fourth dimensional change that I have termed “the threshold of transformation”.

The significance of this threshold, and what distinguishes it from all the changes that have gone before, is that is effects are irreversible — it is a step from which there is no going back. Once taken, this step across the threshold will lead you to the condition of authenticity and intimacy with your own true nature.

This insight renders the controversy about personality redundant. But it does depend on our ability to clearly distinguish the psychological from the spiritual.

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In a Landmark Education Course I took back in 1987, I learned that it is possible to live life from a new context: “Life is a conversation”

It is quite simple if you can wrap your mind around it, incredibly difficult if you are attached to the way you see the world.

Humans, you, live as if we knew reality. As if we could know reality. But the truth is: reality, if it exists, is unknowable, it is beyond anyone’s knowledge.

So the way we are trying to gather knowledge so we can more accurately describe how it is, is just being a better peon, a better slave, never the master, never the creator we were meant to be.

We look for the meaning in things, or we already know what things mean, but what if that is really the way life can’t change for us, and all we can do is all we can do?

“Life is a conversation” means that nothing inherently means anything, that the meaning of things isn’t fixed. It also means that for life to change, you need to change the conversation you have about it.

After the weekend course I set out to test it out.

I worked as an architect for hire in Lower Manhattan, so I had to walk about 30 minutes from the train to get to the office. On my way I decided that “ownership” is a conversation, just a piece of paper, but it is also a conversation. I am the owner of that firm… I decided to come from this new conversation.

As owner I noticed litter on the carpet, noticed when people were chatting on the phone, pretending to work. In addition to get my own work done much faster and better, I also reminded people to work…

At the end of the day the owners, two young women, called me into their office. I was scared.

Turns out they called me in to thank me and praise me. This was pretty much the first praise from a boss I got in my 17 years of being employed as an architect, by the way.

Weeks after this conversation, the stock market crashed, and the firm lost most of their clients. But regardless, whenever they had any work for a freelance architect, they called me… all because of living life as if it were a conversation.

Every organization is composed of people with different ranks and positions. The leader is set to lead and direct while the members are the followers. Whatever your position is, you should take part and do your best for the organization to be able to achieve its internal goals and render a satisfying service to its clients. Excellent performance is not only required from leaders: all the members of the team should actively cooperate if the goal is to succeed.

It requires courage and other team values to be able to do your part with both the heart and mind set out for it. However, because this is a must so that you can influence others and lead them all to follow the quality of teamwork, you should learn how to be an active part in the organization you belong.

Know that there are points that set the leader distinct from the members. Basically, you have to have a clear knowledge and understanding of your own obligations as well as of others within the team. Always consider the boundaries of each ranks. Overlapping of tasks causes an insult to the other party who is supposed to take care of the things that you do.

The Role of the Leader

The leader’s role within the organization is very crucial. Being the leader, he is the one in the forefront. He should see far ahead to be able to stay away from the harmful elements that can cause the organization to fall down. He should also check out every part of the organization and see to it that they are working well together. He has duties as well as the rights to do what he deemed as right and appropriate for the whole organization. He gives commands, initiates plans, formulates goals and solves problems. A good leader should interact with the members of the team in a proper way. If he has to be an effective leader, he should relate with his followers and win their trust and obedience.

The Role of the Member

The members are the followers of the leader. What the leader initiates, they will follow. While every member of the team, including the leader, works hard, the performance of the members is always checked in order to ensure that productivity is high and the team is working as is expected of it. The people comprising the team are of different skills, and each one is placed in a position he or she is needed the most. Each member should have a sense of respect, trust and commitment.

Every rank is coupled with responsibility. Tasks may not be the same but the important thing is that each one will do his best.

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If you know me, you know that the misery I experienced in my life for 50 years drove me to many modalities of relief, including affirmations.

Affirmations don’t work for me. Never did and never will.

Why? Because affirmations are spoken from the mind: and the mind says so many things, a nice word here and there won’t make a difference. Just watch how much difference and how long a pat on the back does to you: not much, correct?

Life started to change when I learned different ways of speaking. I learned that there is descriptive language, and that includes the affirmations: the ordinary way of speaking of most people.

Then there are the active ways of speaking:

requests, promises, and declarations. This way of speaking does not come from the mind: it comes from your higher way of being: your vertical plane, your vertical self.

This kind of speaking creates a context that is inescapable.

Of course, this doesn’t mean that people won’t use request or promise sounding sentences, that come from the mind, a casual tool of babbling. They may even seem to declare something, but the power is missing.

I measure the power of your word in the Starting Point Measurements

The power of MY word is 70%… But even with that much power you need to know that what you say matters. If the mind says: ‘you are lying’, then it doesn’t matter how much power your word has… does it?

Any speaking that comes from the mind is mere chatter, and any speaking that comes from the Self is a command.

So then why do negative statements seem to have disastrous consequences: what the statement says seems to come true? Because those statements, when spoken in the absence of a commitment, the absence of a higher context, are the true description of where the speaker’s world is heading.

I often say: this won’t work… this is going to fail… but my actions are not consistent with those ‘affirmations’, they are consistent with making it work.

Your most important job, if you want your word to have power, is to learn to connect to your higher self (not god! not Jesus! but your own higher self), and speak from there.

Until then you are just littering the world with your affirmations.

‘What changes your focus: changes your faith. What changes your faith changes your outcome.’ ~ Jesse Duplantis

Let me start by saying that everything you say is some kind of affirmation – either positive or negative. When you complain to your friends, ‘nothing ever goes right for me,’ you are affirming to the world and the universe that nothing should go right in your life.

It’s true, you know. You are where you are today because of your beliefs, attitudes and words.

What you say today becomes your reality tomorrow. What you believe about yourself and your situation creates and maintains your world.

You may not like where you are right now. You may not think you deserve all the hassles, stress and problems. And you are right. But you are the only one who can change your life with affirmations.

It was a revelation to me that my lack of money, bad attitude and poor relationships were my own fault! It was life-changing to learn that I could change my circumstances by changing my words.

Over the years, I have learned to say certain things – affirmations – to cancel negatives and attract positive results. Here are six affirmations that changed my life.

1. ‘I will not be defeated and I will not quit.’ It is so easy to throw up your hands and say, ‘I tried.’ But ‘try’ is never enough. To win in any situation, you have to be prepared to stay with it until you do win! It’s a philosophy that applies to everything. Michael Jordan is perhaps the greatest basketball player ever. But he freely admits that he has lost more than 300 games and missed over 9,000 shots. But he never quit. Whatever you want, whatever you need to accomplish, don’t let your circumstances win. Don’t quit.

2. ‘I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me.’ Yes, it’s a Bible verse. But I use it all the time – when I’m tired and just want to give up (see #1!), when I’m faced with a problem that I don’t know how to solve, when I need physical strength to just get through the day. Sometimes I partner it with ‘I rest in God’s energy,’ drawing strength and resolve from the Eternal source of all energy and ability.

3. ‘I have the mind of Christ.’ The power here taps into Divine wisdom to solve seemingly unsolvable problems. God has answers to every situation. Affirming that connects your spirit with His wisdom. Patience allows Spirit to work on your behalf to bring the answers or change the circumstances to bring the solution you seek.

4. ‘I am rooted and grounded in Love.’

This one is particularly effective when I’m NOT feeling very loving. When someone interrupts ‘my’ routine, wants something from me that I don’t really want to do, or when I’m feeling selfish, I remind myself of my higher calling. I am rooted and grounded in love. I can set aside my wants and focus on the other person. God will take care of me. Use that as an affirmation, coupled with appropriate action to line yourself up for greater blessing.

5. ‘There is nothing lost in God’s world.’ Use this one where you are looking for lost keys, glasses or any misplaced item. It may take some time, but if you will let this work, a thought will pop into your mind to look… somewhere. And you will usually find exactly what you are looking for.
6. ‘God loves me and has a good plan for my life.’ Use this all the time, but especially when circumstances seem aligned against you. This affirmation helps to line up your thinking with the divine plan of blessing and abundance. It helps defeat stress by acknowledging the power of Divine assistance and direction.

Remember, you must stay consistent with your affirmations.

Think of your words like a bucket of paint.

If you are filling the bucket with negative (black) words, complaints and mumblings throughout your day, how much white (positive) words will you have to speak to get the color you want?

Don’t just think of affirmations as things you speak sometimes. Watch your everyday words to make sure you are speaking what you want. God explained it this way: call those things that be not as though they were (Rom. 4:17). By following His method of creation, you can re-create your own world with your words.

Words have power. They have the power to change your mindset. By changing your mind – your beliefs – you change your attitude. That leads to a change in your actions. Use the ‘A-team’ – Affirmation, Attitude and Action – to change your life.

Obviously this wasn’t my article… it was quoted by some god-fearing person. You need to find what YOU have faith in… if you don’t have faith in Christ or whatever….

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Hypnosis is mysterious and peculiar. It is not fully understood. Some therapists are taught a very diluted version of hypnosis and they market themselves with statements about hypnosis that are not true. They are true to the techniques they use, but not to hypnosis. Here are six common misconceptions about hypnosis and their relevance to effective change work. Some are encouraged by practicing therapists and some are just urban legends.

Hypnosis is a sleep like state

Hypnosis gets its name from the Greek God of sleep, Hypnos, which is misleading. Relaxation and sleep are two very common suggestions used in the induction process. The relaxed state you often see in hypnotised people is the acceptance of a suggestion, but it is not hypnosis. It is the effect not the cause.

In a stage show you will see the subjects slumped when the hypnotist is not using them, they look like they are asleep, puppets with their strings cut, yet as soon as the puppeteer gives them an instruction they jump to it – you do not do that when you are asleep. When they are doing what they are told as part of the performance – eating an onion or falling in love with a mop – in the reality that the hypnotist has given them they are in they still hypnotised and they are very definitely not asleep.

In therapy the client will spend a lot of time with their eyes closed in a relaxed state as in therapy the attention is turned inwards and so it makes sense to block out external stimulus, but they are not asleep, they are following instructions given to them by the hypnotist, rearranging their subconscious patterns and changing their lives.

A good therapist will ensure some sort of two way communication between themselves and the client so they can gauge the effectiveness of what they are doing as they go. This might involve talking with the client, asking for head nods or shakes or establishing Ideo Motor Responses which are tiny involuntary muscle movements – one for Yes and one for No. You cannot do that with someone who is asleep.

The most common phrase from a clients mouth when you wake them up is something along the lines of ‘that was weird’ – probably not the first phrase uttered each morning.

The Hypnotist cannot make you do anything you do not want to do!

Many hypnotherapists will claim this on their FAQ pages, they will tell you that you are completely in control throughout the session as many hypnotherapy schools teach this. Any therapist that claims this is not using hypnosis or they do not understand the tools of their own trade. Hypnosis is the acceptance of suggestion without question, without reservation, without inhibition and that is exactly why you go to hypnotist rather than a counsellor or psychotherapist which work with your conscious faculty at the pace you wish to go to try and get past problems – hypnosis removes your conscious critical faculty from the equation to get you fast results.

Let’s examine the term ‘want’. Let’s say you get a panic attack every time you are in a small enclosed space. You want to stop doing that but you can’t. If you really truly wanted to stop you would. So why is it not possible? Because there is a deeper want – part of your mind wants to keep you out of small enclosed spaces. Part of your mind, the part that is in charge, does not want to go into small enclosed spaces. Go and see a hypnotist though, and they can talk to that part of your mind and tell it that you will be okay if you go into small enclosed spaces without panicking. And you will feel fine after that. The hypnotist has made you do something that you do not want to do.

The same goes for any issue that you might want to see a hypnotist for – the process aligns your conscious desires with your subconscious resistance so there is no conflict.

It is a wonderful process that can do wonderful things for you but be sure you trust your hypnotist and chose them carefully.

Hypnosis is a completely natural state which you drift in and out of several times a day

For hypnosis to happen you need a hypnotist and a hypnotee. The thing that makes hypnosis hypnosis is the acceptance of the hypnotist’s suggestion without reservation, without inhibition. This cannot happen regularly throughout the day unless you are joined at the hip of a hypnotist who barks suggestions at you regularly.

Trance is often mistaken for hypnosis. Daydreaming is a form of trance. Autopilot that you slip into while driving a familiar root is a form of trance. Watching TV is a form of trance. Hypnosis is a form of trance, but trance is not hypnosis, not without a hypnotist there to drive it.

Hypnosis is when a hypnotist encourages your subconscious to become dominant over your conscious mind which is important because your subconscious can do anything, it does not know its limits, whereas your conscious mind has limits and it knows exactly where they are.

The hypnotist does not do anything to you, they just encourage the subconscious to come out and play, using your imagination and focus while persuading the conscious mind to sit back for a while. This does not happen several times a day. In a session with a good hypnotist you will have a new and different, weird and wonderful experience.

You can hypnotize yourself

Following the above logic, you cannot hypnotise yourself. You cannot bypass your own conscious faculty. You cannot stick your own finger to the end of your own nose without glue but a hypnotist can. It is very hard to consciously change a subconscious belief once it is formed as your conscious mind is a result of that belief – this is a bit like trying to pick yourself up off the floor. You need someone else to bypass that conscious mind for you.

Self hypnosis can be good to focus your attention, your energy and your self awareness, it can be good to really think about how you are seeing the world and to find new ways of seeing it, but it is not hypnosis – it is self-induced trance or meditation and it can do you the world of good, but it will not be as fast as hypnosis and is not the same thing.

Only the weak minded can be hypnotized

This misconception was quite possibly started by bad hypnotists who just wanted people to comply. It is not true. Hypnosis is more of a talent of the hypnotee than the hypnotist, it is a skill to be able to take someone else’s words as your own reality. It is a skill that some people have naturally, others can learn to be better at it and some people will never be able to do it. So what determines how good a hypnotee you are?

In a study by J. E. Horton et al entitled ‘Increased anterior corpus callosum size associated positively with hypnotizability and the ability to control pain’, he discovers that someone’s ability to be hypnotised depends on the size of the rostrum which is part of the brain within the corpus callosum which links the left and right hemispheres, the rational and creative parts of the brain. The bigger the rostrum the better a hypnotee you are; if your rostrum is small it may be that you cannot be hypnotized.

The best way to find out how hypnotizable you are is to spend some time with a hypnotist and try some things and this would be wise to do before investing a full amount in treatment. Do some tests and you have an idea how likely it is to work and a good hypnotist will give you the opportunity to find this out as this determines if and how they are going to be help you.

The other things that may get in the way on the day are: mood, rapport with the hypnotist, setting, things going on in your life and choice of inductions to name but a few, but a good hypnotist will work with you to get past these variables and if you can be hypnotised, you will be.

You can get stuck in hypnosis

If the stage hypnotist dies in the middle of the show, will you live the rest of your life in love with a mop? If the therapist walks out in the middle of a session and never comes back will you never ‘wake up’?

To take the therapy scenario first, your subconscious is bright, it is in control of so much all the time, it will realise that the hypnotist is gone and allow you to either fall into a comfortable sleep or ‘wake you up’ of its own accord.

In terms of your showbiz love affair with a mop, you may stay in love with the mop for a while, but your mind can still learn and there is more evidence that the mop is not actually a person worthy of your love than there is to the contrary and so you will process this and fall out of love quite quickly.

This is why the hypnotist needs to be clever in therapy as the effects in the session need to last. The suggestions that are designed to effect the rest of your life must be put in a way that will remain congruent with the way you experience life or the work that is done in the session will be undone over time. The change needs to be made and then your subconscious prepared for potential challenging times ahead so that it can run the new pattern even when the going gets tough rather than reverting habitually to the old pattern. The therapist cannot stop life from happening, but they can give you the tools to cope with whatever is thrown at you.

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Commitments are powerful. They are life transforming. When you commit to doing something, doors open and paths appear. When you commit in word and action, people appear to support you in your quest. Commitment leads to change. Decide what you are committed to and your life will change in that direction.

What is a commitment? Merriam-Webster, an Encyclopedia Britannica Company, defines commitment as “an agreement or pledge to do something in the future.” I like this definition because it does not include “obligation,” “financial risk,” or “emotional promise.” It is merely an agreement or pledge that you willingly and noncoercively have decided to do.

A true commitment involves a sense of “No matter what.”

No matter what happens, I will continue eating less food or specific food as required by this diet.
No matter how I feel, I will exercise several days for at least one hour every week.
No matter how my partner responds, I will maintain my own state of equilibrium and reduce my own stress.
No matter how much money I make, I will manage my bills and save a specific amount each month.
No matter how long it takes, I will develop the required skills and learn how to….
No matter how I feel, I will find a way to be happy in any given circumstance.

Happiness is a mental state. It is built on internal, not external, realities. Regardless of the external circumstances, we can choose to be happy in any given moment. In fact, there is a system known as the “Science of Happiness,” which seeks to apply the scientific method to determine what happiness is and how we might attain it. Wikipedia cites a quote from Martin Seligman and Mihaly Csikszentmihaly “We believe that a psychology of positive human functioning will arise that achieves a scientific understanding and effective interventions to build thriving in individuals, families, and communities.” The goal of this scientifically derived, positive psychology, is to enable others to thrive, not to just survive.

What would it be like for you to make a commitment to happiness? Do you believe you can actually make the choice and decide to be happy? Can you make this choice into an actual commitment? Can you decide that you are committed to being happy, no matter what lemons life might present you with?

Once you truly make a commitment, any commitment, the universe has a way of first showing you the opposite of what you are striving for. That means, you will be tested and you may be tempted to give up and forget your dream. But if you hang in there, hold on to your commitment – no matter what – miracles may happen. And you may find yourself so happy, most of the time, that you never believed such happiness was possible.

Are you willing to make a commitment to happiness?

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How To Manifest Anything or THE Missing Piece Of The Law Of Attraction Puzzle: …Or How To Be In Vibrational Harmony With Money, Love, And Success

How to Manifest Anything or the Missing Piece of the Law of Attraction Puzzle

We all want to manifest our wants and needs. We all want miracles. We all want some divine assistance to solve our problems. But…

How to Manifest Anything or the Missing Piece of the Law of Attraction Puzzle: Desire or How to Be in Vibrational Harmony With Money, Love, and Success

Some religions preach to you to suppress your desires. They say that it’s the root of all evil. Maybe even a sin. Christianity, Buddhism… to mention the ones I know. Kabbalah teaches you to awaken desire, that is how to manifest anything.

The question is: Does what those religions say benefit you? Or does it serve the powers that be?

• Are they correct to suggest that you squash your desire?
• That you extinguish your fire?
• Is happiness available when you are poor, sick, alone, and chaste?

Or is there a mistaken (or maybe evil and self-serving) interpretation in the midst of it? Are they on your side, or are they depriving you from your birthright: to have it all?

This article will examine that and provide you with the understanding of what’s between you and attaining your desire. It will show you how to manifest anything.

What is the spiritual function of desire? Is it good for you?

And how about wanting? The Law of Attraction?

Lots of people want money. More precisely, they want more money.

They turn to the Law of Attraction, and find out that your vibration needs to be in vibrational harmony with what you desire.

The first question we want to deal with, what is the difference between want and desire.

At first glance, there is no difference, would you agree? Want, desire, wish, hope… all seem to mean the same thing. The difference isn’t in the language you use. It is in the mindset. It is in the attitude. It is in the vibration of these seemingly same sentiments or attitudes..

Except that the vibrational frequency of these seemingly same activities is vastly different.

Want vibrates between 50 and 75 on the scale of consciousness.
Desire vibrates at 295
Wish vibrates at 295
Hope vibrates between 310 and 320

That is very interesting, wouldn’t you say?

The higher your vibration the more effective you are in life. the more you can have. the closer you are to perfection the higher your vibration is.

When your vibration is high,

• you sleep well.
• You look good.
• get along with people.
• your negativity is low.
• your ambition and energy is high.

But what creates a high vibration?

Something physical, or something inside you? It is clear that it is your attitude, it is how you look at the world, and yourself in it. When you change your attitude your vibration goes with it. Up or down, depending on your change.

And the higher your vibration, the easier you can manifest anything. And in this article, this is our focus.

So let’s analyze the mindset, the attitude that goes with these words. and also what makes something higher vibration that something so similar sounding.

Let’s first take a look at want or wanting from the point of view of mindset.

When you want, you can hear harshness. That is the first impression. Then you hear the I stressed as very important.

Want is a very ego based sentiment. It is ‘you’ that wants, and it stops with you. It speaks entitlement, just because you want it, it should be given to you.

It is like the baby crying for the bottle. Wanting tells me that you haven’t grown up, that you got stuck on the level that Nietzsche, a great German philosopher labeled ‘Infantile will to power.’

In that paradigm people are objects, only there to give you what you want. And if they don’t? you’ll complain that they don’t. Small dark world. You are either a tyrant or a victim. Switch on, switch off. Two dimensional. You can only force in this space of ‘want’, you cannot manifest anything.

Another thing that keeps the vibration low is that in the want, somehow, the lack of what you want is present. You want more, better, or different. It is designed to fix how it is.

When you want to fix something you are stuck on the level of what you want to fix.

It isn’t that you are free to choose what you want. you react. You react to the lack of it. You react from a stance of victimhood. You’re completely unaware, at this level of vibration, that the Universe is willing to give you everything you desire: wanting is not desire.

Let’s see how want and desire are different. That is the key to manifest anything.

Desire: How to Manifest anything

Desire is sleeping in most of us. Even though desire is the crucial element of initiating the ‘Light’ to come to you.

According to Kabbalah, in the beginning there was only the Light.

The nature of the Light is to give. Freely, abundantly, all the time.

For a long time it was OK for the Light to just be, but after a long time not having anything or anyone else, the Light decided to create a Vessel to bestow its gifts to. It was designed purely for receiving.

The Light created the Vessel and it was wonderful. The Light was giving, the Vessel was receiving, and it went on for a long long time, in peace and harmony.

But, unfortunately, like the glass has drops of water remaining on its surface after you empty it, the Vessel got ‘tainted’ with the essence of the Light, and it started to grow a desire to give. There was no one to give to, and it continued to receive, but its mood was shifting, slowly, but steadily.

A certain unwillingness was creeping in: it wasn’t happy just receiving any more.

At some point it said to the Light: No more. I want to earn my Light! Stop giving to me!

The Light obeyed and withdrew itself to a small point. At that point, what scientists call the Big Bang, the sudden change in energy, the Vessel broke into trillions of little pieces, and the physical Universe sprung into being.

The Vessel, still designed for receiving, but now wanting to earn its light, is the souls of humanity.

The souls, in human form, forgot that they wanted to earn the light.

Humans forgot that they wanted to give before they would receive. They forgot that there is the Light, desiring to give more than the souls are desiring to receive.

How is this knowledge going to help you to activate The Law of Attraction, i.e. receiving the Light?

How do you awaken your desire?

You can awaken desire for what you really need on both the physical and the spiritual levels. The importance of awakening true desire for the Light cannot be overestimated.

So where do you find your deepest desires? Desires live deep inside. opposite to wants which want to fix how it is.

When you ask a little boy what he wants to be, he will say pilot, fireman, or something like that, because they are not in need of fixing anything, they are free to dream, and their desire is not buried. Yet.

Here is how worldview kills desire

Then later ‘life’ takes over, negativity takes over, parental and other ‘guidance’ takes over, and you are reduced to solving problems in a hostile world, where if you don’t worry about yourself, no one will.

You are looking for stability, and physical and other selfish wants. These wants come from a place of no power.

You see other people who seem to have a good life. and you want that, because you don’t have it.

It’s a place of darkness, a place of scarcity, a place of wants and needs, and should and shouldn’t, and you’ll notice, that the Light isn’t activated. It is just getting darker, with occasional moments of sunshine, you get a break here and there, just so you can continue digging yourself deeper.

This is the world of wants.

You want to ‘graduate’ or better said, return, to the world of desire where you can dream for the sake of dreaming, not because you need what you dream about, but because you can. There is nothing to fix, because there is nothing missing, nothing is wrong, because you can, and you will, and you are strong and powerful, and the Light loves you.

As you see, before you can activate your capacity to desire, you need to rid yourself of your conditioning, of your scarcity thinking, of your negativity, that you picked up along the way.

You can’t just jump into desire from where you are

it is going to take some work on your belief system, on your habits of speaking and thinking and acting… but it’s worth it.

When you are done, you’ll be able to claim what is your due: dreaming, and your desires fulfilled. To manifest anything!

And here is an oral tradition story from Kabbalah on desire:

Desire is the Vessel for the Light.

Now is your chance to awaken your deepest desires. There is a fundamental lesson here, one that is often forgotten. The only way to draw Light is to have a Vessel, and the only Vessel is desire. To the degree that you awaken true desire, Light will be revealed.

If you don’t do the work of awakening desire, it will be very difficult to manifest the desired Light. So what you can do to accomplish that is the most significant step towards ensuring blessings in both the physical sense and the spiritual sense.

There is a story in the book of 2 Kings 4:1-6

that begins with a woman, the wife of a prophet, calling out to Elisha, one of the greatest of all the prophets. She says, ‘My husband has passed away. And because we are left with so many debts, one of the creditors wants to take away my children to be servants.’

So Elisha says to this woman, ‘Tell me what you have in your house.‘

She replies, ‘I have nothing left in my house except a small jar of oil.‘

Then the prophet Elisha tells her, ‘Go to all of your neighbors and gather all the cups and bowls and pans that you can find in their houses. Once you’ve gathered all these vessels, bring them into your house, close the door behind yourself and your children, and you’ll be able to fill up all those vessels. Just pour the oil from your small jar into all of those vessels.‘

She does as he told her. She collected the vessels from her neighbors, and then returned to her house and closed the door behind herself and her children. She took her one small jar and began to pour out the oil and just kept pouring.

Then she said to her son, ‘Bring some more vessels.’ When her son replied that there were no more vessels, the oil stopped flowing.

You can draw a clear understanding from this story.

As long as there were more vessels to be filled, the flow was endless. Once there were no more vessels, the flow stopped. So when I talk about the importance of awakening a desire, I want to be very clear about what this means.

You have to be full of desire. Not want.

In fact, the degree to which you may think you have desire is not even close to the true desire that you can have. Because of this, you may limit the amount of Light you receive. And this is something to which all of us are susceptible.

When I speak about desire, I wish to differentiate between two different forms. There is the Desire to Receive for the Self Alone: ‘I want more of this or more of that to make my ego more fulfilled. or to be more better different. more than my neighbors. I want others to admire me. etc,‘ or ‘I want to fix my health, my life, my financial situation because it’s wrong‘

This, obviously, is not the desire you need to awaken; on the contrary, you want to diminish those desires.

Instead, you can kindle the desire that is based on the Desire to Receive for the Sake of Sharing. This means you can ask for everything, but be very clear about why you desire it. If you desire something to fulfill your ego needs, that will not draw and reveal Light.

But if your Desire is to Receive for the Sake of Sharing, that is a true Vessel into which the Light of the Creator can flow. Yes, you can want more money. Yes, you can want more power. But why do you want it?

Let this be clear in your mind. If you want something because you want to share more of what you receive, then the flow will be endless.

How to manifest anything

Kabbalists teach us that in order to awaken a true Vessel, in order to awaken a true desire, you have to quiet the ego.

As long as your selfish desire is making noise, you will be without a true Vessel.

To truly build the Vessel that achieves the purpose — a limitless, endless Vessel — you need to quiet the Desire to Receive for the Self Alone and to awaken a true Desire to Receive for the Sake of Sharing.

You can awaken your desire for everything. When you do this, whatever blessings you might hope for will manifest more than anything you might ever hope for or imagine. This is how to manifest anything.

Your attitudes are hidden from you in your body, body posture, body feelings.

Before you can change your attitude you need to find how you express it in your body.

Here is a workshop where I was teaching how to feel your body and what it says

Feel your body

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Guidance: How to Ask And Get Guidance

I have been asking for guidance, ever since I discovered that I can.

According to Kabbalah, an 6000-year body of knowledge, the mistake I need to correct in this lifetime is thinking and behaving like there is nothing and no one who can know better than me.

My life had been, before my discovery, an exact match to that behavior, not very attractive, is it?

I had never asked for guidance, never listened to coaching, never supposed that anyone knew me, or my life better than myself.

In spite of the fact that I had paid out over 100K for counseling and coaching over the years. Most of those sessions were me talking, listening to myself, and making a decision, without any help from the other person. The incidents when I actually heard what they said ware so rare, that I actually remember the three occasions that it happened. I was that bad. And the advice I took was invaluable.

So contrast it with how it is today: I ask for guidance just about everything. My diet, my business, my relationships, where to move to when my lease is up, everything.

I have established a few true and tried channels of communication with The Ultimate Guide, but my main channel is movies.

The last guidance movie was The Bagdad Cafe.

I almost sent it back. It resonated under 150 on the map of consciousness, why on earth did I order it? But when I asked if I should watch it, the answer was a strong yes.

OK. I watched it. And let me tell you, the story was weird. The characters… anyway. It is a lot more fun to watch a movie and be able to be “multitask” by also looking for clues where the guidance is I asked for.

There were two main characters, one kind of like a character like Mary Poppins, drops down from nowhere, cleans up and life is juicy and wonderful with her. I could not identify with her: she was cheerful, indomitable spirit, tireless, fun, kind to all, and sexy. Nah, there can be no guidance there… I thought.

The other character was a depressed, unmotivated, “I don’t care” type of person, who felt powerless and blamed her inadequacies on others. Despicable, right?

The first woman left, and the place fell back to how it was before, no customers, no fun, no life.

Where is the guidance? I asked for guidance… Where was it?

Fast forward to this morning. I was sitting by my computer, I put on a pound yesterday (I broke my diet) and felt I ask for guidance about that.

I went to my guidance spot (the guidance comes fast and furious there) and went up to The Creator and asked for guidance. And the scenes of the movie started to play. back and forth. The clean premises, the littered premises. The clean premises with plenty of customers. The littered premises with no one in the parking lot.

Now, where is the guidance for my diet? You might ask, that is what you asked for guidance for, right? But it seems, that you get guidance for what you need guidance for.

When I opened my eyes, in the room where I do client sessions, is where my guidance spot is. I opened my eyes and I saw suddenly what clients see. Stuff, old and unused, on the shelves, in disarray, no rhyme and purpose, dusty.

The guidance was: throw away, clean up, create a “receiving dock” spotless and inviting. Like in the movie. Wow.

I have started the clean-up. I am sure my diet will take care of itself.

And will continue to ask for guidance on how to do this cleanup, exactly.

And when I’ll need guidance about that, it will come, fast and furious.

Bagdad Cafe’s theme song on youtube

here is an Italian/German speaking clip, but you’ll see the two main characters, and the state of the Bagdad Cafe… Watch it

And as it is with my favorite movies, I have them in the subscribers area of the site.

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Paris in the spring… nice thought.

Stay with me for a moment!

I am part of a study group. We go to seminars together to learn integrity so we can live an unpredictably great life.

This past Sunday, when the sun was shining and it was the first nice-weather weekend of the year, five out of the seven members of the group forgot to call our conference line on Sunday. Paris in the spring…

The seminar leader suggested we declare a breakdown. “What’s declaring a breakdown?” Asked one of the members innocently.

I volunteered to write a little essay (that is like a one-page scientific paper, lol) and sent it out to everyone. And then the s-h-i-t hit the fan.

No one remembered what ‘declaring a breakdown’ was, although we’d all done the seminar where that was taught.

OK, so what does that have to do with Paris in the spring? I am getting to it.

Why am I writing about this incident?

• One reason: breakdown is a lot like stuck. And you know that I unstuck people…
• Second reason: because most people have such a busy mind, you need a shoe horn to fit in any new thought. It’s permanent ‘Paris in the spring’ there.

Let me start with the second: I bet you are more interested in that. After all you are spending your hard earned money, or maybe even money you haven’t earned yet, on learning new things so you can earn more, love more, enjoy more.

And then it all was for naught. You didn’t learn anything.

The Story of the Fired Client

I fired a coaching client a week ago. It was a little hasty, I must admit, but she came to the calls, and she didn’t remember what we’d spoken before, she didn’t remember to do the practices I had given her… she was wasting her time and money.

The moment our coaching calls were over, she went back to her life, feeling better than before the calls, but not remembering any of it.

Or in the case of one of the exercises, she wrote down what she heard. And she remembered that.

That’s not bad, is it? Hey: I am with you on that. Except that what she heard is not what was said.

Huh? Exactly my sentiments. She heard not what was said but what she thought she heard.

So how can that happen? Was she dumb or something? Read on…

The experiment

There is a famous experiment done in front of a class of hundreds: the presenter asks the class: “close your eyes”. then he writes something on the chalk-board.

Then he asks for a volunteer and ask them to read what’s on the board.

The volunteer reads: “Paris in the spring.”
“Anything else?”
The volunteer says “Paris in the spring xx”.
“Anything else?”
“And there is also a border around it” tries the volunteer, puzzled.

“Come to the board, please.” The volunteer goes, sheepishly. “OK, now touch every word as you read it out.” says the presenter.

“Paris in the the spring…” the volunteer gasps.

Hundreds of people in the audience, none of them saw the second “the”. They all saw ‘Paris in the spring.’ Many heard the famous Sinatra tune in their head as well.

When you already know…

• When you already know what’s there, your mind will not bother to actually read it.
• When you already know what’s being said, your mind will not bother to actually listen.

And that is just one way of the few ways your mind prevents you from learning anything.

So how do you change that? How do you become someone who can learn?

You can do two things:

1. catch the thought: ‘I already know that.’ Remember ‘Paris in the spring’ and disable it
2. empty your mind energetically so you can get what’s being taught.
3. do both

My work is to empty your mind and teach you how to use your empty mind, this new powerful learning tool, to accomplish what has been eluding you: success.

Imagine what you could do with a quiet mind:

• you could meditate like a Tibetan monk.
• You could rid yourself of stress.
• You could pick and choose what to concentrate on, and this way
• manifest your heart’s desire, fast and effortlessly.
• You could be invincible to attacks, criticism, and judgmental people, including yourself.
• You could be present to your spouse or your children and suddenly hear them. Hear that they love you.
• You could learn. even the hard stuff, fast, so you can use it, and stop spending more and more money on something you should already know. Or be stuck in a menial job, because you don’t know enough.

It’s like medicine: when your body is clean and pure, you only need a little bit of it to cure you, when your mind is clear, you can learn what you need from just one course, instead of many, too many, if you ask me.

And then you could, maybe, visit, in reality, Paris in the spring.

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End Of Times, The Earthquake, The Tsunami, The Nuclear Threat, Hydrogen Peroxide, desire to receive for the self alone, A Spiritual Interpretation

Why did the earthquake in Japan happen, what about the tsunami and the threat of radiation from the nuclear plant, desire to receive for the self alone? A spiritual interpretation

There are two major attitudes that humans uses to look at an event. Both are desire to receive for the self alone.

• 1. personal. the question is asked? why me? how did I deserve this? or ‘father, why did you forsake me?’
• 2. global i.e. not personal. The tone is blame and ‘there is nothing I can do about it’ ‘I am not at fault’ and the like.

Both attitudes are faulty and driven by ego and a profound misunderstanding of how it all works.

• 1. On the personal level, though there is karma, there is cause and effect, the cause is so far removed (decades, often lifetimes) that the connection is hard if not impossible to see.
• 2. On the global level: you are responsible for all of it. Your attitude, your actions (or inaction), your unwillingness to do something, to say something has a deadly effect.

Your pretense that there is nothing you can do about it strengthens the forces behind chaos, and weaken the chances for the light to win this battle for power and dominance.

Here is the interpretation that takes both sources of erroneous thinking into consideration about the earthquake in Japan, the tsunami, etc.

On Earth, the dark side, the forces behind chaos, haven’t been opposed to for eons.

Certain cultures did oppose it, like the American Indians, but only on the level of belief.

The main force, an attitude, is called ‘desire to receive for the self alone’

When a person (industry, country) thinks that they can bore a hole in the bottom of a shared vessel… that is desire to receive for the self alone.

The beautiful saying attributed to President Kennedy: ‘the tide lifts all boats‘ has a flip-side: the ebb lowers all boats. America and Americans are famous for acting as if that weren’t a fact. ‘I am OK, I am glad it didn’t happen here’. It is  desire to receive for the self alone.

Desire to receive for the self alone is like entropy: it causes things. It causes structures to disintegrate. Groups, marriages, partnerships, industries, truth, trust, morals, ethics, and whole countries.

If your stomach said: I don’t care about my heart! I want to keep all the food for myself… that would be desire to receive for the self alone. But if you look carefully, that’s exactly what happens in the body when cancer cells survive the vigilance of the immune system. The cancer cells start to hoard, nutrition. water, without regard to the whole.

Cancer cells are the perfect example for the desire to receive for the self alone.

We can say, as an organism, humanity is infected with cancer, because we think we are separate. ‘We are interconnected’ exists only as a slogan, mind candy, not like a truth to live by.

Just like when the immune system kicks back. Kicks back because, let’s say, you start a cleanse, or stop eating sugar, or stop watching television, you are going to experience, as an individual, a healing crisis; it is to be expected on the global level.

In our generation the number of individuals who comprehend this interconnectedness is suddenly multiple of a normal generation.

The number of people who remember unconditional love, who remember the one source, is becoming larger and larger.

This is the first generation in written history (or maybe the second if we count the times of the destruction of the Temple in Jerusalem) that is suddenly becoming conscious.

The first was beaten down by the Romans, by plagues (remember of the story of Rabbi Akiva’s students?).

This time we can expect upheavals of the same proportion, except that because of the speed of communication now, we’ll feel it way before it gets to our continent, to our state, to our city.

When the light and its soldiers (like the immune system against cancer) push back, you can align yourself with it, or you’ll perish.

So, in a way, it is the end of times.

but like everything in the Bible, it is open to many interpretations. and no one can profess to know the truth. it doesn’t say what we’ve been preached, it simply means the light decided ready to fight back.

I am one of the soldiers of the light.

What side are you on? If you are not with the light then you are against it.

Sorry, it is decision time.

So what does being with the Light look like?

Simply, being mindful of another. It’s actually an attitude, just like ‘desire to receive for the self alone’ is an attitude.

Here are a few examples of how to be on the side of the Light.

• Be on the side of your child when they are having a difficult time.
• Be on the side of another driver when they drive at 28 miles an hour in a 45 m/h zone
• Be on the side of another person and slow down enough to meet their eyes before you bark some instruction or say what you want

  • Keep the rules of kindergarteners. Share everything.

    Play fair.
    Don’t hit people.
    Put things back where you found them.
    Clean up your own mess.
    Don’t take things that aren’t yours.
    Say you’re sorry when you hurt somebody.
    Wash your hands before you eat.
    Flush.
    Warm cookies and cold milk are good for you.
    Live a balanced life.
    Learn some and think some and draw and paint and sing and dance and play and work some every day.
    Take a nap every afternoon.
    When you go out into the world, watch for traffic, hold hands, and stick together.
    Be aware of wonder.
    Remember the little seed in the plastic cup. The roots go down and the plant goes up and nobody really knows how or why, but we are all like that.
    Goldfish and hamsters and white mice and even the little seed in the plastic cup ~ they all die. So do we…

I have been struggling with a cold. For a month or so. I don’t take medication, not even vitamins, and I even use herbal medication with restraint. This way I can use my body as a testing laboratory for a lot of my theories.

I have a theory that you can wake up your immune system. Your body’s killer cells use hydrogen peroxide to kill the invaders. They kill them and then they swallow the dead invader. Phagocytes

So I have been experimenting with hydrogen peroxide. A few drops into my ear, allowing it to bubble for a few minutes, that’s it.

My theory is that the moment the popping sounds begin the immune system says: there must be an invader, let’s send the troops there.

So, in addition to the direct effects of the hydrogen peroxide, it does something that you would not expect: it signals an invader and alerts your body’s defenses.

It is documented that administered according to a protocol, small quantities of hydrogen peroxide actually eliminates cancer.

My only explanation is that the body wakes up, and stops being complacent and behave as if no one damaged OUR planet, and starts cleaning up.

The earthquake in Japan is a kind of popping sound that could wake us up that it’s time to attend to the job: cleaning up our act.

Got it? If you are up to it, you heard it. If you aren’t… well… I wasn’t talking to you: your desire to receive for the self alone is too strong

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